am I not comfortable with sexuality?

[JCS008]

Or you just don't follow mass media. They don't tell you how to live your life, they present a message. It's up to you if you want to follow it or not.

 

[DASwife]

Or you just don't follow mass media. They don't tell you how to live your life, they present a message. It's up to you if you want to follow it or not.

I'm not going to get into this one because last time I tried I got shot down for being "new age", but I like the way you think. And I second what posts I've read by you on here.

 

[Satine]

Or you just don't follow mass media. They don't tell you how to live your life, they present a message. It's up to you if you want to follow it or not.

I agree with this absolutely. I'm not sure why it is you see the majority of people as being promiscuous, no.1. Maybe there are more promiscuous types where you live, but around me there aren't really many at all. Just one question that may seem obvious but may not be, so I'll throw it out there: have you actually met these people who are being promiscuous or are you just worrying that the majority 'probably are'?

 

[meatcake]

hey no1, have you tried a site like okcupid? you can answer all these questions about your views on morality, and then find people that have similar views. and then you'll see that you're not alone. not everyone wants or is even able (emotionally speaking) to be promiscuous like that.

i understand what you're saying about the media - it does have a big impact on people's lives, but it can only go so far - we're not all blank slates being programmed like zombies. genetics and upbringing also have a big influence.

i'm not sure what you're watching, but it doesn't sound good, whatever it is - you should stop, because it sounds like it's skewing your view of the world. it's like if you went out to a club on a saturday night, and then concluded that everyone likes to party, because that's all you see there. meanwhile, the majority of people are at home watching tv, or talking to their cats.

 

[no1]

well. yea I have made a profile there. its just that there isnt really too much agreement in the sciences (or at least mainstream science) for there even to be any kind of good philosophical discusssion about such things IMO.

I just dont like how people tend to view masculinity with agression and/or violence (violation).

 

[meatcake]

^ tell me about it. guys with sa have it pretty rough - the peak of hormones for guys is 18 or so. and it takes a long time to go down to where you can actually be free from thinking about sex all the time. of course, some guys have it worse than others. i remember being as tormented by sex as no1 is, but i (fortunately) didn't have easy access to porn like people do nowadays.

maybe there are some drugs that could kill your libido a bit, no1? i remember when i went on paxil mine went down a good bit. it was nice.

 

[meatcake]

Dry spells suck for everyone. Paxil lessens your libido, eh? I'm glad I refused to take it. Not that I needed it in the first place.

well guys sex drives are usually stronger than womens. and there's the whole stigma that goes along with being a virgin for men which makes things worse psychologically. whenever i really wanted to kill myself it usually had something to do with this whole issue. although i also felt really worthless because of just not being able to get a girlfriend.

of course, there are some guys who are like, eh, i'm a virgin, whatever.

 

[HidingOnThe4thFloor]

maybe there are some drugs that could kill your libido a bit, no1? i remember when i went on paxil mine went down a good bit. it was nice.

<shivers at the sentiment>

 

[FOR REAL]

drugs you say! what kind?

 

[pufferfish]

no1 i think you really need to seek the help of a professional, because the way you feel about sexuality shows you have a bit of a warped way of thinking. sexuality if is a big part of being human. it has been said that the only abnormal sexual nature is have none at all. i don't really appreciate being considered a disgusting immoral person because i share intimacy with my boyfriend. i am not "damaged" and i am not "corrupt" as you would say. everyone is entitled to look into their sexual soul and act in whatever way they find to be pleasing to them, as long as it is consensual of course.

i am sorry that something has happened to you to make you hate sexuality or fear it so much. it is a beautiful part of being a human being, if you learn how to embrace it in a healthy and mature way.

 

[Ashiene]

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