Are you intimidated by the opposite gender?

[NightTimeForever]

I know I am, and I'm definitely sure that other people have a negative view of me after they sense that. Thoughts and/or experiences with this?

 

[Darryl]

Good question, with many answers all contradicting myself!?!

Females are my opposite gender and depending on the person I find them to be warm (Those that have mothering instinct or are happy so that you can inhale their energy)

Men, again....depending on the personality, but in general I need to feel that there a good person.. or need help- then without question.

Confused... I am!

 

[Beatrice]

Yesssss. I feel so awkward around men. I don't know how to act or what to say! And yeah, it may have something to do with the fact that I grew up without a father, but who knows.....

 

[alwaysrunning]

Sometimes...it also depends i cant stand when guys i dont know very well attempt to hit on me i always feel that they are
a.)either do it because they feel pity for me or
b.)they are making fun of me or doing it on a dare

This is probably because both happened in H.S needles to say that shot my self esteem down the drain. However just like with girls it will take me time to build friendships but anything other than that i start to get even more awkward than usual....and when i am interested in someone yeah that hasnt happened often(i think two years ago) didnt end well either.....ayyy but yeah awkwardness and intimidatio around these situations suck and makes you feel like a complete social failure =/

 

[SomeUsernamesAreJustSilly]

From what I understand about people most everybody feels that way. I know that "at least with males" we learn that the only way to go about finding dates etc is to go and put yourself on the line and face possible rejection. Of course, it doesn't bother some of us as much as others but it is a huge deal for a lot of guys and they have to force themselves to talk to women. We don't like being rejected but it happens and it is depressing but what can you do? If you quit you loose and at least if you put your neck on the line it is possible that things work out.

 

[hoddesdon]

From what I understand about people most everybody feels that way. I know that "at least with males" we learn that the only way to go about finding dates etc is to go and put yourself on the line and face possible rejection. Of course, it doesn't bother some of us as much as others but it is a huge deal for a lot of guys and they have to force themselves to talk to women. We don't like being rejected but it happens and it is depressing but what can you do? If you quit you loose and at least if you put your neck on the line it is possible that things work out.

That is absolutely true. I read recently that 75% of men have clinical social phobia when they are attempting to approach women. That is confined to that particular situation, of course.

 

[Kiwong]

I am intimidated by

high school aged children
stridently negative and judgemental people

There are few people I am not fearful of, but they are those kind few who I feel relaxed around. These people have been male and female.

I am intimidated by the fear of rejection or ridicule.

 

[Bloir]

Yes, I was usually intimidated by men but currently i dont give power someone only by it is gender.
I could be very nervous if a man spoke me. If he was handsome, even worse...

 

[MrJones]

Yes, yes, yes.

I feel very awkward when talking to women (especially those who I find attractive) but now I feel more comfortable around them as I don't care that much about what other people can think about me (it's strange, but it's working )

 

[Moke64916]

No. I respect every person male/feale for who they are despite their flaws. I look at the potential in my fellow man rather than faults.

 

[fitftw]

I'm intimidated by anybody. I'm always paranoid that someone is going to jump me or say something hurtful so I just avoid social situations as much as possible.

 

[Heekaru]

I'm more intimidated by same gender..

 

[Shant]

It's very strange for me - I used to be like this when I was in 6th Grade or so, but nowadays I'm not. I'm indiscriminate, I fear all people equally. I'm no more intimidated by the opposite gender than I am with the same gender - if anything, I'm more intimidated by the same gender.

I have a lot of gender and sex related psychological issues, which might have something to do with it. It's rather complicated.

 

[WantToHide]

I feel really ugly and inadequate when I'm around attractive men

 

[MoniqueNS]

Yes! But I guess I get intimated by girls too. I don't want to generalize, but I find they are much more judgmental. But I am the most intimidated by attractive guys I think. I give other power way too much power.

 

[userremoved]

Yep, especially if I look them in the eyes, then I'm likely to forget what I was talking about or become extremely clumsy. I still cant forget how I walked straight into a glass door because I caught a cute woman looking at me. If I was cool I could have played it off, but instead I kinda slinked away. >.>

 

[Phoenixx]

This is kind of a tough one for me. Sometimes I feel intimidated by guys, especially those that are attractive. But other times I feel totally at ease around them, more so than girls. Usually girls tend to intimidate me a bit more, maybe because I'm comparing myself to them? I don't know. I'm just weird I guess.

 

[Arthur_Dent]

This is mostly why I'm here. I have friends IRL, I can speak very well in public, I don't blush, I don't fear crowds. Damn, I've even worked as a salesman succesfully. But when it comes about socialize with woman, I just can't. I haven't had a female friend since I was five years old.

 

[FountainandFairfax]

I’m intimidated by everyone equally. The older I get, the easier it is to be around people who are younger though.

I can now maintain healthy eye contact with 6 year olds. Ha Ha

 

[MrJones]

Some people (including me) have said we're more intimidated by attractive people. Maybe we're afraid of being inferior because of our low self-esteem? It's stupid, we're not!