It occurred to me as I was reading some of the posts here, that the "non- Social Phobia world" and the "Social Phobia world" don't even speak the same language, so to speak. It hurts to hear that you view the "outside world" as mean, cruel, abusive, etc.. One post was about people asking someone why they are so quiet. It seemed to be viewed as a slap in the face. If I were ever to ask someone, in public, why they were so quiet, that would be my feeble attempt to let you know that you belonged and to help engage you in conversation. I would never be cruel enough to intentionally call notice to your being quiet. My own Daughter has just recently let me know that she views a lot of what I say to her as criticism. That is mind boggling to me. I would do ANYTHING in this world to help her. I can't even imagine why she would think I would be critical of her. I know she is very sensitive and I try to be mindful of that at all times. Most of the "non-Social Phobia" world would never do anything to intentionally hurt any of you. I have anxiety/depression. I thought I might be able to help some of you because I have experience dealing with these issues. I am not mean, cruel, abusive, critical, etc.. I don't see how I can possibly be of any help when we are not speaking the same language. For instance..when my Daughter text messages me and I then text back........ If I put an exclamation mark at the end of the message, it was intended to show support for her. She then calls me to ask if I'm mad or being critical of her. To begin with, I hate texting. I only do so because she is more comfortable with texting than talking on the phone. I know she feels fragile right now. Doesn't she know me in the least? How can she leap to criticism from an exclamation mark?
My only point in posting this message is to try to reach out and explain to the "Social Phobic" world that I, the "non-Social Phobic" world, would NEVER intentionally hurt you. We are completely misreading the other. I think by trying to draw you into a conversation that I am being helpful. You apparently see it as my way of humiliating you. Does that make since? That would never be my intention. I'm at a loss for words right now as I don't have a clue on how to fix this problem. Just please know that I, the "non-Social Phobic" world, apologize for the pain I have caused you. But also know that that was never my intention.
My only point in posting this message is to try to reach out and explain to the "Social Phobic" world that I, the "non-Social Phobic" world, would NEVER intentionally hurt you. We are completely misreading the other. I think by trying to draw you into a conversation that I am being helpful. You apparently see it as my way of humiliating you. Does that make since? That would never be my intention. I'm at a loss for words right now as I don't have a clue on how to fix this problem. Just please know that I, the "non-Social Phobic" world, apologize for the pain I have caused you. But also know that that was never my intention.