Knowing peoples names, do you know them?

[Little Miss Muffet]

Lets say you talk with someone for about 2 months but they never use your name, youre not sure if they know it or not. How does it make feel?

 

[NeonDream]

I usually don't mind when people forget my name because I straggle remembering people's names too and for that I would actually feel relief if someone forgot my name.

 

[Little Miss Muffet]

Hi NeonDream, but lets say this person never once used your used your name. For me it kinda feels like I dont have a genuine relationship with them

 

[Silatuyok]

I don't usually use people's names, even if I've known them for years. I wouldn't let it reflect on the quality of your relationship with that person.

 

[DeadmanWalking]

If I think someone doesn't know my name, I point it out to them and jokingly ask them if they forgot my name. I forget people's names all the time, sometimes right after they told it to me::; it's not a sign of a bad relationship, I believe. Just ask them if they could refer to you by your name more often. If they don't, then that may be a sign of a bad relationship.

 

[Little Miss Muffet]

Thank you Absolutely Sweet Marie - if I know the person knows my name then its ok but if they talk to me and we are becoming close and they dont know it then it hurts; to me it means what we have means nothing

 

[psych]

I'd probably look 'em direct, & ask.... "What's my name?" with one eyebrow cocked, naturally... small smile on my face... ::

Did ya ever forget someone's name...? Especially when there's nobody around to ask? I hate that. & Sometimes it's a person you bump into consistently.

I meet tons of people at my job. Faces I know, names escape me.

So, what kind of talk, for 2 months, where?

 

[Little Miss Muffet]

that[/I] may be a sign of a bad relationship.

Hi Deadman,

But if you genuinely like that person you would know it?? If you dont like someone so much then it kinda doesnt matter; but if you like them you know it, agree or disagree??

 

[DeadmanWalking]

Hi Deadman,

But if you genuinely like that person you would know it?? If you dont like someone so much then it kinda doesnt matter; but if you like them you know it, agree or disagree??

If I genuinely liked them? As in had a crush? Most likely. I'm ditzy in that aspect::. As for the matter of people I'm not really concerned with knowing my name, well, I'd kinda be happy if they didn't since it'll mean they'll leave me alone.

 

[Little Miss Muffet]

I'd probably look 'em direct, & ask.... "What's my name?" with one eyebrow cocked, naturally... small smile on my face... ::

Did ya ever forget someone's name...? Especially when there's nobody around to ask? I hate that. & Sometimes it's a person you bump into consistently.

I meet tons of people at my job. Faces I know, names escape me.

So, what kind of talk, for 2 months, where?

Hi Psych

I wanted to write this post but it had to be more specific really. I do not know everybodys name in my jobs. Especially the foreign people. But people who I LIKE and that are important for me I do.

This person wasnt like just an aquaintance. We were entering into a relationship. To me for him to not know the most basic question means we had nothing.

 

[Little Miss Muffet]

If I genuinely liked them? As in had a crush? Most likely. I'm ditzy in that aspect::.

Yes exactly thank you In my opinion, If you know this basic question she will know you are genuinely interested in her x




( quote=DeadmanWalking;627301)As for the matter of people I'm not really concerned with knowing my name, well, I'd kinda be happy if they didn't since it'll mean they'll leave me alone.

We are kinda the same on this lol

 

[MikeyC]

Strangely enough, I'm actually not too bad with names. One of the things I can remember sort of well.

 

[Naddy]

I like it when people remember my name. It makes me feel like they care about me, and it makes me happy. If they don't, I feel like I'm not that important to them, or they just don't like me. But that's not always the case. Sometimes my brain actually works and I think of the possibility that they're just not good at remembering names. ::

99% of the time I remember names, so for some reason I expect other people to be the same...

 

[THeCARS1979]

I dont mind it cause sometimes i forget to ask people names at work

 

[lilmutegirl]

I rarely use people's names unless I'm trying to get their attention. I'm usually afraid I will call them by the wrong name by mistake.
I actually dislike it when people use my name in conversation. It seems like there is a real emphasis on me if they do that, and it makes me uncomfortable.

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

I'm terrible with names, so I don't care.
If anything-- them not remembering my name would make me feel less bad that I don't know theirs, either.

 

[KiaKaha]

I think using names is important. It shows repsect, interest and warmth when dealing with other people. When you use someones name you aren't just using to get their attention, what you are really saying is "I know who you are, and have taken the time and interest to acknowledge you as a person" - who wouldnt like that?

Sometimes I dont know peoples names because I am initially reserved when approaching someone, and it usually takes a while before I remember them. After that though once I am used to being around a person I will use their name...especially when trying to get to know them as a person.

 

[MikeyC]

I like it when people remember my name. It makes me feel like they care about me, and it makes me happy. If they don't, I feel like I'm not that important to them, or they just don't like me.

Yeah, I can agree with this. Others remembering my name makes me feel like I was worth remembering.

 

[Kat]

I'm terrible with names, so I don't care.
If anything-- them not remembering my name would make me feel less bad that I don't know theirs, either.

Yeah, I’m terrible with names it’s got nothing to do really with what I think about them I have a terrible memory I’m more a visual person I remember faces quite well.

I may feel a bit bad if they forget mine when I know they tend to remember that kind of detail.

 

[MikeyC]

There is a policewoman at work whose name I forgot for about 2 years. She would always say, "hi Michael, how are you?" when she saw me, but I would always say, "good, thanks. How are you?" when replying, careful not to say any names. Every time I saw her with her tag on it would never say her name, just her police number, so I could never sneak a peek.

One day recently, she was talking with some others and one of them said her name, and now it's stuck firmly in my head. "Hey, Michael, how are you today?" "Hi, Deborah. I'm good, Deborah. How are you, Deborah?" ::