Can't exactly lie

recluse

Well-known member
I've been a member of a dating site for a while and i'm shocked that i am recieveing a few messages. The dilemma is that most of them mention in their messages they are looking for a guy who lives life to the fullest and so on............Wtf am i supposed to say when i obviously don't live life to the fullest?! I can't exactly lie and say i am some party loving social animal can i! What can i say when the inevitible dreaded question ''What do you do on weekends?'' comes up.....Ummmmmmm i spend it online!

There's going to be a point where perhaps i would meet one in person and then i won't be able to lie.

What can you do when 99% of the population want a funny, outgoing, confident guy?

I tell you this world is not for socially anxious people.....And to think it's a so called dating site for shy people!
 
Yeah, I hear you.
I am not a member of dating sites but I must admit I get a little envious of hearing
what great time people had over their weekend and I was sitting at home in front of
the computer or with school.

I guess I would say just be honest. Lying is too tiresome :D
 

lyricalliaisons

Well-known member
That's just weird. If it's a site for shy people, you wouldn't expect anyone wanting to be with someone who was super social & if they do, why are they on a site for shy people? That makes no sense.
 

philly2bits

Well-known member
Be up front and honest at the beginning. If someone can't like you for who you are then they are not worth your time to get to know any better. Like Emily_G said, not all women are looking for a party animal. Some women may prefer a man who stays at home. In the end they will like you for who you are, not what you do on the weekend.
 

Emily_G

Well-known member
Not all girls want a "party loving social animal". :) Just be honest.

My idea of living life to the fullest is having some kids, raising them, and growing old with my husband. A very simple, quiet and very happy life....that's my dream.
 

Krista

Well-known member
What can you do when 99% of the population want a funny, outgoing, confident guy?



You wait for the 1% and have faith. It's hard, excruciatingly so but it'll be worth it. What else can you do but give up, giving up is thinking you'll never find someone when there is someone out there for everyone.

Should explain a bit more in case I get flak for that statement. I don't mean that everyone is destined to be with one certain person but I do believe that out of the billion or so people in this world there is going to be one person who meshes well with you. At least a couple people in that case. It's all about playing the waiting game if you feel it's worth it.
 

Hellhound

Super Moderator
Maybe they weren't refering to confidence when they said "lives life to the fullest". I mean... if it's a site for shy people, it kinda makes no sense o_O; They either meant something else and they worded it wrong or they just joined the wrong site.
 

recluse

Well-known member
Just to add, i have got it down on my profile that i am a shy guy so it must not repulse too much....I don't think they know how shy i am though.
 

TheLostCause

Active member
Just explain your situation in your profile, and at the end of your write up, tell them if they have any problems they can take a run and jump. The internet is the easiest place to be honest. If they don't like what you have to say, then won't get in touch anyway.
 

phobiadictates

Well-known member
I think people like us people who are lacking in social skills have more difficulty in lying also. When I look around everybody lies without any doubt even their eyes lie.but we cannot. dont lie and continue on your own
 

da_illest101

Well-known member
I think people like us people who are lacking in social skills have more difficulty in lying also. When I look around everybody lies without any doubt even their eyes lie.but we cannot. dont lie and continue on your own

well, i'm a great liar when it comes to ditch work ::p:

you know what I do, i put the truth about me on my profile, because when i received email like u did, I was just like but i don't go out... . F it, you want a girl to like you for who you are? then put the truth, when someone is not interested they usually just ignore the profile
 
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