I hate being so aloof with her. She's always nice when I do talk to her. Hes not really my boyfriend, more of a friend. Our relationship is complicated. I do see his mom on occassion. I'd just wish I knew what to talk about with her. I prefer keeping my relationship with my friend private and don't really like talking about him with her.
What things do you talk about with your bf or husband's mom?
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MikeyC
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With my girlfriend last year, I would sometimes have to chat with her mum and it was okay. She was kind of a cranky woman so it was difficult at times but I knew she liked me. Her brother was a drug-taking maniac, but I ended up having a few conversations with him, too, so that was okay, even though I was deathly afraid of him.
A good, close female friend of mine from a couple of years ago introduced me to her mum once when I went interstate. She immediately said, "oh, a face to the name!" She liked me instantly. Her dad, in more X-rated terms, told me I should've had sex with his daughter...but that's a story for another time.
Anyway, the point is that you should just be normal with the parents. I always acted myself and I would sometimes get along better with the parents than my female friends! Light chit-chat usually works. Good luck!
A good, close female friend of mine from a couple of years ago introduced me to her mum once when I went interstate. She immediately said, "oh, a face to the name!" She liked me instantly. Her dad, in more X-rated terms, told me I should've had sex with his daughter...but that's a story for another time.
Anyway, the point is that you should just be normal with the parents. I always acted myself and I would sometimes get along better with the parents than my female friends! Light chit-chat usually works. Good luck!
What Mikey said, just be yourself. I admit that I have the same problem with my bf's mother. It's only because I'm shy and I'm afraid of doing or saying something wrong in her eyes though. Actually I'm afraid to do things wrong in front of anyone but I'm working on building confidence for that. You'll be fine 
Perhaps talk about it to your bf about it.
Perhaps talk about it to your bf about it.
What Mikey said, just be yourself. I admit that I have the same problem with my bf's mother. It's only because I'm shy and I'm afraid of doing or saying something wrong in her eyes though. Actually I'm afraid to do things wrong in front of anyone but I'm working on building confidence for that. You'll be fine
I have. IDK, a part of it I want to look good in her eyes KWIM so in a way I feel the less she knows about me, the bettr.
WeirdyMcGee
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I've had one boyfriend.
His mother HATED me and let it be known constantly.
She actually kicked him out of the house the minute he turned 18 and listed me as one of the reasons he wasn't allowed to live with her 'new family'.
So, naturally... she never wanted to speak with me, so I never had this problem.
I did speak with the family members on his father's side frequently, though.
We'd talk about every day things. The news, weather, family issues, upcoming events...
I think as long as you don't go into detail about intimate sexual exploits-- it's all good.
haha
Talk to his/her family members the same way you would talk to your own.
His mother HATED me and let it be known constantly.
She actually kicked him out of the house the minute he turned 18 and listed me as one of the reasons he wasn't allowed to live with her 'new family'.
So, naturally... she never wanted to speak with me, so I never had this problem.
I did speak with the family members on his father's side frequently, though.
We'd talk about every day things. The news, weather, family issues, upcoming events...
I think as long as you don't go into detail about intimate sexual exploits-- it's all good.
haha
Talk to his/her family members the same way you would talk to your own.
shakethelight
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I'm painfully shy, unless I'm comfortable, so maybe youre like that as well. But I think she should start the convo. Most of the boyfriends I had their moms always started to talk to me first and made things easier for me. I don't know if its because my then bfs let it be known how shy I was or what. And the parents that I didnt get along with were the ones who didnt make an effort with me and vice versa.
Just try to make some type of small talk.
Just try to make some type of small talk.
MikeyC
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She doesn't know about me. She has no idea her son is in a relationship. She treats him like a little kid. She's also racist, controlling TO THE EXTREME and very ignorant. She's just a crazy person I hope I never get to meet, really.