Question for shy guys

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maddielol

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Shy guys.. how do I know if you are shy?
I go to the library very often and i do encounter some guys i wouldn't mind dating, they are cute and intellectual.. but the thing is.. are guys that go the library or even work there, are they shy? Cause I dont know Theres this one guy i have my eyes on and im not sure if he's shy...... hes quiet, looks at me nothing else...

shy guys in libraries, or in general, if you never met a girl before and you seen a girl you liked or whatnot or were attracted to? what would you do? how would you act?
 
mrb

mrb

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people go to the library lol for all sorts of things , it dont mean there shy , but this man you speak of hmmm , dunno maybe he likes you , soppose he must if he keeps looking at you :) just try talking to him lolzz faint heart never won fair lady they say or the other way around for us blokes , but someone has to crack and make the first move ;)
 
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maddielol

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mrb said:
people go to the library lol for all sorts of things , it dont mean there shy , but this man you speak of hmmm , dunno maybe he likes you , soppose he must if he keeps looking at you :) just try talking to him lolzz faint heart never won fair lady they say or the other way around for us blokes , but someone has to crack and make the first move ;)
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i dont know how to :(
 
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maddielol

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mrb said:
ok just go up to him and say oi you ;) you keep looking at me and i keep looking at you :confused: this is silly lets go out on a date ;) there you go lolzzz do it gazza style :D
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i am not that forward what if he thinks i am crazy?
i wish i could stop caring about what others - specifically guys think about me - i've probably ruined so many opportunities to date really cute men becaause i was too shy and cared too much of what they thought of me. like once this guy on the bus he was sooo cute, he was looking at me the entire time. i researched stuff of male body language when a guy is attracted and he did all those things. ugh i could have just went up and said 'hey what are you listening to' :(!!!!!!!!!!!!

what if i said something like 'hey, i noticed you come here a lot, what are you studying?"
 
mrb

mrb

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maddielol said:
i am not that forward what if he thinks i am crazy?
i wish i could stop caring about what others - specifically guys think about me - i've probably ruined so many opportunities to date really cute men becaause i was too shy and cared too much of what they thought of me. like once this guy on the bus he was sooo cute, he was looking at me the entire time. i researched stuff of male body language when a guy is attracted and he did all those things. ugh i could have just went up and said 'hey what are you listening to' :(!!!!!!!!!!!!

what if i said something like 'hey, i noticed you come here a lot, what are you studying?"
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yes lol that sounds good hey i was only joking :) say that to him , as i said he must like you to keep looking at you , just be nice and casual ... good luck ...
 
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Rembrandt Broam

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maddielol said:
i am not that forward what if he thinks i am crazy?
i wish i could stop caring about what others - specifically guys think about me - i've probably ruined so many opportunities to date really cute men becaause i was too shy and cared too much of what they thought of me. like once this guy on the bus he was sooo cute, he was looking at me the entire time. i researched stuff of male body language when a guy is attracted and he did all those things. ugh i could have just went up and said 'hey what are you listening to' :(!!!!!!!!!!!!

what if i said something like 'hey, i noticed you come here a lot, what are you studying?"
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That sounds like a very good idea. Most guys are not going to be offended by the approaches of a girl. Even if he's in a relationship or simply not interested, I'm sure he would be flattered, and decline your advances nicely.
 
fitftw

fitftw

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You go to libraries to pick up quiet intellectual dudes? lol that's gotta be one of the most difficult places to pick someone up. I know for a fact I would never confront any woman at a library, ever.
 
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Rembrandt Broam

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maddielol said:
shy guys in libraries, or in general, if you never met a girl before and you seen a girl you liked or whatnot or were attracted to? what would you do? how would you act?
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"Wow, that girl is really beautiful. She'll definitely already have a boyfriend. Now which way was the art history section...."

:)
 
Tiercel

Tiercel

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I'd love to respond to the original post, but doing so may disqualify me from claiming my shy guy status.

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userremoved

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I would have a hard time making eye contact with her, smiling, or being altogether humorous. If he's like that when you talk to him he's either really shy or mean lol. Sometimes if I really like a girl I'll get clumsy around her and stumble into things. These are all signs to look for. :D
 
Avery

Avery

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I'm hardly an expert, but if you do decide to approach your target (and if you do, kudos to your courage), I think your best bet is to ask a question or seek advice relevant to the environment. If your target's reading a certain type of novel or nonfiction work, you could either ask for help on the location of those types of books, or ask for advice on a good novel to pick, etc. You still have to make the first move, but asking a question(s) passes the ball into his court, and thereafter you can judge by his words and body language whether or not he's interested in you. Better yet, seeking advice/help from a guy can activate his built-in provider/protector mode -- many guys feel flattered and proud to help a girl out with a problem. The more confident and comfortable he is with you and the situation, the more likely he is to open up and pursue further interaction.
 
Inspiration

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If i saw a girl i liked or fancied... i cannot stop my eyes from searching for her existence. Afraid to approach her... i just can look at her from a distance. Even she sit next to me... i'm still unable to open my mouth and ask her out. What if she have a Boyfriend? What if i'm not her type? My face will turn red if get rejected. If you convince he is shy... then, you should make the first move. He'll say YES. 150% sure....
 
iamthenra

iamthenra

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First of all, if I was in the presence of an attractive gal I wouldn't be talking to her at all. In fact I would probably avoid her, except for the staring part. I would defiantly be looking and I might even stare. Of course my line of thinking is self defeating, I would be thinking that if she looks that great she probably already has a bf, and I would think why would she want a mess like me...so then I would probably leave because I would be too depressed to sit there and wish for something that I can't have. Like I said, self defeating. Even as shy as I am, I would still look! Good luck!
 
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