What do females think of males with no friends?

[boro]

So I was inspired by silentknights post about male virgins and decided to address another source of embarrassment that can some affect some males with social anxiety...well at any rate it has definitely affected me! Obviously their are many females with few or no friends too, but do you think this is viewed more favourably by males, like in a similar way to how (generally speaking) shyness in a girl is often seen as being less of a turn off amongst males compared to shy males with women? Your thoughts?

 

[***deleted***]

I find it to be the opposite.
I see more women with shy men, than men with shy women.

 

[KnuffleBunny]

Wouldn't change my feelings.

 

[lunarla]

I actually like when a guy does more of his own thing, rather then constantly being with a group of friends. And being completely okay with that.

 

[KnuffleBunny]

I've always had a soft spot for guys with few or no friends. I guess I always assume that they have a confidence and self-esteem issue and a part of me wants to wake them up a bit and show them how great they are etc etc. You know how it is with nosey womens wanting to fix everything yada yada Seriously though, it makes me sad to see people lonely and feeling out of place, guys or girls. I'm more likely to care if it's a guy though idk why dont ask me

^ This.

 

[Vampayah88]

It wouldn't be a problem to me at all (and it would kind of make me feel better, knowing i'm not the only one in this situation)

 

[megalon]

As a guy, the fact that I have no friends does trouble me more than the virgin thing. Maybe it's because you don't have to mention being a virgin, and it's unlikely anyone would ask. If you don't have friends though, that's much more obvious.

 

[MrJones]

I wish I'll meet a girl like the ones in this forum...

And like megalon, I think it's worse having no friends that being a virgin. I'm ok being virgin, I just want to find someone with whom I can talk, to hug and love

 

[takethislife]

I don't think you're gonna find your answer here. After all, this IS social phobia world so I guess not many girls are gonna say it's a turn off for them. In real life, I'd say girls think of guys with no friends exactly what you'd guess for them to think.

 

[Mickery]

I say it's somewhere between the two. Everybody - and I mean everybody makes snap judgements about other people from an impersonal perspective. There's nothing wrong with that in principle, it's just the way our minds work. If you tried to have a deep understanding of everybody ever, your head would explode. But I think it's just as true that people are less judgemental when they get to know somebody or have a reason to be particularly understanding.

Which is why, personally, I would not be inclined to make my SA known until I know the other party was already taking an interest to some extent. It stops their natural inclinations from giving an immediate response and instead they consider the matter it as it applies to you.

 

[IGotSeoul]

Any woman who thinks down on a man for being alone, whether volitional or unwillingly, is not a woman I'd want thinking about me to begin with.

 

[Nanita]

I don´t think I care if a guy has no friends. My partners have all had so many friends and I have never been so fond of too much hanging out with boyfriends friends... Because I always always feel I´m too different and social fobic to be a part of all that. I wish my next partner don´t have friends!!!

 

[recluse]

As a guy, the fact that I have no friends does trouble me more than the virgin thing. Maybe it's because you don't have to mention being a virgin, and it's unlikely anyone would ask. If you don't have friends though, that's much more obvious.

I agree. People ask ''how was your weekend'' and talk about their social lives and you feel left out. No one really asks if you are a virgin.