love, nah, not really
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DeadmanWalking
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I think it's more "you're in love with the attention he gives you". You're not used to men paying attention to you in your life, so, when one does, you feel special and wanted, which is, more or less, what love is (I think). I know this because I suffer from the same thing. Any female that so much as talks to me for an extended period I feel attracted to. We just don't want to give up that attention, that's all.
Plus, it's not love. That's infatuation. Two very different things (or so I was taught).
Plus, it's not love. That's infatuation. Two very different things (or so I was taught).
Invisibleman
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Im the same way but with girls. Seriously girls have treated me so terribly for so long that if a girl even looks at me and smiles I feel affection. I know these feelings are false and just mainly desperation but it bothers me.
antihistamine
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If that is your real photo, you'll be getting plenty of smiles I reckon.
Aletheia
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Apersonalan
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don't call that person a freak
Sweet :
: Thank you. That is my real photo. But I photogragh well. Don't look even remotely similar in person.
Apersonalan
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you look like my aunt overseas
anxiety1408
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I know what you mean, because I do the same!! I like ''fall in love'' with any girl that pays attention to me in some form. Im wanting to stop behaving like this, its like im desperate (well i guess I am kind of, miss being in a relationship and I really want a gf), im just going to try working on myself and do things that I have been wanting to do, once I get from who I am to who I want to be then I expect positive changes in my life.
MikeyC
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I know a girl who likes me so unconditionally that sometimes I think she's into me, but then I take a reality check and I know it's just not that way, as she was in a relationship for a long while. She's single now and is so nice to me still. Whenever I see her we sit close and we put our hands on each other, and she even kisses me on the cheek occasionally...but it's nothing.
For you, redtear, when a guy is being nice to you, take the nice gestures but realise that there's millions of other men out there who will do the same!
For you, redtear, when a guy is being nice to you, take the nice gestures but realise that there's millions of other men out there who will do the same!
Aletheia
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I worry about this when people compliment me.
were they being sarcastic? were they were they were they?
coyote
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if i make the effort AND risk making a fool of myself to compliment a woman, you can be assured that i'm sincere
i could just as easily say nothing at all - why would i expend the energy otherwise?
i'm sure i'm not the only man who thinks this way
coyote
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well that's on page 32 of the Mother's Handbook
they have to say those things in order to get their merit badge
DeadmanWalking
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Doesn't beautiful connotate that you have the looks and the personality? Think of it as a double compliment. Or it's probably because it's the thing they first notice about you. You're just that beautiful, it seems! A third idea is that they barely know you, so they can't compliment on anything else because they don't know that much about you.
Aletheia
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This I have learned: if something positive about my boyfriend comes to mind, it is worth taking the risk to say it. There is no one so secure that they don't need to hear it. And that never stops being true.
(Scary, though. Oh no! he might see how much he means to me.)