A question for virgins ?

[MikeyC]

I think people can have sex with as many people as they like. I'm not going to tell people what to do with their personal life. However, a person that sleeps with random people makes me sick for some reason. I just can't help but feel sick, especially if they are complete strangers. Probably hygiene issues I take serious issue with.

Fair enough. I don't agree but I understand your viewpoint.

 

[Gaucho]

I'm going for prostitutes soon, thats all i can say. but not because i feel the need to feel accepted by society, just because its time. sex is something nice.

 

[MrSunday]

^ I hope I do not come across as being rude or judgemental.

I believe it is wrong to use prostitutes. These men or women need money to survive. People are taking advantage over them. Instead of helping them, they are being used and abused.

I try to see these prostitutes as human beings with feelings and emotions. They must have people that care for them. How would most members feel if their sons/daughters or someone that they really care about grow up to become a prostitute? I would personally be distraught. These prostitutes were once innocent children but I assume grew up in an unstable environment and somehow ended up on the streets.

I watched a documentary about prostitutes in Iran and it was extremely disturbing. It creates so much instability and misery.

If I were to be approached by a prostitute, I would give them the money and tell them to use it wisely.

Why not find a partner to have a long-term relationship? It may be difficult but the wait is worth it. Try looking outside your culture and do not limit your choices.

 

[Ashiene]

^ I hope I do not come across as being rude or judgemental.

I believe it is wrong to use prostitutes. These men or women need money to survive. People are taking advantage over them. Instead of helping them, they are being used and abused.

I try to see these prostitutes as human beings with feelings and emotions. They must have people that care for them. How would most members feel if their sons/daughters or someone that they really care about grow up to become a prostitute? I would personally be distraught. These prostitutes were once innocent children but I assume grew up in an unstable environment and somehow ended up on the streets.

I watched a documentary about prostitutes in Iran and it was extremely disturbing. It creates so much instability and misery.

If I were to be approached by a prostitute, I would give them the money and tell them to use it wisely.

Why not find a partner to have a long-term relationship? It may be difficult but the wait is worth it. Try looking outside your culture and do not limit your choices.

Prostitution and other service-oriented jobs are no different from one another. A prostitute offers body and sex for cash. A cook offers culinary skills for cash. A construction worker offers manual labor for cash. If you argue prostitutes are abused, what about cooks who are underpaid for the efforts they put in and abused by ungrateful customers? Or construction workers abused because the laws don't completely protect them from work-related accidents?

 

[MrSunday]

Prostitution and other service-oriented jobs are no different from one another. A prostitute offers body and sex for cash. A cook offers culinary skills for cash. A construction worker offers manual labor for cash. If you argue prostitutes are abused, what about cooks who are underpaid for the efforts they put in and abused by ungrateful customers? Or construction workers abused because the laws don't completely protect them from work-related accidents?

There are some differences between prostitution and other service-oriented jobs.

First, prostitution is dangerous. Some women and men have been abused and killed. Others contract sexually transmitted diseases. Of course there are other jobs that are dangerous like working in the army but these people are trained and protected under legislation.

Second, I assume most prostitutes have no choice but are forced into this sort of lifestyle due to poverty or drug addiction. If these underlying issues are resolved, then there will be no need for them to continue. Most people choose to join the construction or the finance industry while prostitutes are forced through various circumstantial factors.

Third, jobs like construction workers and chefs are protected under certain employment legislations. They must be provided with all the safety equipment and can sue the employer if negligence occurs.

Overall, I'm not advocating to ban prostitutes, just in case if anyone gets that impression. I'm saying help them if they want it. If you fully support prostitution, then you should have no problem if your daughter/son or anyone else that you care about were to join this industry. I'm aware other workers in different industries are abused. Again these people need to be helped.

 

[Gaucho]

^ I hope I do not come across as being rude or judgemental.

I believe it is wrong to use prostitutes. These men or women need money to survive. People are taking advantage over them. Instead of helping them, they are being used and abused.

I try to see these prostitutes as human beings with feelings and emotions. They must have people that care for them. How would most members feel if their sons/daughters or someone that they really care about grow up to become a prostitute? I would personally be distraught. These prostitutes were once innocent children but I assume grew up in an unstable environment and somehow ended up on the streets.

I watched a documentary about prostitutes in Iran and it was extremely disturbing. It creates so much instability and misery.

If I were to be approached by a prostitute, I would give them the money and tell them to use it wisely.

Why not find a partner to have a long-term relationship? It may be difficult but the wait is worth it. Try looking outside your culture and do not limit your choices.

i would treat them very well, as good as i can. i don't see them as objects or products, but as human beings, and so they will be treated by me.
and its different if someone goes to thailand to a underaged prostitute for example, than going to take the service of a woman that will be treated with dignity.

if you think about it, being a prostitute is a normal job if its lived with dignity and with acceptable life conditions. only because of society, but specially because of RELIGION it is seen at ti is.

 

[MrSunday]

if you think about it, being a prostitute is a normal job if its lived with dignity and with acceptable life conditions. only because of society, but specially because of RELIGION it is seen at ti is.

What's a normal job? :/

 

[Gaucho]

What's a normal job? :/

arquitect, cook, hair cutter, supermarket cashier etc.

 

[MrSunday]

arquitect, cook, hair cutter, supermarket cashier etc.

There are legislations governing relationships between the employer and employee. There are several issues employment legislations cover such as working hours, minimum wage, pension scheme, funding for training, negligence, healthy and safety and so on. I wonder if a prostitute receives the same sets of rights from her employer than compared to an individual working in a shop or the army or even in a porn industry.
I don't support people working in the porn industry but I see it as a job because they are protected under legislations, not sure how this reflects in practice...

So unless there is employment legislations protecting prostitutes, I don't see it as a job... :/ Even if it is a normal job, does not mean I would support it.

The argument members are proposing is that it's a job, therefore it is not wrong? Am I right here?

 

[Gaucho]

hi mr sunday, of course i only consider it a normal job if they have normal work hours, no advantage taken, and the dignity kept. i know this is in 90% not the case.

I'm only talking as a respectable job in the aspect of working as a prostitute/por business per se, selling their body for money.

 

[9407]

I'm not a virgin (went to prostitutes 4 times with my friend) and I still hate when people brag about that kind of stuff. I know this one guy and all he does is talk about how he wants to have sex with almost every girl he knows. He also look for girls in his area on facebook to see if they want to have sex with them.

 

[psych]

So, my simply stating that I'd like to have sex because I've gone two years without, on a public forum, disturbs some of you?

Really?

Wow.

Why?

How does anyone that feels that way handle any media at all... Music addresses it, movies address it... It all comes from somewhere, because someone somewhere felt it with enough intensity to write it down...

I don't get it. I'm likely to completely alienate some of you by posting this...

But, that is just so uptight, that I can honestly say that I don't care.

Score one for me in the battle against social anxiety.

 

[coyote]

So, my simply stating that I'd like to have sex because I've gone two years without, on a public forum, disturbs some of you?

yes, that is disturbing

it's been nearly a week for me

and frankly, i find it unbearable

not sure how you can do it

 

[MrSunday]

Hi psych

I assume your rarely exposed to different views taking into account your reaction.

So, my simply stating that I'd like to have sex because I've gone two years without, on a public forum, disturbs some of you?

Not disturbed at all. I find it disgusting for people to sleep with several people. The feeling to have sex does not disturb me. If for example a man were to have sex with a women every three or four days, it shows lack of control of their desires on their part. I doubt these type of people can take any form of relationship seriously and from experience...I'm usually right.

However, I am disturbed when people take advantage over prostitutes, regardless of their gender.

One member believes prostitution is equivalent to a job. I find this thinking disturbing too. An individual performing a job is protected under employment legislations and health & safety guidelines.

A prostitute has no protection from my understanding. Unlike a job, a prostitute does not require permanent address, does not pay taxes, is not entitled to a pension scheme and so on.

A distinction must be made between prostitutes and people who work for a business that offer sexual services to clients.

Really?

Wow.

Why?

It's what I believe is right. Feel free to disagree. We all have our own set of morals. Least we can do is respectfully disagree and tolerate different opinions, no matter how offensive they are.

How does anyone that feels that way handle any media at all...

The mainstream media is full of garbage. I do not take much notice of it to be honest.

But, that is just so uptight, that I can honestly say that I don't care.

You do care, otherwise you would not have posted your emotional comment.

hi mr sunday, of course i only consider it a normal job if they have normal work hours, no advantage taken, and the dignity kept. i know this is in 90% not the case.

I'm only talking as a respectable job in the aspect of working as a prostitute/por business per se, selling their body for money.

Hi,

It's interesting what you said.

if you think about it, being a prostitute is a normal job if its lived with dignity and with acceptable life conditions.

I think we have a different understanding of what a prostitute is. I'm referring to women who are in extreme poverty, no one helps them and are struggling to live. They have no permanent residence, no savings, no pension scheme, in danger of being abused, take drugs and so on.

You admitted yourself that most prostitutes work under terrible conditions and this is not acceptable.

 

[coyote]

I find it disgusting for people to sleep with several people...If for example a man were to have sex with a women every three or four days, it shows lack of control of their desires on their part. I doubt these type of people can take any form of relationship seriously and from experience...I'm usually right.

I assume you're rarely exposed to different views taking into account your reaction.

 

[MrSunday]

I assume you're rarely exposed to different views taking into account your reaction.

It's not a view. It's an act. In fact, I have been exposed to a variety of views and I'm quite tolerant as a result.

 

[psych]

yes, that is disturbing

it's been nearly a week for me

and frankly, i find it unbearable

not sure how you can do it

Lol, I hear you...
But, the right person has not come along. I am old enough, & have talked and read enough and experienced enough in my life... That I no longer equate love and sex as an American woman.
But, I'm okay with wanting to only have sex with someone I care enough to be emotionally involved with.
Were someone I find attractive enough (physically, though personality is a major part of attraction for me)to have sex with.. If they were free of disease... I would probably opt to have sex, considering the fact that it has been a long two years.
Sadly, neither scenario has played out for me. ::

 

[MrSunday]

yes, that is disturbing

it's been nearly a week for me

and frankly, i find it unbearable

not sure how you can do it

I doubt you will be a good husband if you want to get married. I assume you will be those type that get married, have sex with your wife, have a few children and then commit adultery. Hope this does not apply to you, but I think it's likely.

You could be joking... :/

 

[028ellie81]

I think for me more it would be having a serious relationship with marriage and children. I am in my 30's now and I am afraid that it may never happen for me because of the high anxiety experienced in social/esp dating situations. Despair over this issue!

 

[NathanielWingatePeaslee]

If for example a man were to have sex with a women every three or four days, it shows lack of control of their desires on their part.

If they're having sex every three or four days and it's not interfering with their responsibilities (like say, work or taking care of their kids), then what would be the point of controlling their desires? Did I miss something?