"Crush-Addiction"

[Hellhound]

yea i soppose so but for me its not so much a crush its a connection ..

Something like this. I don't get crushes on people, but I become very attached if I have that connection with them. With others there's no connection at all, no matter what. I don't know why it happens... Sometimes I get this feeling like I already know them for years, when in reality I probably know them for a short time. With others (those who i feel there's no connection) I'm completely indifferent.

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

i have a lot of crushes but it lasts for a long time.. >.>

 

[Luna1740]

I have the same thing going on with me, I've liked at least 20 different girls in the last month, it is really strange

 

[GaryUranga]

Yeah I used to get this a lot, when you get more into people, as in you learn that you can be itnerested in more tan a surface impression you get. It goes away, however I still get those a lot, theyre awesome I have to say.

 

[nunvangus]

YES!!! This is exactly what im like. I would say i am very much addiced to infatuation, which only ever lasts a few weeks **maxium**.
Most of the time ill meet a guy think i really like them, they will be stuck in my head for dayssss... Ill meet them a few times then i start to reaslise i dont like them as much as i thought i did.... hmmm very weird i know. Then i always seem to meet someone else and the same thing happens again and again!!!

I met one guy a few weeks ago thought i really liked him then after spending some time with him i got bored now ive met someone else who is all up in my head!!!!

Maybe its because i get bored easily (which i do with many things in life)... who knows? But i kinda like being like this... i love that feeling of really liking someone (even if it doesnt last) Relationships get boring after a while i much prefer short intense infatuation xxx

 

[Tiercel]

Could it perhaps be that the crushes you have on people are unconscious attempts to find friendship, love and someone to relate to?

With me it's not so much unconscious as it is automatic. At least with women. As long as I can remember I've been interested in girls. I remember in kindergarten I liked this one girl who tied herself to her chair and tried to walk around like that. I still don't know if that's because I thought she was special or "special."

But anyway, I've always been too shy and afraid to actually talk to any girls. So I used the only thing left to me to judge them with: my eyes. And that doesn't mean I was always attracted to the most physically attractive girls.

Actually, I've just blanked out on where this whole post was going. ::

But what the heck, I'll post it anyway. Maybe some people will enjoy that bit about the girl tied to the chair. And I still remember that her name was Desiree, she was blonde, and she was wearing a blue dress at the time. I think she had blue eyes, too.

Now do you see why I must resort to a passing crush to feel loved?

 

[Silentknight]

Wow I thought I was the only one who did this allthough I call it Crush-Obsession because I kind of obsess over the person I have a crush. ^_^

 

[Brightinfinity]

I tend to become infatuated with people for their looks, but then realize that I don't really like their personalities. Either that or they get a girlfriend so I don't have a chance anyway.
I also typically get over crushes quickly, especially since I don't really know most of the people I get crushes on. I can't work up the courage to talk to most of them except over Facebook or email.

 

[LaLaLa]

I usually crush on guys that give me occasional attention or someone I used to talk to. They have to have a certain attitude about them and they can't be too mean or too nice. I guess I like a guy that has a good balance of both sides btu leaning more towards the nice side, like a nice badboy. These days, since I hardly get to know anyone new, I've been having the same old crushes on the same old people or on someone from the past that I didn't already have a crush on, that's if I see them online.

I guess I could say I have a bit of a crush-obsession but I don't think I crush too easily(as desperate as I am :: ). A typical crush lasts for about a month. It varies, my shortest crush lasted for a few days (after finding out the guy was younger lol). My more intense ones last for longer, and its an on and off thing which kind of drags on...

 

[HopelessStranger]

I am the #1 Crush Addicted person in the universe.

 

[da_illest101]

yea i have that problem, i currently have a crush on two girls at my job, one is very slim and the other is quite a large woman but both very pretty. Lol doesn't matter i won't get any of them

 

[improperdancing]

I've had a few crushes (on guys I barely knew) that were so intense, I would still fantasize about them several months after the last time I saw them. It'll persist even after reaching a point when I can barely remember what they look like. This can't be normal.

 

[Richey]

yeh this used to happen to me alot until i realised i'm probably out of their league after i hear them talking about their nights out with boys they REALLY like and how they describe them i then realise i probably don't have a chance in hell, i tend to be the boy they would want maybe as a friend if i'm lucky enough to be accepted, sad but true ...

so now if i have a crush i realise its unlikely i'm going to have a chance unless i know the girl really well and we've built some sort of semi friendship ...

even occurences of small talk or general conversation with a girl that shows interest doesn't mean alot in my experience ..

so i've realised its pointless having a crush at all

i just don't think i'm sexy enough to be the smooth ladies man type, i feel a bit too ordinary and nerdy in these situations and i imagine that she probably likes someone else who is better than me anyway ...

i've had a couple of situations where girls had crushes on me and followed me around which felt exciting but that doesn't happen anymore.

 

[Littlewilly]

Yes I've bin there many times in the past.
Women i hardly kno & suddenly i can't stop thinking bout them & 1 ov them lasted many years "oops!" whether itz shyness,infatuation or obsession ? i don't really kno but i think now it has really turned my life upsidewaysdown.
With me i would getta crush on sum1 & with this 1 particular crush i had on this gal at work 1nce weni woz 21 she had bin working there 4 bouta year & she ment nothing 2me at 1st altho i thort she woz tasty i suddenly fell 4 her bcause i thort she did'nt like me 2much but then she spoke 2me 4 a bit 1day & then as i say i fell but i did'nt take the op 2 speek or approach her agen incase she ignored me agen & after a couple of months she left & i still kept thinking bout her 4 a longtime(won't say howlong-woopz) even fantisized we were living 2gether & children & wenu do things like that u missout on other or real opz. Jus shows wat obsessions can do.
Now i pay the price::

 

[Adammm]

I think i've been guilty of this in the past. Looking back, i would say i've had proper crushes on 7 different girls in my life (first one at age 11 :, the shortest one lasting just a couple of months, but the longest one lasting about 3 years. Back in school i found crushes would develop from looks alone, since i was too shy and quiet to ever talk to the girls in question. However in the last few years (where i've been a lot less shy) i've found that i only develop a crush on someone after i've began to get friendlier and closer to them... on a couple of occasions i think i've also picked up the wrong signals from a girl that she may be interested in me, which hasn't helped at all.

Since my last crush (stopped liking her about 9 or 10 months ago) i haven't developed a crush since then. My last crush was particularly painful, so i've kinda sworn to myself that i'm not going to fall for a girl so easily again. And so far it has worked! But at the same time i haven't met that many new girls in the past year or so.

 

[jaixo]

This happens to me, sometimes. I think because people so rarely acknowledge my existence, I automatically assume that if a guy tries to start a conversation with me (which never goes smoothly :/), he likes me. But honestly, I think I'm just desperate for closeness, even though I know from experience that relationships (of any sort) aren't my forte. It doesn't happen as often as it used to, but still.

 

[hippiechild]

Guys, could having crushes on people maybe be a way of looking for love?

Think about it...

also, it's probably the type II form of affection-dependency or a variant of attraction-fixation with rapidly cycling foci.

 

[MM1980]

I can totally relate to this! Not only do I form these rediculously strong crushes on guys, but I always seem to "choose" unavailable guys. I can't tell you how many married men I've "fallen" for... and hard! I know that I can't get with a married man and trust me when I say that I would NEVER do something like that. As much I just want to be loved and accepted I think that's outweighed by not wanting to be the other woman.

 

[staticreflex]

I think someone should form a "crush addiction" support group! I have had a serious crush on someone for my entire life (except the last few months, which feels great actually.) Not for the same person, but it always feels the same. Its always someone that has shown some small interest in me but with whom I will never get to be with. I think I was addicted to the feelings of pain and inadequscy that comes with unrequited love rather than actually caring about them as a person.

They don't spring up spontaneously, the person has to do some small thing that shows they may be interested in me (it can be as small touching my arm, or telling a friend that I am cute.) In a few days it will bloom in to a full out crush and I can start to obsess about them more and more. I know intellectually that it is entirely rediculous, but that doesn't stop it. I used to be a chain crusher and learned that the fastest way to get over one crush was to start another one with someone else.

 

[Lost Girl]

I get crushes on people easily, it's always been that way. Throughout high school I would get the hugest crushes on guys then I would find out that they like me and *poof* it's all over, can't stand the guy! Anyway, got a hubby and a child now so all crush-worthy men and women keep away please *pokes stick at the crowd*