mirror..mirror... do i look alright?

Hey,

My appearance has always been a big obsession for me.
I look in every mirror I see.
And I can't stop looking in the mirror.
and I only make pictures with lots of light in it.. So that I look good.
So you probably expect that I'm a good looking girl, but I'm not.
Well, my family thinks so , but sadly i don't believe them.
Do you also think you appearance is a big deal?
I find my self ugly.. And It makes me feel so self concious to my uglyness.
That I'm afraid everybody judges me... when they see me.
It makes me feel terrible.
Can anybody relate to this?

I excessively look in the mirror everyday. Obsession is the right word for me, too. I really dislike my appearance and it is a big contributor to my social anxiety. I rarely take pictures and I don't believe people who tell me that I am attractive.

saskia you are very good looking you have nothing to worry about in that department

I've always been obsessed with my looks. I am not a very attractive looking person (I am average or a little above.) I often wonder if I might have some sort of body dysmorphic disorder.

I am not picky or hard on other people. I find alot of people attractive. Even those others may not typically find attractive. But my looks are very important to me as a SA person. Many times it's my only way to attract people because I know my personality will not (at least not at first anyway.) So, it's sort of the only way people will talk to me to begin with...I think.

Saskia, I consider myself quite the realist. So if I say something's true, I really mean it. You are NOT ugly. If I thought someone was ugly when they have a pic here, I just wouldn't reply to their thread XD

But I'm obsessed with my looks too. On the other hand, what I feel is warranted as I am quite the anomaly. Every day I spend way too much time of as a guy trying to fix myself up. And yeah, I pretty much see everyone else as better looking than me.

I am like you. I'm a guy and if I have to leave my house, I can spend up to an hour trying to make myself look as best as I can and in the end, I'm never satisfied. Every time I look in the mirror, I don't know if I'm good looking or not. When I was in high school, I even skipped school sometimes because I didn't like how I looked on that day. I don't want ANYONE to see me when I'm not at my best because I think that that will be the image of me that they keep forever. It's not right. I know it's not right.

I saw some of your videos on YouTube and I think you're absolutely gorgeous. There's nothing about your face that I don't like and I like your hair too. You look radiant. It pains me to see that such a beautiful girl has SA.

I did this too. I hate to even think of what people thought of me, some narcissistic, vain girl who can't stop looking at her own reflection for more than a couple hours. It was the total opposite. Being out with my friends, I'd sit there in silence thinking to myself about how ugly I was, disgusting to look at I'm sure, a mental image I had of myself in my head that made me want to cry because I was sure that this was how everyone else saw me as well. I'd work myself up into such a panic that I was possibly repulsing people I'd go into the bathroom to see if I really did look like that. I didn't, it's an awful way to think of yourself. I'd take a collective sigh and assure myself that I wasn't the horrible thing I was making myself out to be, only to get back into panic mode and do it again.

Little by little I got better with this. It's hard to break out of that thought process after beating yourself down for so long. I can tell you Saskia, along with most of you who I've actually seen, you're very pretty dear There's no need to worry. I'm not willing to call myself beautiful and I'm hardly into complimenting myself but I like to think that I'm pretty, picking out one thing that I like about myself each day and it makes me feel better. Maybe you could do the same?

Yep, I hate my looks and obsessively check myself in the mirror. Everyone, I have seen on here are good looking people, we may not appeal to everyone but hopefully one day we will have the beauty of feeling ok with ourselves.

i'm really weird about my appearance... like you said, others tell me i look pretty or nice or whatever, and i smile and say thank you, but that's just not how i feel about myself. thinking that others are thinking that i'm ugly isn't something that bothers me, though.. i'm my toughest critic, there isn't anything someone could say mean about me that i don't already think myself, ya know? i guess i just feel like i have this idea of what i think is pretty, and i'm just not it. i'm not thin enough, i'm too tall, my nose has a bump in it, my eyes are small, my hair is thin and unhealthy (my own fault, haha).. i could go on forever! i feel like i'm just going to have to work to make myself more fit or do whatever and eventually i'll be content.. but self confidence isn't something you can gain from others..

For what its worth and im not just saying it you are very pretty and whatever has made you think you are not or 'whoever' rather is lying.
If its a personal battle for you then dont worry im also worrying. It takes me a long time to go somewhere because i think im not pretty. And it affects my personality lots. For e.g if i feel good make-up, hair and clothes looking good im very outgoing for the day whereas if i dont look my best i feel awful.

And shallow people will only care how you look wont they? **** em.

You are stunning! smile!!

Thank you all for the comments it's good to see that i'm not alone
and thanks for saying that i'm not ugly, but it's still hard to believe
On my avatar i look alright.. cuz I had make up on, but without make up i dont look well xD And mostly of the days I feel too lazy to put make up on..
So that I don't feel comfortable.
Maybe I should wear make-up everyday. to make myself feel good.

I never look in the mirrors.::

i'm not all that concerned about my looks facially - but i have OCD regarding my body...

i grew up with an average figure. as an adult i became morbidly obese...and then severely anorexic. although i've been "average" again for close to a decade now, all i see is that fat person i used to be.

Flowergirlie said:

Thank you all for the comments it's good to see that i'm not alone
and thanks for saying that i'm not ugly, but it's still hard to believe
On my avatar i look alright.. cuz I had make up on, but without make up i dont look well xD And mostly of the days I feel too lazy to put make up on..
So that I don't feel comfortable.
Maybe I should wear make-up everyday. to make myself feel good.

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I never really bother much with how I look. I mean I take care of myself but after a point you just have to get on with it. As long as I feel comfortable I'm good to go, and if make-up is what you need to get comfortable then go for it! For the record though, it's your features on your face that make you beautiful, not the colour/texture of your skin.