How to get a girlfriend if you dont have any friends?

[shybutsexy]

So people usually get a girlfriend/boyfriend by one of the followings.

- A friend introduces you to one of his friends
- You go to a party (apparently of one of your friends, otherwise you were not invited) you meet a girl there, like each other, and live hapily ever after.
- The girl was already in your group of friends, but just recently started to like each other.
- ???

And if you dont have any friends, how are you supposed to get a girlfriend? is there some other method?

Or better yet, why would a girl want to be your girlfriend if you dont have any friends?

 

[Ithior]

I guess there's online dating, I've seen some people here with good results using that.

 

[ukmale]

Try joining clubs groups going out ect
Thought about going to night school you have to go out music gigs open Mic ect if you want one you have to be known they don't know your alive if you don't go out there
Or online

But sadly for me my friends set me up as they think I'm ***** as I don't date oh only if they knew the truth .... I hate being tiny and no longer to live a life being tiny

 

[tito_ramos]

If you don't have friends, then don't try looking for a girlfriend. Don't think that being in a relationship is something really worth it. Something really all that special. It feels good sometimes but that's it. Don't look for it. Too many people out there to just look at one. Friends to make and a life to live.

 

[Flanscho]

Friends are more important in my opinion. Good friends are more likely to last for a lifetime than relationships. And you meet more people the more good friends you have, making it also more likely to find a partner.

 

[Hellhound]

why would a girl want to be your girlfriend if you dont have any friends?

Why would that matter to her if she truly loves you?

Friends are more important in my opinion. Good friends are more likely to last for a lifetime than relationships. And you meet more people the more good friends you have, making it also more likely to find a partner.

Completely agree.

 

[shybutsexy]

Why would that matter to her if she truly loves you?
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Probably wouldnt matter, the question is, will she love me if i dont have any friends?

Friends are more important in my opinion. Good friends are more likely to last for a lifetime than relationships. And you meet more people the more good friends you have, making it also more likely to find a partner.

Friends are just as hard to get as a partner, but i guess im looking for love, not friends, ive had friends before, what i never had is a gf, and im 24 years old :sad:, ive never even been close, and its killing me. I wish i could have friends too but at least i already did that before, so i have no psychological traumas about that, i can add it to my "things to do before you die" checklist, but the partner thing is something that really makes me feel terrible. I dont know whats wrong with me, and why is it so impossible for me and so easy for everyone else.

I guess there's online dating, I've seen some people here with good results using that.

Im extremely bad at this, dont know how its done, somehow girls wont reply my messages lol, im not even ugly. Anyway, the point is that when the girl realizes that i dont have any friends she wont want to talk to me anymore, will think im some kind of weirdo, but oh well... i guess ill keep trying, thanks.

 

[Hellhound]

Probably wouldnt matter, the question is, will she love me if i dont have any friends?

Why not? :idontknow:

 

[Ithior]

Im extremely bad at this, dont know how its done, somehow girls wont reply my messages lol, im not even ugly. Anyway, the point is that when the girl realizes that i dont have any friends she wont want to talk to me anymore, will think im some kind of weirdo, but oh well... i guess ill keep trying, thanks.

Well I never really tried it myself, but if I was older and lived in the USA I'd probably give it a shot. There are some threads around where people post how it worked out for them.

 

[Richey]

Girls like guys that are either attractive, tall or very confident personalities. They like guys who have swagger and goals. It's that simple. They tend to avoid guys that either try too hard or who seem awkward and unsure of themselves.

I've never met a date through parties, though some people have. I guess if it happens then that's great.

If you are shy, nerdy, unsure, they don't like it. It's that simple. Unless the girl is very confident and wants to drive the relationship and turns the tables or something like that.

Try your best to just live your life without thinking about this stuff. Dating and potential relationships will only give you a headache thinking about them. If the right people come along, then great, but it's not always like that.

The issue isn't if you have a lot of friends or not. Unless she is really judgemental. Who knows. Good luck.

 

[Hellhound]

Girls like guys that are either attractive, tall or very confident personalities. They like guys who have swagger and goals. It's that simple. They tend to avoid guys that either try too hard or who seem awkward and unsure of themselves.

I've never met a date through parties, though some people have. I guess if it happens then that's great.

If you are shy, nerdy, unsure, they don't like it. It's that simple. Unless the girl is very confident and wants to drive the relationship and turns the tables or something like that.

Nice generalization. Do I need to repeat that not everyone is the same? God, this sort of comments upset me.

Also "Swagger"? Are you serious?

Because liek omg liek dude liek man liek isnt this ttly cute? liek so much swag liek dude liek omg omg omg omg i want a bf liek dat cuz so badass n bad boi cuz liek they r tuff n nerds r dum i haet nerds eww -makes duckface-

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-Commits sepukku-

 

[shybutsexy]

Why not? :idontknow:

I dont know, not sure where am i gonna find a girl that does though, maybe in Mars.

 

[shybutsexy]

Girls like guys that are either attractive, tall or very confident personalities. They like guys who have swagger and goals. It's that simple. They tend to avoid guys that either try too hard or who seem awkward and unsure of themselves.

I've never met a date through parties, though some people have. I guess if it happens then that's great.

If you are shy, nerdy, unsure, they don't like it. It's that simple. Unless the girl is very confident and wants to drive the relationship and turns the tables or something like that.

I think they just like guys who can talk, or make them laugh, i cant.

 

[TreeBones]

I think it goes both ways, and you should feel better because I think the pressure is mostly on the girls with SA. Girls are supposed to be all social and have flocks of friends. Personally I wouldn't care, and that's not just because I don't have any friends myself.

 

[ukmale]

I think they just like guys who can talk, or make them laugh, i cant.

Dude find a shy girl at least u can over come ur shyness think about guys like me so go out there u will fall and fail but hold ur head up high and keep fighting always be proud of urself 1st learn to love urself then girls will love you

 

[Hellhound]

I think they just like guys who can talk, or make them laugh, i cant.

Why not just look for a clown? They are pretty successful at making people laugh :question:

 

[Klonoa]

They like guys who have swagger and goals.

 

[skins]

dont worry, its not the be all and end all if you dont have friends...its no deal breaker if she likes you. It will be brought up at some point in conversation when you get to know them better...at which point you just say you are extremely shy and find it hard to meet new people. no biggie. Although like you said if you dont have a big circle of friends it can be harder to find someone in the first place, and you need to consider internet dating, speed dating and the like to overcome this.

 

[Richey]

Clearly the term swagger has ruffled a few feathers here.
well sorrryyyy.
h:

 

[skins]

Clearly the term swagger has ruffled a few feathers here.
well sorrryyyy.
h:

dont worry mate, everyone knew what you meant by swager...a guy with plenty of self confidence....i guess some people just find it an easy retort when you use a pop culture slang reference. some people need to be reminded you weren't attacking women as basing their judgement of a potential mate on shallow stero-typical behavioural patterns.