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I'm a dark skin male and have this anger problem towards fair skin women. When i see them in public i have intense anger episodes and blackouts because i believe they are racist and wouldn't probably date me cause of my skin color. This belief came from the many racist things i experience from...

I have a few relationship question for my fellow white SA males. I feel white males with SA have a better chance of obtaining relationships because you guys are favored (in dating) by outside fair skin races, such as latin/asian/indian/arab women. I see more of these race women dating you guys...

Hi guys, I'm doing some introspection on my past issue of never having a GF in my younger days (12-18yo) because of my SA. I have an extremely high intimacy drive which i obsessive over girls everyday. I'm trying to figure out if i were able to get 2-4 girlfriends in my younger days while having...

I am a dark skinned MALE but have average looks for girls in my race (Nilotic Africans) but for majority of fair-skin race women i'm probably below average. I have 2 questions for my fellow male SA'ers who have are superb looks... 1. If you consider yourself to have above average looks in your...

I bought a bunch of frozen egg burritos in a grocery store that weren't good. When i went back to the grocery store to return them i didn't have my receipt so they declined. As i walked out of the store i intentionally and angrily threw the burritos on the floor hard and a few got in the store...

I'm a Male and my SA is much worst around girls. when i'm talking to guys i can be outgoing and fun but not with girls. I'm not a shy person, it's just that my SA causes this shy personality when girls are around. I noticed normal people who don't have SA tend to have more friends of one gender...

For the last year i have been serious and trying to practice faith as much as possible. So i have the following question for christian SAer's who are religious and passionate about this: why hasn't god cured your social anxiety? I asked many of the evangelists and they always tell me god will...

Is it possible for someone to unconsciously sense your thoughts, nervousness, or anxiety through their subconscious mind without them being aware they are doing so? For example, if you are in a room and have a neighbor who can't see or hear you but you still have a lot of anxiety about them for...

I'm curious if anyone else has the same intrusive-thought problem as me... When i'm anixous i usually say involuntarily negative things to people without my choice. I don't say them out loud, they all happen in my head. For example, the other day there was couple and i said in my head "why are...

I'm curious if anyone has this social anxiety problem... When i stare at someone i always keep looking back at them repeatedly to check if they are starring back. I can do this numerous times to a single person. Some people would almost reciprocate my nervous-starring behavior and stare at me to...

trolley and a few trolley stations. I like these places because the people are stationary (not walking somewhere) so they are more willing to carry on with a convo instead of rejecting me because they are busy. Libraries/bookstores are a good places to find stationary people, however i don't...

It's my second visit to the a therapist today and we got down to talking about anxiety reduction techniques. I asked him if anxiety reductions techiques will at some point cure my SA and he said no, that tackling the core beliefs is what will cure it. Is this true?

*Please answer if you are a guy and between the ages of 35-60yo.* I'm 23yo and see that when i try to have regular convo with strangers of older women between the ages of 40-60 they seem to be less shy or judgmental, all together easier to talk to than strangers of girls my age. I've noticed...

I know another SA forum has a "triumph" section for recovered sufferers or steps suffers took that helped them, but it seems like this forum doesn't have a section of that.

I see there are people who had SA for long time and never overcame it, while there are those who have. I know everyone is different in their process so i'm not trying to defame anyone. Here are the causes that i think pertain to those who haven't overcame it, i would like to know your opinion...

My preconceived theory is that guys who's SA are worst with girls, are more difficult to get gfs, compared to guys who's SA are less with girls. Let me explain why... I'm a 6'3 athletic looking guy with average looks, but i could never connect enough with a girl for her to be my GF, eventhough...

Im just curious does anyone else here have a very high intamcy drive? meaning your desire for women is very high more than the average person. For example, i can't stop looking at every pretty girl i see and fantasized flirting and being with them. It's crazy i do this almost every second! Also...

Note: The title for my thread should be "Having strong liking for girls makes my SA worse" I dont know how but i mistakenly wrote the title of this thread to say SA is "worst" for male gender because of high intimacy drive. That's not what i was trying to say and it's my fault for not knowing...

I'm not sure if i'm the only one with this distortion of reality. But sometimes i feel like SA makes me view people too sophisticated and superiorly complex for me to understand socially. Like if i see people talking it feels like they are speaking in a grander complex way that if i tried...

Have you overcame your SA, if so how did you do it? It hit me this month that i havn't been trying to overcome SA all these years. In the past i tried some things and gave up because i didn't beleive nothing would work. But now i realize that in order for me to overcome this i will have to...