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Which is worse: Being lonely (or missing out on a friendship) because you're afraid to talk to people, OR Getting rejected when you try to talk to people? There is a risk either way. I tend to see the risk of getting rejected as being much more painful than the risk of missing out on a...

Do you have an ambition in life or something that you really want to accomplish? It can be any big goal, like a career goal (e.g., become a writer) or a charitable goal (e.g., save the animals) or anything that you really want to do with your life. I have a theory that severe SA is connected...

I read a statistic today, that 75% of all world leaders have been abused and have experience severe rejection. Interesting. I wonder how they go from "severe rejection" to world leadership. I wonder if the rejection actually helped to prepare them somehow for leadership. I guess you can't be...

I highly recommend the book "First Impressions" by Ann Demarais and Valerie White. It's all about how to make a good first impression, and what makes people respond positively or negatively. Most of the advice is really simple - for example, the way you make people feel about themselves is...

Can it ruin your whole day if a complete stranger gives you a dirty look? I feel like I've been doing so well for so long, learning to deal with my social anxiety and be brave and talk with people and not so be hard on myself if I make mistakes. And in general I've been happy with the results...

I tend to prefer rainy days. When it's raining, everybody stays inside. I don't have to listen to people making noise outside, or see anybody walking by or riding their bikes, and then I don't feel like I ought to get out of the house too. I feel guilty for staying inside when the weather's...

We're all perfectionists! That's the root of our problem (according to a great book I've been reading about SA). We're afraid it will be the end of the world if we ever make a mistake in public. No wonder we're so nervous... we've set the standard so high that nobody can reach it! Everybody...

Do you ever feel hurt/rejected because you weren't invited to something that you didn't want to go to anyway? Or maybe the people hosting the event didn't even know you, but you felt rejected anyway? Why do I feel left-out in situations like that, when it makes no sense to get upset?

Are there any moms here who have had trouble sending your kids to school because of your own social phobia? My daughter starts kindergarten next week and I feel such anxiety about it. I think SHE is fine; it's me who has the problem. I went to her kindergarten orientation today and I had this...

I tend to think that any time somebody says something rude to me, or gives me a weird look, or acts impatient or annoyed with me, that it must be my fault. I figure I must deserve whatever the I get. I know that isn't true, that sometimes I am just dealing with a rude person who has their own...