Darn, kick myself for doing this

[cowboyup]

I could kick myself...dumb move and I KNOW NOT TO DO THIS....

I was talking with my NY friend, and he'd mentioned something about shooting some more pics at a meet up event he had attended....of course I want to see his work (BTW couldn't find it - didn't put it up yet I guess) but one website led to another and before you know it I am looking at a facebook page of his ex gf. There I am, looking, scrolling just like a big old troll! DAMN! She's gorgeous, locally famous-ish, did I mention how pretty she is? Why do I care? He and I are Friends...no more, no less....
Then I just had to keep on clicking, right? why, why do I do that?

Like some self-imposed 'gluttin for punishment' or something.

Well, long story short, I am now feeling a bit sad and lonely. And just even more confirmation that I need to push myself to get out to do something with my life.

Does anyone ever 'accidentally' do this and then afterwards you feel icky?

 

[Aron]

I avoid facebook like plague. But sometimes, I don't know why, I get on and search for old schoolmates, and things like that. Then I get superdepressed, seeing how everybody else has a life, and I don't.

 

[cowboyup]

and I KNOW NOT to do this for that very reason.
I get anxious, depressed, lonely-feeling and sad.
h:

 

[Hoppy]

Oh yes!!, the late night pointless clicking through on facebook, scrolling through endless friend lists, clicking on any name that looks even vaguely familiar and semi-stalking girls I've only met once on facebook and twitter.

It tends to happen when I am tired and too lazy to stand up and go do something useful.

I don't really have any solution for that except trying to be mindful on internet use.

(And I am sitting on the chair, a cat sleeping on my legs and mindlessly watching college humor video's tonight.)

 

[cowboyup]

Oh yes!!, the late night pointless clicking through on facebook, scrolling through endless friend lists, clicking on any name that looks even vaguely familiar and semi-stalking girls I've only met once on facebook and twitter.

It tends to happen when I am tired and too lazy to stand up and go do something useful.

I don't really have any solution for that except trying to be mindful on internet use.

(And I am sitting on the chair, a cat sleeping on my legs and mindlessly watching college humor video's tonight.)

@hoppy, College humor videos and a cat sleeping on your lap is 100% better

*as I quickly turn to Youtube and look up Lewis C.K....*

 

[SmileMore]

Eurgh Facebook is evil! I've done exactly the same thing even though i know i'll feel terrible afterwards. Just try and avoid it if you feel the urge to loo at things you know will upset you.

 

[Hoppy]

Never heard of him before, but I've just watched a short video of him.

I really should go to bed, checking forums for new posts 10 minutes apart is never a good thing.

 

[MikeyC]

Then I get superdepressed, seeing how everybody else has a life, and I don't.

If people on Facebook posted about all the stuff they're not doing, I guarantee you it'd take up most of your news feed. People project a more positive stance of their lives on Facebook, so all you see are the parties they attend, or the nice restaurants they're going to, or the cool people they hang out with, or the clubs they're drinking at. They're not posting photos of the times they have the flu and are bedridden, or the times they're sad about a friend cutting ties with them, or about that wart in a private part of their body that needs lancing.

cowboyup, no need to compare yourself to a girl you don't know. If I was comparing myself to all the hot, buff, six-pack-laden-with-muscles-on-muscles guys out there, I would be very depressed, too.

And don't forget: she may be hot, but she's an ex-girlfriend. Looks are not everything.

 

[zen_mistress]

I got a facebook account because I was trying to find an old friend after a natural disaster happened and I was worried they were caught up in it. Otherwise I never would have signed up.

I never enjoyed being on there, I just ended up seeing photos of people whose lives were better than mine and I found myself hiding the newsfeeds of perfectly nice people for that reason, also I realised I didnt really have anything to write. So I dont go on it at all now, except to look at some groups. I have considered deleting my account but that seems a little extreme.

 

[jc972]

I get on there and troll a bit, keep a check on the few people I'd like to catch walking down a dirt road at night.

 

[Aron]

They're not posting photos of the times they have the flu and are bedridden, or the times they're sad about a friend cutting ties with them, or about that wart in a private part of their body that needs lancing.

Yeah, and every one of those things you listed (and anything else someone without SA can experience), is still better than having SA. Those things are a normal part of life. SA is not.
Of course they are showing only the good moments, but that still doesn't change the fact, that they have something which I don't, and will never have, a very basic thing, which should be part of every human's life: connecting with other people.

 

[neardeath]

Who hasn't done some peeking on Facebook? I am ready to remove ALL the "friends" from FB and just leave the space/astronomy pages on there so I can have pure Spacebook. Or, maybe just keep family members on?

It makes us all crazy in different ways. I deleted tons of friends many times in the past. It also makes me feel guilty for not interacting with these people. Guilt and trouble.

It's amazing what people post. And I thought I was sick!

 

[mismeek]

You shouldn't feel icky.. its natural human curiosity. Sometimes I just do it.. and get it out of my system.. You feel better sometimes

 

[skins]

Yeah, and every one of those things you listed (and anything else someone without SA can experience), is still better than having SA. Those things are a normal part of life. SA is not.
Of course they are showing only the good moments, but that still doesn't change the fact, that they have something which I don't, and will never have, a very basic thing, which should be part of every human's life: connecting with other people.

yeh agreed, MikeyC you're over simplifying things..you just have to look at the friends list of most people on FB compared to that of a typical SA sufferers...granted 80-90% of friends on facebook you wouldn't normally see anyway, but of those 10-20% remaining, most people are keeping in touch with in real life, going to interesting social events with them...An SA sufferer doesn't even have this.

 

[MikeyC]

^ Fair enough. I stand by what I said but I can see your points of view.