Anyone afraid of their "dark side" ?

[gustavofring]

So everyone knows me as kind of a sensitive, shy nice guy, but I definately feel I have (yes this sounds pretentious) quite a dark side with humor, that I'm afraid to unleash because subconciously I don't want to come across as rude or politically incorrect. I feel that throughout the years I have kind of hidden this side under a layer of wanting to be normal-ness, to conform to some boring image of a serious, adult person. It feels like I lost touch with the playful side, while I think it's the real me. Sarcastic, absurd humor helps me to make sense of the world which I feel is far too boundried by rules and stupid codes. I would like to become more of a jokester, who doesn't take himself and the world so seriously. If I could do that, I would probably also be more socially capable, like I was in my teenage years.

I feel like I need the playful, creative real me out more, and let go of that stupid dull, pretentious " ideal" image that I have formed of myself. The trouble is that people around me have come to be used to how I am, so it might be weird to be the "real me" more.

 

[ilovenoodles]

I don't want to become fully my darkself, neither the shy helpless girl. I want to stay in between all sides. Because being a bit darker make me feel coming closer to my real self.

 

[gustavofring]

I'm not saying to give in fully to every dark urge and thought. So yeah you're right, being yourself, if that means being darker, is good.

I'm theorizing that it's good to stay "in touch" with your dark side (whatever that is) because if you have these thoughts and feelings of playfulness it's not good to try and repress them. I find art is a good way to let these feelings out in a non harmful and creative way, but also humor in every day situations.

I feel true mature people have both a moralistic sense of righteousness and goodness but also a darker playful childish side, that doesn't take everything so seriously. Neither one should take the upperhand, there should be a fine balance. Extremists are imo a good example of people who have forgotten this side of themselves, which is why they are so uptight and can't stand free thought and speech.

In real life I think the people most comfortable in their skin, aren't afraid to be naughty from time to time.

edit: sorry I am rambling a bit incoherently.

 

[Graeme1988]

I feel like I need the playful, creative real me out more, and let go of that stupid dull, pretentious " ideal" image that I have formed of myself. The trouble is that people around me have come to be used to how I am, so it might be weird to be the "real me" more.

Well, if this is how you really feel, then I say go for it, mate. I mean, it's never too late to change.

I'm theorizing that it's good to stay "in touch" with your dark side (whatever that is) because if you have these thoughts and feelings of playfulness it's not good to try and repress them. I find art is a good way to let these feelings out in a non harmful and creative way, but also humor in every day situations.

I feel true mature people have both a moralistic sense of righteousness and goodness but also a darker playful childish side, that doesn't take everything so seriously. Neither one should take the upperhand, there should be a fine balance.

In real life I think the people most comfortable in their skin, aren't afraid to be naughty from time to time.

I agree with you, especially about art being a good outlet for these dark thought and feelings. That's very true. Also, regardless of sense of humour, I think it's important we find humour in everyday situations and not take everything seriously.

 

[spring]

I can totally relate to you.
I am terrified of my darker side,it's almost like insanity and misery excite me.
usually being in the dark side is the only way I can feel like there is a meaning to anything.
sometimes when I feel like everything is getting dull and ordinary I suddenly erupt and do stuff that are not logical and completely contradict my normal personality.
it is wonderful and terrible at the same time,sometimes the mysterious feeling of awe towards everything it brings,is the only thing that keeps me going,since my everyday life sucks.

 

[Strange_Loner]

I have a dark side too, but I kind of keep it private due to other people reactions... I have a satirist type of humour

 

[Shyangel]

Don't give in...Nothing good comes of it.

I can't see anything but bad come out of the kinda dark desires I have, it would be best I continue the battle of retaining them. It's worked out okay through my life, so I think I'll keep it this way.

 

[MikeyC]

I don't want to become fully my darkself, neither the shy helpless girl. I want to stay in between all sides. Because being a bit darker make me feel coming closer to my real self.

Having a good balance of both is a good thing, I reckon.

I am a nice person. Not trying to toot my own horn, but I act nice and polite to everyone. However, everyone knows my demons with depression and my dark side is expressed through my love of heavy metal, which everyone knows already. There are also time where I want to actually get angry and yell at people who are making me upset, but that's always repressed. I wonder how much longer....

 

[Arise87]

Having a good balance of both is a good thing, I reckon. There are also time where I want to actually get angry and yell at people who are making me upset, but that's always repressed. I wonder how much longer....

I completely agree with your balancing act statement. It is kinda hard for me to do. Especially true if I'm around normal, vanilla people for to long. But "unleashing my inner beastie" when around my closest friends helps alot.
I hope you don't repress that darker side of yourself to long buddy. It could lead to a tumor(maybe not), or an ugly, explosive episode<-----speaking from experience. So, close the curtains, turn on your favorite metal song (REALLY LOUD), and MOSH/Headbang your brains out! Cheap stress release for when people are pissing you off !

 

[MikeyC]

I completely agree with your balancing act statement. It is kinda hard for me to do. Especially true if I'm around normal, vanilla people for to long. But "unleashing my inner beastie" when around my closest friends helps alot.
I hope you don't repress that darker side of yourself to long buddy. It could lead to a tumor(maybe not), or an ugly, explosive episode<-----speaking from experience. So, close the curtains, turn on your favorite metal song (REALLY LOUD), and MOSH/Headbang your brains out! Cheap stress release for when people are pissing you off !

Thank you. I certainly don't want to repress it for too long but it might already be too late. Maybe I can repress it forever. Although I certainly don't want a tumor. I already listen to a lot of metal so that's good for me.

I hope it's a healthy unleashing of your "inner beastie" when around your friends.

 

[kissleo]

i dont like unleasing my dark side. my dark side is something that hurts me over and over and over again. i love being my normal shy lonely person makes me feel okay and everyone around me unnoticable.

 

[YellowBird]

i'm not sarcastic,i'm not me,i agree with everything i usually despise,because i'm afraid(irrational or not)that they'll attack me,even if they use a lame comeback,i'm scared out of my wits,and i'll be unable to react.

 

[Mokkat]

in my opinion, everyone changes according to the situation. To not change is reality show-level of ignorance and naivety. The depressing condition, is when changing to suit your social surroundings is all you have to your identity, and you end up with identity or selfconfidence. I have that kind of humor myself, but I have learned to appreciate that element, and blame boring humor instead

The idea of having a "dark side", implies feelings of negativity. Having a "dark" sense of humor, is not a sign of anything other than your own intelligence and boredom with the conventional.

A true dark-side would probably occur in a psychopath - having the knowledge of rational and empathetic thought and acting accordingly when with other people, but being of a different nature.
Having a self proclaimed dark-side on spw.com, does not translate to much else than an embedded feeling of being wrong or evil, because of conventional thinking.

 

[Sial Axetder]

in my opinion, everyone changes according to the situation. To not change is reality show-level of ignorance and naivety. The depressing condition, is when changing to suit your social surroundings is all you have to your identity, and you end up with identity or selfconfidence. I have that kind of humor myself, but I have learned to appreciate that element, and blame boring humor instead

The idea of having a "dark side", implies feelings of negativity. Having a "dark" sense of humor, is not a sign of anything other than your own intelligence and boredom with the conventional.

A true dark-side would probably occur in a psychopath - having the knowledge of rational and empathetic thought and acting accordingly when with other people, but being of a different nature.
Having a self proclaimed dark-side on spw.com, does not translate to much else than an embedded feeling of being wrong or evil, because of conventional thinking.

Bold ~~> Agreed

My dark side is not at all a dark side, rather negative emotions and thoughts upon myself or others around.

We call them dark, they are emotions and thoughts. We have them for a reason. For emotions especially; try not disowning/hiding them, try not removing them. Otherwise we are only partly being. Who are we if we only acknowledge our positivity?

Does not mean got out and speak ill of another. Really acknowledge those emotion(s) but use common sense and control via thought(s).

 

[Shyangel]

Bold ~~> Agreed

My dark side is not at all a dark side, rather negative emotions and thoughts upon myself or others around.

We call them dark, they are emotions and thoughts. We have them for a reason. For emotions especially; try not disowning/hiding them, try not removing them. Otherwise we are only partly being. Who are we if we only acknowledge our positivity?

Does not mean got out and speak ill of another. Really acknowledge those emotion(s) but use common sense and control via thought(s).

I agree with you completely.

I hide my thoughts of negativity and try and ignore them to the best of my ability, I don't think it's helping. I've always thought if I repressed them and didn't express them that I wasn't giving it life and that maybe they would go away. I guess I was doing more harm then good. I have a dire need to be under the influence of something. I can't see how I can be happy with out something altering my senses. I just want to be done with this and the easy way out seems to be take a drug of some kind....But I'm straying far from the topic.

I'm mad at myself for typing something negative...