no1
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not if there keep being men and women alike who convince women of this lifestyle. especially because it's constant in mass media so little girls and boys listen to this and soon enough it sticks to them.
am I not comfortable with sexuality?
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not if there keep being men and women alike who convince women of this lifestyle. especially because it's constant in mass media so little girls and boys listen to this and soon enough it sticks to them.
no1
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what's so good about having your man or woman beat up by numerous sexual adventures? I think the guys who like this stuff must be queer. they like getting off knowing that their woman has had tons of sex with other guys, such that she is her mind is fleeting and her body is well.. less than clean, and been around so much you can see it in her degraded body...
That doesn't make it immoral though, does it? One night stands aren't my kind of thing either but if others feel ok about it then I don't see the problem!
Ah someone who thinks like I do!
JCS008
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Exactly, I'm not a ONS type of guy, but if that's in someone's nature and what they like to do, then fine. It's their life and their choice.
faithnomore
Banned
I know. I;m not saying its immoral. but i do think it can be shady and scary if you get people that live to pull and have one night stands all the time.
Some people should grow up and settle down with a girl.
faithnomore
Banned
It's hard to be on the sidelines. No 1 seems to be quite annoyed by the fact that people can have sex with multiple people.
For me i just get frustrated that people can be so open about it, and tell me about it. It made me feel bad in the past if "friends" bragged about their encounters.
I feel like i am decent enough to get there, but its not happened. I think we complain because it makes us feel better (able to vent).
But i dont think i'm angry about it...
JCS008
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i think your sexual adventures should be kept to yourself and with your partner, but people who openly talk about it kind of lack class. not to mention it makes people feel uncomfortable. but at the same time, you shouldn't judge someone who sleeps around as being immoral and like some animal.
faithnomore
Banned
JCS008;186822 i think your sexual adventures should be kept to yourself and with your partner said:
I agree with that 100%
As for the other part. Well it just seems wrong in a way. I dont think i could do it myself (how would i know, i've not had the choice).
I guess it depends on who it is, and what happens. If its meeting a girl, then it not working out. Then finding another girl a few weeks/months later is ok.
But looking for girls in a club that look "loose and up for it" casually every weekend is scary to think about!
no1
Banned
I get so worked up because it seems like it's the most common thing, and I want no part of it. I don't even think there is anyone left who doesn't do that thing at least once in their life for some time. It's physically degrading, for one, and there are other reasons why I don't like it. Now, I don't think I'll ever find one who is not like that, because it seems so common. That's why I worry. Because I don't think there are anyone who would be like me.
no1
Banned
well... I sometimes think talking about it might actually make some people consider doing it less, therefore increasing my chances of finding a partner who actually might agree with me. duh!.
or at least. talking about my ideas might make it more common and might make such ideas more accepted in society.
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faithnomore
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No disrespect to you guys, but i dont think theres much more to say about this matter.
It's better if we just accept that people think differently (no matter how upset/annoyed we feel).
We need to get over s/a, and debating about topics like this can cause arguments. I feel that arguments and conflicts can make anxiety worse.
We've all made valid points, why not just leave it at that and forget about it. Chill out people. Hopefully we can get where we want at our own pace.
It's better if we just accept that people think differently (no matter how upset/annoyed we feel).
We need to get over s/a, and debating about topics like this can cause arguments. I feel that arguments and conflicts can make anxiety worse.
We've all made valid points, why not just leave it at that and forget about it. Chill out people. Hopefully we can get where we want at our own pace.
No1,
Just go outside and meet people. You will learn that there are plenty of people who agree with you. Most just don't have the strength to withstand peer-pressure. The desire to fit in and be part of a social group is irresistibly strong for many, that's why people agree to partake in 'immoral' or otherwise 'bad' activities. Though, other people's behaviour is absolutely irrelevant for an uninvolved individual.
Moreover, 'immoral' and 'bad' are too subjective. It might sound like an artificial defence, but the behaviour of people on a small scale is not significant enough to be a major, global concern. Let them have fun. It's their lives, and their decisions. Especially the sex lives of others don't affect you at all.
Just go outside and meet people. You will learn that there are plenty of people who agree with you. Most just don't have the strength to withstand peer-pressure. The desire to fit in and be part of a social group is irresistibly strong for many, that's why people agree to partake in 'immoral' or otherwise 'bad' activities. Though, other people's behaviour is absolutely irrelevant for an uninvolved individual.
Moreover, 'immoral' and 'bad' are too subjective. It might sound like an artificial defence, but the behaviour of people on a small scale is not significant enough to be a major, global concern. Let them have fun. It's their lives, and their decisions. Especially the sex lives of others don't affect you at all.
no1
Banned
well like I said, when I think that EVERYONE does it and I don't want to have a girl that is this way... it does affect me because when it comes down to me meeting a girl, she will be assumed to be just like everyone else, so yes it does affect me. And these behaviors can rub off on all others, especially when it's propagated as the only way to be
in mass media. It is also assume by me that anyone who is promiscuous sees themselves as more superior, tends to be arrogant a-holes about other people's sexual lifestyles and brag much more about their "conquests" than those who aren't, claiming they are "sexually liberated" and those who aren't are inferior, and prude. Therefore also convincing people to become promiscuous, or moreso. Feeding off the deviant lifestyle, even to the point of trying to take others along with them, ie other men's girlfriends and such, and making them deviant.
so yes, it does affect me personally and not just emotionally but also physically: if I think everyone does it, and my future 'girlfriends' will have also done it, and are this way, and therefore are degraded, physically because of it, which means I will have to take part in it since everyone is supposed to be doing it and is this way.
do you now get my 'logic'?
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JCS008
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Your logic is wrong because you assume "everyone does it." I don't do it, so that means "everyone" doesn't do it. I guarantee you I can go into the chatbox and find at least ten others who don't.
You assume way too much, it's not healthy to base your philosphy and "logic" on assumptions and interpretations.
You assume way too much, it's not healthy to base your philosphy and "logic" on assumptions and interpretations.