Are we more sexually active than "normal" people?

stalker_in_sydney

stalker_in_sydney

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I'm 21 male in Sydney.

I'm an extremely shy and asocial animal but I often hang out alone in strip-clubs and pubs where I meet women who give me satisfation to my fantasies in exchange of money ofcourse.. I'm a real evil devil as far as sex is concerned.

Do socio-phobic people share any characteristic of being highly sexually active, who have dirtiest kinky fetishes and often fantasize about new things in bed?

Let's see what you say how you evaluate yourself in context of sexual fantasies?
 
Argamemnon

Argamemnon

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I used to have a high sex drive when I was younger. I think sexual activity for social phobics is mainly limited to masturbation.
 
Pamela

Pamela

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I think that they do as it's a way of being in control. It's called being a sex addict maybe you might want to google it and see what info you find. I'm sure people with SA would have different addictions at different times in their lives to help them cope with their life.
 
dpr

dpr

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It could be you're just sexually frustrated or something, but maybe you really do have an addiction, if you're using sex as a way to escape from reality, or as a way to make yourself feel better or feel worthy of attention. Do you feel like it's interfering with your life?

It's weird, because I have always been sexually compulsive even from when I was a little kid (like around 7 years old). When I was first diagnosed with SP, I wondered if others with SP had the same sexual compulsiveness as I did, but I find for the most part this is not the case. They don't go hand in hand. When I first read about sex/love addiction, I thought to myself, "That's it. That's me they're describing."

A lot of people call it sex addiction, but others call it sex/love addiction which I feel is more appropriate, because it's not just the sex that dfrives people like us to compulsive behaviors, it's love or the idea of love. For me, the sexual attention from someone else makes me feel worthy and gratified, like I'm worth something. Of course this is only short-lived and then I am reminded of reality and the guilt and shame slowly creep into my head.

Maybe you should check out this forum:

http://www.psychforums.com/viewforum.php?f=170&sid=1a0cfb59445f857f3e37ace36dfc6acc

It has been helpful for me.
 
Remus

Remus

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cant say I've every been desperate enough to risk my sexual health with a hooker, cant you just like crack one off to porn Stalker? its cheaper and safer lol
 
Slothrop

Slothrop

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Do you see your behavior as a result of your anxiety? i.e. do you do this because you find it difficult to form more socially acceptable relationships, as opposed to doing it because your sexual appetite is simply excessive?

I for one don't feel there is a connection, but for those whose anxiety revolves more around close personal relationships more than interactions with strangers, it seems like it would be a common coping strategy. I can imagine the appeal of the situation, where there is no real risk of rejection and no complicated demands on you socially. It allows you some of the fruits of a real relationship without having to open yourself up at all.

As for fetishism, I think that anyone with a lot of free time alone and an internet connection has a chance to develop any number of kinks and fetishes. There's nothing particularly wrong with that, but without the checks and balances of a partner it can turn into a preoccupation and obsession.
 
Felgen

Felgen

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Men with anxiety don't have many sex partners. Some even die virgins. Most women with anxiety seems to have a normal number of sex partners, but many are taken advantage of because of their naivity.
 
lonely_drummer

lonely_drummer

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From my experience I wouldnt say that Im more sexually active than normal people, I would say Im alot more sexually wishful since I havent had sex in 4 years
 
lyricalliaisons

lyricalliaisons

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My answer to your question would be no. I know myself & several others on this site who are in our mid to late 20's & still virgins because we're so afraid to interact with people.
 
Damaged

Damaged

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Hmm i've always been sexually active, but when my agoraphobia developed i lost all of it, because i just wasn't happy, was putting on weight, the thought of sex actually made me wanna be sick :( Was a horrible time for my bf at the time.

But once i started feeling more happy, confident and positive boom its all come back
 
talisman

talisman

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Well I'm still a virgin, but I do have a healthy sex drive, just no one to have sex with. I think being a very frustrated virgin makes me think even more about sex.

Sadly, I think SA people are in generally less active or interested sexually. A lot seem to be asexual, others very shy about expressing sexuality and tbh there's quite a few with rather conservative views on sex. This is perhaps why I never feel I fit in well in these SA communities, because I do tend to think about sex a lot and love to talk about it, especially with women, but not many other people do.
 
H

Hadron

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I'm a virgin and I think I have a normal sex drive for a male.

Relationships and sex still disgust me, though. Sure, I instinctively want to have sex and be in a relationship; but still, everything about these instinctual drives seem to repulse me.

EDIT: Hey, maybe it's just because I'm a loser, though.
 
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