20 years old, never spoken to a girl on my own free will

[KJC]

I don't know

I don't know

 

[Lord Baltimore]

Have I broken some record or something? I can\'t recall a single time that I have spoken to a girl without being forced to in the first place or for business/school work. Not trying to self pity here, just wondering if anyone else has done this.

Are you shy all around or just when it comes to girls??

 

[EasySkanking]

I'm 24, you lose KJC. Good game, nice playing with ya! ::

 

[Lord Baltimore]

I'm a 20 year old single guy and about 70-80% of my friends are girls. You would think that would be any dude's dream, right?? hell no. You see I feel my role with the ladies is i'm just a nice guy that will sit there and listen to them complain. Definitely not worth dating but any time they just want to unload about what douches other men are how miserable they are, i'm the first one they ring up. I'm in the friend zone with every girl i know. A victim of my own kindness and it freakin sucks.

 

[da_illest101]

I'm a 20 year old single guy and about 70-80% of my friends are girls. You would think that would be any dude's dream, right?? hell no. You see I feel my role with the ladies is i'm just a nice guy that will sit there and listen to them complain. Definitely not worth dating but any time they just want to unload about what douches other men are how miserable they are, i'm the first one they ring up. I'm in the friend zone with every girl i know. A victim of my own kindness and it freakin sucks.

Holy crap, you and I have such a similar life except i would say 80 - 90% of my friends are girls

 

[JamesSmith]

Hmm, i don't have a single real friend that's a girl. I'm sure you've voluntarily talked to a girl b4, u just don't remember it. It's tough to recall every conversation we've had, even us shy people. For instance, have u ever asked for help in a grocery store type place?

 

[*Amy*]

Don't worry, I'm the same age as you, I've never spoken to a guy and still I don't intend to do it unless he approaches me

 

[planemo]

I'm 24, you lose KJC. Good game, nice playing with ya! ::

25 and counting...

Sorry man, I guess I'm in the lead now.

 

[Kiwong]

48. I'm going for gold. Gold medal to Kiwong in the inability to talk to girls event.

 

[mozart87]

I'm a 20 year old single guy and about 70-80% of my friends are girls. You would think that would be any dude's dream, right?? hell no. You see I feel my role with the ladies is i'm just a nice guy that will sit there and listen to them complain. Definitely not worth dating but any time they just want to unload about what douches other men are how miserable they are, i'm the first one they ring up. I'm in the friend zone with every girl i know. A victim of my own kindness and it freakin sucks.

maaaaaan...stop doing this ...it's worse than watching porn all day long. at least there you see some freakin' hot bodies
I wonder how they can be so insensitive. I mean they could help you if they were real friends...and I don't mean enter in a relationship with you, but talk to you, help you out with things like setting up a date for you..what the hell, they use you like a toy?

 

[gals]

Have I broken some record or something? I can\'t recall a single time that I have spoken to a girl without being forced to in the first place or for business/school work. Not trying to self pity here, just wondering if anyone else has done this.

That's quite strange. But maybe you're too shy in the presence of the opposite sex. And you're a late bloomer.

Maybe you can start slowly like opening up to some people close to you about this. Maybe they have their own opinions on you and they can help you build your social life more.

 

[Felgen]

Have I broken some record or something? I can\'t recall a single time that I have spoken to a girl without being forced to in the first place or for business/school work. Not trying to self pity here, just wondering if anyone else has done this.

I didn't have a serious girlfriend before I was 21. My dad didn't have one before he was 23. The real world isn't like an American high school movie.

A good advice is to improve your anxiety before you start dating. You don't have to be 100% free of all the symptoms, but before it's even remotely possible to have a relationship, you need to feel comfortable around other people.

 

[Ignace]

I'm a 20 year old single guy and about 70-80% of my friends are girls. You would think that would be any dude's dream, right?? hell no. You see I feel my role with the ladies is i'm just a nice guy that will sit there and listen to them complain. Definitely not worth dating but any time they just want to unload about what douches other men are how miserable they are, i'm the first one they ring up. I'm in the friend zone with every girl i know. A victim of my own kindness and it freakin sucks.

Holy crap, you and I have such a similar life except i would say 80 - 90% of my friends are girls

Oooh, lucky !!::

 

[Social_Monstrosity]

I'm getting there. I have not initiated a conversation with ANYBODY, regardless of gender, for about 5 years. That was when my SAD first started getting severe. And now it's only progressively getting worse...

 

[Lord Baltimore]

maaaaaan...stop doing this ...it's worse than watching porn all day long. at least there you see some freakin' hot bodies
I wonder how they can be so insensitive. I mean they could help you if they were real friends...and I don't mean enter in a relationship with you, but talk to you, help you out with things like setting up a date for you..what the hell, they use you like a toy?

Nah, nobody is using me. I'm pretty sure most of my female friends enjoy my company. I'm just saying i'm in the friend zone with every girl i know.

 

[Feathers]

Well, KJC, it seems you need to start using your initiative in quite some things in your life then?

It's not so easy at first, gets easier when you practise!! Girls are easy to talk to!!
Just practise on every female you meet - maybe shop assistant in a store or someone friendly-looking working in a cafe or such?