Anyone Gained higher self esteem/self worth? If so....how did you manage to do it?

[sundaygirl]

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[BlackKids]

Exercise (I sound like a feckin broken record right?)

As I toned up naturally I gained self esteem. Once you buy nicer / skinner clothes and know you look good you can hold your head up high. Proud. And yeah I know I'm pretty vain (mostly about how I look myself) but we do live in world full of vanity

So yeah. 1hr+ high cardio x 5 sessions a week for a year. Throw in 15mins toning three times a week. You can thank me when the boys are drooling at your feet lol

 

[WorldEndsWithMe]

Taekwondo.
Playing piano.
Singing.
Nothing makes your self-esteem and self worth grow like finding an activity you like and can get good at. (With a lot of practice of course!)

Also, university. Studying really hard and getting a good grade is so satisfying and makes me feel like I'm not stupid.

 

[PapaSmurf]

SImply accomplishing things.

Exercising or playing a sport or joing a teeam or anything where there is a specific goal that you can acheive.

I have personally found that doing things is far more effective than talking to yourself or CBT therapy.

 

[Luna1740]

Personally I was very suicidal when I was younger and so I started a suicide hotline for suicidal people/rape victims/ self mutilators/ drug addicts, that type of thing, and it really helped me get out of my depression, it sounds like it'd have done the opposite, but helping others deal with their ****, tends to 1. take your mind off your own 2. give you someone to talk to 3. put what you are dealing with in perspective

 

[Avery]

That's a good question, and one I'd like to know the answer to.

I have no doubt that accomplishments improve most people's self-esteem, but it's never worked for me. In the last half-year I've lost 40 pounds, placed third in a literature contest, and maintained my GPA despite tougher courses, but none of it makes me feel better about myself.

 

[AGlife]

As sad as it is, having a pleasant 2 minute conversation with someone can usually get me through the day. Only temporary though.

Usually volunteering and just helping others really improves my self esteem.

 

[Darryl]

Long story short, I broke the strong hold that AvPD had over me.
Basically mind exhaustion and Medication change.

I posted my journey in the Avoidance Personality section under Honey Moon
If you stop by say G'day (ha, good for the self esteem)

Darryl

 

[jamez]

I've been reading up on these stuff for the last few years.

All I can say is that it all comes from the inside. Your sense of self worth can be cultivated from within you. I try not to rely on any outside source because it is out of my control.

Health matters. If I want to feel better I need to work on both mental and physical. Watch what I eat. Because that matters too. Exercise.

Learning is the key too. Learning about myself. Things I like and dislike. About my limits too...how far can I go? I just realized that at this stage I just can't work relentlessly towards my goals. I need my 9-10 hour sleeps. I get tired after my 4-5 hour shifts at work. I get sick if I push myself too hard during my exercise regimes.

Getting at peace with my past. Past can't be undone. Learn and move on. Am I essentially a good or bad person? I have a lot of empathy for people some times. I help people some times just out of obligation but others times because I genuinely care. I just realised that I'm not such a bad person. So there's absolutely no use feeling bad about myself.

 

[Emily_G]

My self esteem is crazy higher than it used to be. I think it's partly because I am older and partly because I have a wonderful hubby.