Worried about my wedding

jryden

jryden

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Can you imagine ughhh your wedding day being the center of attention.
Ok so first of all I tend to worry about things like this then I look in the mirror and laugh at the thought of anyone wanting to marry me lol No really, I actually laugh and then feel depressed.

But if I did meet someone and was going to get married, I will do anything to avoid a wedding. Sucks though to have a mom who would be pissed off if I didnt have a wedding.

I know its my day but still, if you can relate.

Still laughing at the fact that things like this worry me yet I dont even date.
 
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laure15

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If I have a wedding, it will be at a small place. I will only invite maybe 5 people and get it done quickly.
 
Hoppy

Hoppy

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When my parents got married there were 6 people in the church, including the organist and the preacher.

And my mother said when I get married all she wanted is a short email telling her I've done it.

And I wonder where my problems come from.
 
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nightcrawler

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I can totally relate. I even hate going to other peoples weddings! I very much doubt I'll get married, but if I did (never say never!) then it would either 1) have to be a small, quick wedding. or 2) I'd have to be under some kind of medication to be able to handle it! Anyway, good luck :)
 
Starry

Starry

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My wedding was very small... We had three members of my husband's family and four members of mine (I won't go into the fact we were supposed to have three members of my family but my mother decided otherwise and went behind our backs and caused a lot of stress and problems in the build up), plus the vicar... And I still panicked... I actually semi-fainted in the church whilst we were doing the vows... So of course, everyone rushed over... I was so incredibly embarrassed! The only bit of the day which wasn't scary was the horse and carriage ride... Whilst I was in the carriage I felt wonderfully cam... Pity about the rest of it lol.

So yes, weddings are anxious times, even if you do everything to keep them as small and un-stressful as possible.
 
Richey

Richey

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the ceremonies are a waste of money. sure they are nice, but its a 4 hour stimulus, mainly to please the bride and maybe certain members of the immediate family. Its completely conformist, but people like doing it through being conditioned that its normal so you must do it, which is of course open to opinion.

Just have the papers signed, go out for a weekend away, maybe go to a restaurant with some family to celebrate it. I personally know that i'm not built for it, i'd probably just be frozen in fright all night feeling ill, maybe not that bad but close enough to it.
 
Section_31

Section_31

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LOL....

Our wedding was, in short, a ****ing NIGHTMARE. omg. I have a huge family and were all quite close, so i had 30+ relatives come out, SHE had 30+ relatives come out, many of whom she hadnt seen in 10+ yrs....she was a nervous wreck to the point where she couldnt keep anything down and was trembling, we went to the doctor to get what we call some "nuclear calmdown medication". which worked wonders. We actually pissed everyone off, when, 11 pm the night beforehand, she was still scared and i asked outright what would make her happy. she replied she didnt want to wait untill the next day, that she wanted to get married that night, right there, in our condo. And then the next day we'd still attend the ceremony and go through the motions for everyone. And thats exactly what we did. I called our pastor, who is actually an awsome dude, told him what we wanted and he was totally slack and relaxed about it. Called her parents, who got mad, called MY parents, who got mad, called my cousin who was my best friend and best man, called her bridesmaid, who was HER best friend and one of my exes =X, and a few others. Aaaaaand we got married at 11 pm in our PJ's in our living room LOL. And the next day she was calm, everything went off without a hitch in front of everyone.

No matter WHAT you do, your GOING to piss someone off, be it seating arrangements, food, location, whatever. Everyone has an opinion. Shake it off and do what makes you guys happy. When our parents tried to raise a stink i had to calmly tell them they were invited, and they were entitled to feel how they felt, but that it was happening. Be there or not it was their choice.

Kinda felt good to stir the pot a bit, LOL
 
jryden

jryden

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The Lone Gunman said:
LOL....

Our wedding was, in short, a ****ing NIGHTMARE. omg. I have a huge family and were all quite close, so i had 30+ relatives come out, SHE had 30+ relatives come out, many of whom she hadnt seen in 10+ yrs....she was a nervous wreck to the point where she couldnt keep anything down and was trembling, we went to the doctor to get what we call some "nuclear calmdown medication". which worked wonders. We actually pissed everyone off, when, 11 pm the night beforehand, she was still scared and i asked outright what would make her happy. she replied she didnt want to wait untill the next day, that she wanted to get married that night, right there, in our condo. And then the next day we'd still attend the ceremony and go through the motions for everyone. And thats exactly what we did. I called our pastor, who is actually an awsome dude, told him what we wanted and he was totally slack and relaxed about it. Called her parents, who got mad, called MY parents, who got mad, called my cousin who was my best friend and best man, called her bridesmaid, who was HER best friend and one of my exes =X, and a few others. Aaaaaand we got married at 11 pm in our PJ's in our living room LOL. And the next day she was calm, everything went off without a hitch in front of everyone.

No matter WHAT you do, your GOING to piss someone off, be it seating arrangements, food, location, whatever. Everyone has an opinion. Shake it off and do what makes you guys happy. When our parents tried to raise a stink i had to calmly tell them they were invited, and they were entitled to feel how they felt, but that it was happening. Be there or not it was their choice.

Kinda felt good to stir the pot a bit, LOL
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That's so cute getting married in your pjs. Now thats a dream wedding lol

Yea, I'm thinking the stress of pissing my mom/family friends off is not as bad as the stress of the wedding itself so I'd rather deal with that.
 
jryden

jryden

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Richey said:
the ceremonies are a waste of money. sure they are nice, but its a 4 hour stimulus, mainly to please the bride and maybe certain members of the immediate family. Its completely conformist, but people like doing it through being conditioned that its normal so you must do it, which is of course open to opinion.

Just have the papers signed, go out for a weekend away, maybe go to a restaurant with some family to celebrate it. I personally know that i'm not built for it, i'd probably just be frozen in fright all night feeling ill, maybe not that bad but close enough to it.
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I agree. The amount of money I've heard people spend on weddings is INSANE! I'd rather have a small wedding that doesnt cost much or elope and save that money for our new life together and also a honey moon.
LIke you said its done to please certain ppl. I dont want a big, expensive wedding and if my fiance (crossing my fingers lol) doesnt want one either, its not happening. Its not like my parents have the money to even pay for it.
 
Section_31

Section_31

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Yea :S, another thing too is people get wedding crazy!. Especially moms!. Her parents raised a huge storm when we didnt pick the ceremony they wanted.....WAAAAY to religious for us. This went on for months untill i bluntly said "ok whos getting married here?? you? or us?". That kind of ended it....

Stick to your guns and always do what makes you happy. its YOUR day. not anyone elses.
 
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