Guys: Ask Us Girls!

[Sinar_Matahari]

I try to be respectful on a first date, then I don't get a second date. I just don't feel right being an animal putting my paws all over you and treating you like... well you know. where is the middle ground? How do I know when the time is right to do certain things? Can I make up for the things I do wrong?

Well, you've tried the being respectful and that didn't work so maybe you can try to be a little more aggressive. While some women do not like a man to be aggressive others do. Not all women like the same thing so you have to experiment sometimes. Eventually you'll get better at picking up signs. Aggressive does not mean that you have to beat on her or anything, but some women like it when a man takes the initiative to show that he's into her. Most women I've known, including myself, like to feel desired. Remember aggression, in this case, is about passion and not violence. You don't have to be disrespectful about it or make lewd comments. Some women will tell you what they want and some are waiting for you to figure it out. Not everyone is able to be forward in communicating their likes and dislikes. Some women are afraid that they will be thought of as cheap or slutty if they make the first move. You can make up for the things you've done wrong. Whether you get the second chance or not is up to the woman but it doesn't hurt to ask for that second chance.

I think the best time to try kissing her is when you two are alone. Maybe when you take her home or before you two part for the evening. Don't worry too much about it though. Try going with the flow and being spontaneous.

 

[Sinar_Matahari]

ok heres a question back , how come some girls wear real low cut tops , but if they catch you lookin at there tits you get a filthy look , i mean if they didnt want to flash off there tits why wear the low cut top , this has always to me seemed really strange

You have to be tactful about the way you look. There's nothing wrong with looking at women's breasts but you don't have a right to make someone feel uncomfortable by gawking or making lewd facial expressions. Remember that women dress for other women more than they do for men. It's a competition thing. Just because a woman wears a low-cut top doesn't mean that you have to stare.
An acquaintance of mine commented on the size of my breasts last weekend and I told him that it wasn't necessary to bring his observations to my attention. I wasn't wearing a low cut top and one can't hide a C-cup. I think it's juvenille to make certain comments or to stare like a dumb-ass who has never seen a pair of breasts. I've seen young boys act more mature than that. I don't really know this guy well and I felt a bit embarrassed. Not to mention he knows that I am married.
There are women out there who like the attention but they can't show it lest they be judged for it. Some women feel as though they have to guard themselves from people who would hurt them. There are men out there who think it's justifiable to rape a woman just because she is wearing revealing clothes. Hell, there are women out there who think this is justifiable! Also, it matters how a woman carries herself no matter how she's dressed. They have to be vigilant of the negative attention which wearing revealing clothes garner. There are those who would harrass a woman for wearing certain clothing. This isn't right.

 

[jamie99]

Ok there's this new girl at work and i kind of like her and I'm pretty sure she likes me too. I don't have a problem saying hi to her but when it comes to small talk i come across as cold and have a hard time making eye contact with her. I don't even know is she's single...Any advice?

 

[Scrabbl]

You have to be tactful about the way you look. There's nothing wrong with looking at women's breasts but you don't have a right to make someone feel uncomfortable by gawking or making lewd facial expressions. Remember that women dress for other women more than they do for men. It's a competition thing. Just because a woman wears a low-cut top doesn't mean that you have to stare.
An acquaintance of mine commented on the size of my breasts last weekend and I told him that it wasn't necessary to bring his observations to my attention. I wasn't wearing a low cut top and one can't hide a C-cup. I think it's juvenille to make certain comments or to stare like a dumb-ass who has never seen a pair of breasts. I've seen young boys act more mature than that. I don't really know this guy well and I felt a bit embarrassed. Not to mention he knows that I am married.
There are women out there who like the attention but they can't show it lest they be judged for it. Some women feel as though they have to guard themselves from people who would hurt them. There are men out there who think it's justifiable to rape a woman just because she is wearing revealing clothes. Hell, there are women out there who think this is justifiable! Also, it matters how a woman carries herself no matter how she's dressed. They have to be vigilant of the negative attention which wearing revealing clothes garner. There are those who would harrass a woman for wearing certain clothing. This isn't right.

Good answer!!

 

[FOR REAL]

where exactly is the "gspot" (is it just round the corner from the dspot)?

why is it called the "gspot" (is it a secret cause yous think we guys cant count to 'g')?

how did you find this "gspot" (what were you looking for in the first place?)

if you can answer the 3 above questions, how do we know if your telling the truth at this "time of the month"?

 

[dooby-duck]

where exactly is the "gspot" (is it just round the corner from the dspot)?

why is it called the "gspot" (is it a secret cause yous think we guys cant count to 'g')?

how did you find this "gspot" (what were you looking for in the first place?)

if you can answer the 3 above questions, how do we know if your telling the truth at this "time of the month"?

When I was at school we were taught about this by a French teacher. Her accent made her sound like she was saying cheese pot. That was a really strange lesson, especially when loads of people kept asking her questions about the cheese pot.

 

[Imhotep]

It is possible for men and women to go out and be just friends even if they're going out to the movies or to eat at a restaurant together. How did this relationship come to be? Did she ask you out? Do you guys go out during the day as well as in the evening? Does she talk to you about things one would normally tell a friend? It's possible that she just wants a friend to go out with or do you think that she might be romantically interested in you and is waiting for you to make the first move? Have you picked up any vibes at all that could give you a clue that she may be romantically interested?
The best way is to ask her. If you can't tell on your own then it's best to ask. You might never know otherwise.

Yes, you're probably right. I was probably trying to put a romantic interpretation on it. I guess I subscribe to the theory that men and women can't be friends without there being more to it.

 

[Noca]

. Her accent made her sound like she was saying cheese pot.

hahahahaha

 

[Noca]

girls, why do you always think men can read your mind? Thats my question.

 

[Noca]

Because you should be able to Noca! and if you can't read our minds surely our body language should give you a hint as to how we are feeling

Yeah but I guess this "please read my mind" over the phone and MSN even.

 

[Almost]

So what's up with being attracted to complete jerks?

 

[xSleepy]

So what's up with being attracted to complete jerks?

Ive liked a few jerks before. Buuuuut I didnt know they were jerks when i started to get a crush on them. I find out guys are jerks when its kinda too late to take my feelings back for them. And I develop crushes pretty quickly, I cant help it sometimes.

But thats just my expereince with guys. Maybe some girls are just attracted to bad guys/jerks for some reason. Its a curse. But maybe some of it might have to do with low self esteem. So what if the guys a jerk, at least he loves you. A girl with low self esteem will just stay with a guy like that because she doesnt think she deserves better or that no one else will ever love her.

i dont like jerks

 

[Sinar_Matahari]

Because you should be able to Noca! and if you can't read our minds surely our body language should give you a hint as to how we are feeling

I know what you mean. It's not about reading minds at all, it's is about reading te other signs. Women are normally more intuitive than men. I know when someone is hurt, bothered, uncomfortable or pissed off by their body language, their facial expression, tone of voice etc... I'm sure there are men out there who are just as perceptive and intuitive, those are the ones that don't ask why women expect men to read their minds.

 

[Sinar_Matahari]

So what's up with being attracted to complete jerks?

Why is this a reoccurring theme on this forum? Has it not been repeated over and over again that not all women are into jerks? Not all women share the same ideas, tastes and opinions! This is an unfair stereotype. Your question itself is not a very nice question so does this make you a jerk and are we supposed to be attracted to you now? I don't think it's very nice to assume women are a bunch of idiots who are attracted to jerks. You give us no credit and it is insulting. Do you not think that we can do better? So is it true that men are pigs? Is it true that men are rapists? Is it true that men prefer stupid women and that they are incapable of monogamy? Is it true that men are fickle? Is it true that men are stupid? Certainly, there may be men who fit this description but not every man is like this. What most women like is confidence and assertiveness in a man. Don't confuse a confident man with a jerk. You do everyone injustice if you continue to believe stereotypes rather than trying to understand how people really are.

 

[Sinar_Matahari]

Ok there's this new girl at work and i kind of like her and I'm pretty sure she likes me too. I don't have a problem saying hi to her but when it comes to small talk i come across as cold and have a hard time making eye contact with her. I don't even know is she's single...Any advice?

Remember that she is a human being just like you. There is no reason to feel nervous around her. You will see that once you are able to relax you will be able to be yourself with her. Plus, you already have your foot in the door if she likes you too! At least you know that she does like you. Maybe you can just be honest and tell her that you're not good with small talk and once that ice is broken, you might actually feel more comfortable talking about other things. It's best to be honest and let her know before having her think that you are cold and distant. Best of luck!

 

[Sinar_Matahari]

Why can't boys be as easy to understand as girls?
(I'm a guy, but I like guys so yeah...)

I think it just takes time and experience. Maybe you will see that boys aren't anymore mysterious than girls.

 

[Sinar_Matahari]

Yes, you're probably right. I was probably trying to put a romantic interpretation on it. I guess I subscribe to the theory that men and women can't be friends without there being more to it.

It's still worth a try. I don't think you're wrong for believing what you believe. Most of the male friends I have now used to like me at the beginning of our friendship. I've hung out with guys who claimed that we were friends but they still tried to sleep with me. I'm not going to hold that against them though. Most men who are able to carry on platonic friendships with women, understand how women are. This understanding leads them to not have to see women as potential love interests. I've said it before that it's healthy for men and women to have friends of the opposite sex. I'm greatful for having had the chance to have male and female friends. If you don't win a girlfriend out of this then you can win a friend and you win either way.

 

[Sinar_Matahari]

girls, why do you always think men can read your mind? Thats my question.

Not our minds but our body language as well as other important signs such as tone of voice, facial expressions, moods etc...Through careful observation of these things, you'll most likely be able to "read" a woman's mind. ::

 

[Sinar_Matahari]

girls like strong men, and people like us are not considered strong but weak.. girls seems to not like people with social phobia and anxiety problems, they need a leader

Women with social phobia aren't that much better off than men with social phobia. The only difference is that it's socially acceptable for a woman to not be assertive, aggressive or otherwise show leadership so this is why we don't have as much of a problem getting men as men with SA have with getting women. In the end, we still suffer from the same disorder. This is a direct result of hundreds of years of patriarchal society. In the end, it's not only women who suffer from it, but also men. Men have expectations put onto them just as women do. Men who are not assertive are seen as weak and not desirable to the opposite sex and women who are assertive are seen as too strong and cold and are also less desirable to the opposite sex.

 

[Darker Than Black]

how do girls feel when a guy from high school added her on MSN and Facebook, she doesn't know him, the guy was kinda loner in high school, they are at the same university. He knows she liked him in grade 11 and then went on to some other guy..I think, people were talking. He was mean to her, cuz he had to "hurt them before they hurt me", He liked her too, he didn't what to do, he had/have SA/SP, they know nothing of each other. They never talked. Now he want to be friends, but don't know how, and thinks she might think its awkward... Now he started a convo on msn, how does she feel.