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Pookah said:
I don't think the therapist will be too disappointed if you managed to even go as far as chat someone up or make a friend. Those are pretty big steps too.

I mean does she/he want you to find a stranger or?
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Na she specifically said date. And to try online. She thinks that if I get it over with the fear of it will subside. She said that if it goes horribly then I dont have to see the person again, and if it goes well then great. Although considering how screwed up my self esteem already is I personally dont think a horrible first date is gonna work wonders on my social anxiety. Therapists are BS anyways. I dunno
 
ILovePocky

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Scared. I went to the doctor today and I have a psychiatrist appointment on Monday and I just don't know how I'm feeling. Kind of sick?
I made my mom so upset at the doctor's office :(
I know it's good to get help and I want to get my life together but at the same time I'm absolutely terrified.
 
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I'm trying out something new. i really hope this works, i haven't had an actual good day in such a long time and i know its all because of my self inflicted pessimism. well...here it goes...all or nothing
 
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PipsMcClawski said:
Na she specifically said date. And to try online. She thinks that if I get it over with the fear of it will subside. She said that if it goes horribly then I dont have to see the person again, and if it goes well then great. Although considering how screwed up my self esteem already is I personally dont think a horrible first date is gonna work wonders on my social anxiety. Therapists are BS anyways. I dunno
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you should come hang out with me

next weekend is Fall Fest

Miss Wisconsin might be here
 
superfluouslyme

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ILovePocky said:
Scared. I went to the doctor today and I have a psychiatrist appointment on Monday and I just don't know how I'm feeling. Kind of sick?
I made my mom so upset at the doctor's office :(
I know it's good to get help and I want to get my life together but at the same time I'm absolutely terrified.
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First, can I just say "YAY, you're back!" I've missed talking to you. I'm sorry your feeling so bad. Is this the first time you are seeing a psychiatrist? My first time, I was so scared that I had to have my mom go with me. But it turned out okay. They want to help you. Let them. I know it's easier said than done, and being scared is perfectly normal, but try to think of all the benefits you'll get from this. It's one huge step towards feeling better. :)
 
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I feel like I'm kind of...getting bored with my bf. We've only recently became official per say cause he was begging me to give us a try and i said ok I'll just go with the flow. We've been very good friends for almost a year but I feel like we know almost everything about eachother and don't have much to talk about anymore like in the beginning when we would text all the time, talk for hours. Now when i go out with him it's just..meh. I don't feel any excitement, i never felt any spark...in the back of my mind I always thought smth just didnt feel right, but i pushed that away thinking it's all in my head and that i'm just afraid to get attached to a guy, cause it's kind of my first time.
 
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Vamp said:
I feel like I'm kind of...getting bored with my bf. We've only recently became official per say cause he was begging me to give us a try and i said ok I'll just go with the flow. We've been very good friends for almost a year but I feel like we know almost everything about eachother and don't have much to talk about anymore like in the beginning when we would text all the time, talk for hours. Now when i go out with him it's just..meh. I don't feel any excitement, i never felt any spark...in the back of my mind I always thought smth just didnt feel right, but i pushed that away thinking it's all in my head and that i'm just afraid to get attached to a guy, cause it's kind of my first time.
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Hehe, I did this too, except the guy I went out with wasn't even my really close friend. He was a friend, but...... meh, the whole thing was just pathetic. Needless to say, I never felt a "spark" at all, because I WASN'T ATTRACTED TO HIM. I honestly don't know what I was thinking :S, but I will NEVER make that mistake again. If there's no attraction, there's NO DATE. Haha.
 
Rufus

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Beatrice... and I thought us guys were odd! XD

How exactly did you get into a relationship with a person you don't like? Can't say I've that problem yet but I'm just a little curious ::p:
 
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Rufus said:
Beatrice... and I thought us guys were odd! XD

How exactly did you get into a relationship with a person you don't like? Can't say I've that problem yet but I'm just a little curious ::p:
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Well, to be brutally honest, I convinced myself I liked him. I was going through pretty bad depression at the time and was horribly lonely - when I get depressed like that I absolutely need at least ONE good friend, and I didn't have any..... So when we started talking I just latched onto him and..... yeah.

Won't go into more details, but I am quite ashamed of the whole thing. We got pretty intimate, which is the part I am most ashamed of. At least it was a learning experience. Even though I'm embarrassed about it, I think something like that was inevitable. It would have happened to me anyway, even if it wasn't with HIM. But now I've learned and.... NEVER again!
 
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Beatrice said:
Hehe, I did this too, except the guy I went out with wasn't even my really close friend. He was a friend, but...... meh, the whole thing was just pathetic. Needless to say, I never felt a "spark" at all, because I WASN'T ATTRACTED TO HIM. I honestly don't know what I was thinking :S, but I will NEVER make that mistake again. If there's no attraction, there's NO DATE. Haha.
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Same here, I'm not attracted to him, hes a nice funny person and my best friend, but it's just not enough, not to mention some things about his attitude put me off. I've been going back and forth with him because i wouldnt make up my mind, one day I would decide this is it i don't want to be with him, then the next day we would meet and I would say whats wrong with me why can't I give this relationship a chance.
Honestly I think i've been doing this because i didn't want to be so inexperienced at 21...and he's my only friend who cares about me and i hang out with. I have no one else.I'm so ****ing lonely. And also seeing all these couples around made me frustrated. Some of my classmates at college I'm pretty sure think i'm a loser cause they never saw me with a bf.
 
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OK so I have a few 'friends' but I didn't really think that they liked me. We always talked about going to amsterdam throughout school.Then I just find out they all went without me. I am so angry upset I don't even know how I feel. I am a friendless virgin loser what is the point of me being alive.
 
MrJones

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RandyMarsh said:
OK so I have a few 'friends' but I didn't really think that they liked me. We always talked about going to amsterdam throughout school.Then I just find out they all went without me. I am so angry upset I don't even know how I feel. I am a friendless virgin loser what is the point of me being alive.
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I'm a friendless virgin loser whose so-called friends (years ago) went to other places again and again without saying a word (including Amsterdam lol).

The point of being alive.... I don't know, I don't know if things will be perfect tomorrow, but what is true is that things can change. You can make them change. Just don't give up too soon and keep trying :)
 
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MrJones said:
I'm a friendless virgin loser whose so-called friends (years ago) went to other places again and again without saying a word (including Amsterdam lol).

The point of being alive.... I don't know, I don't know if things will be perfect tomorrow, but what is true is that things can change. You can make them change. Just don't give up too soon and keep trying :)
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^I agree. My so called friends ignore me all the time too, sometimes I think they don't even care that I'm with them. And btw you guys are not friendless losers (can't say about virgins lol) you got all of us here.
 
RandyMarsh

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OK so I am just wallowing in self pity here I need something to cheer me up asap. My life revolves around tv cos I never leave the house, the least they could do is make some good programmes, everything is s**t. I am in such a negative mood right now
 
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My dad is so socially awkward. He actually makes me look good sometimes LOL :D
 
BlackPuma

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MrJones said:
I'm a friendless virgin loser whose so-called friends (years ago) went to other places again and again without saying a word (including Amsterdam lol).

The point of being alive.... I don't know, I don't know if things will be perfect tomorrow, but what is true is that things can change. You can make them change. Just don't give up too soon and keep trying :)
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And you didn't even bother visit you good mate Puma? :C I live not 15-20 minutes away from there. You should've come, I stock pizza like it's oxygen. :3
 
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