Sinar_Matahari

haha. Thanks for commenting on every pic in my album. LOL! Well, almost every one except the last one where I'm in a suit. A comment was conspicuously absent from that pic. :: Maybe next time I'll go with a different colored suit or leave teh bowtie at home... Individuals with wide faces really shouldn't wear bowties anyway, but that's a discussion for a different time...

Anywho I'm Kooooooorean. I always love it when I tell people that, and they ask if I'm from the North or South. lol. My parents have always contended that we're from the South, and we have several relatives there, but I don't know for sure since we immigrated to the US when I was a babe. Frankly, I don't think there's any real difference between the citizens of the North and South; it's just that one side has the incredibly unfortunate circumstance of being controlled by an attention-seeking, crazy dude with a ridiculous haircut and Buddy Holly glasses. haha.

haha. Hey, Serafina. Ya, it was definitely an attempt to inject humor into that stereotype. I used to find it extremely offensive when I was growing up, but at some point I realized anyone who's not familiar with a particular race finds it legitimately difficult to distinguish individuals of that race based on looks. I think it happens to everyone. lol. Besides, I'm terrible with recognizing faces of any race, so it'd be hypocritical of me to hold others to higher standards. lol.

BTW I didn't realize you were Asian, and I hope I didn't offend you. I think a lot of Asians are pretty sensitive about stereotypes (and probably rightfully so), so I'm always a little worried about how my humor will come across. I don't want to be perceived as some Asian Uncle Tom (lol) who just puts down his race for a laugh. For the record, I'm extremely proud of my race and culture, but I also find a lot of humor in the associated stereotypes.

Yup darn insomnia!

Yeah sometimes if the website crashes,friend contacts can be broken and other weird stuff,and I didn't think you would mind,just asking out of politeness.

I thought we were too but obviously not lol,must of just been a glitch but thought I would re-add you,hope ya don't mind!

im just checking what your up to *feels scared*

Ah, I'm Glad to hear that!

"I wish you all the best as well, Token."

Aw, thanks! Same to you, Serafina (lol, again)!

Hey there! I've not been too bad thanks for asking, I'm glad I now have a week to relax a bit. And thanks a lot for the comments! How have you been yourself? Take care.

what do mean i just googled banee, and it sais im a child::

last time i give you positive rep::

YES! This is exactly it, with emphasis on "more and more"... I think it's easy to become jaded and bitter when you feel like no one's listening (particularly on a support forum like this), but it's amazing how just a few people acknowledging your existence (purely out of kindness) makes all the difference in the world. For me, it was you, Dronee, and Kat that really made me feel welcome and got me going, and I'll always appreciate you guys for that. It's unfortunate though because maybe some members don't ever feel that sense of acceptance, and that's why they don't think this site helps them. Or in some cases, maybe their problems are a lot more serious than any amount of online support can assuage.

And best wishes IRL, Serafina. Seems like a lot of people on here are making lots of progress IRL (*knock on wood*) and that genuinely makes me happy.

Aw, thanks for the words of encouragement and general kindness, Serafina! They're always welcome, of course! I've never been professionally diagnosed, but thanks to this forum, I found out that I suffer from literally every textbook symptom of AvPD, so I think that explains a lot about the way I think/act... Talking to people on this site has seriously helped a lot though. I'm kinda starting to think that my input actually matters, and that's a great feeling!

Thanks for stopping by

That's how I feel about giving compliments to people I don't know well. There's always that potential for it to be construed in some unintended way. I think it's particularly true on this site because, well, it seems like lots of people (including me, tbh) don't handle compliments well. lol.

Oh, and as for dumbing down my conversations and posts, unfortunately I've found that feigning "less intelligence" and being self-deprecating seems a lot less likely to rub people the wrong way, particularly in text. Also, unlike you, I can definitely be a hardcore windbag if I'm not careful. haha. My vocab isn't too shabby (thanks for the compliment btw), but I just don't have that worldly knowledge base to not come across as pretentious. I think it takes much more than good vocab to be a good writer, just like it takes much more than proficiency in reading notes to be a good composer of music. Anyway, any unpretentious, natural intelligence/skill is always an extremely attractive trait.

Np! I tried to rep you anonymously first because I get mildly panicky when I try to compliment someone, but apparently I hadn't repped enough other people yet. lol. But ya, I've noticed your posts are always so articulate, insightful, and tactful, yet also straight to the point. I know it's not easy. I consider myself pretty skilled in writing, but I know I can't pull that off, which is why I usually just dumb down my posts, so I don't come across as a windbag or know-it-all. ha. But ya, I always enjoy reading what you have to say! Thanks!

Was hesitant to post this cuz I didn't want to come across as kissing butt, but just wanted to say:

eh up!.........

You shall not win this poke war ::

that must be the shortest thread or post youve ever made
im not commenting on it til im sober