one comment which has affected your confidence

[redpine17]

from mum: are you afraid of people

 

[recluse]

This guy asked me "Why don't you eat more so your boobs will grow?" It really hurt me because I had a crush on him and he acted like he liked me too, but I guess not. :/

That's pretty shallow of him! I don't care about how a girls breasts look, that would be the same as a girl telling a guy that he has a small penis.

 

[recluse]

Twice someone has told me I look like Harry Potter (once by a friend of a friend I knew and another time by two little kids on the street)...which is true, but it still hurts my confidence.

I was called Harry Potter by many people and i don't look like him, it's just that i wear glasses and people were looking for something to tease me about. All my life i've been called Mr Bean too.

 

[recluse]

Ok this is the single most humiliating experience of my life.

So when I was 13 I went to a friends birthday party at a bowling alley. He invited 2 girls from another school that I had never met before. They were constantly staring at me through out the day and whispering stuff to each other as they looked in my direction. At the time I didnt know what to make of it..

Now fast forward 7 years later: I'm hanging out with the same kid who had the birthday party at the bowling alley. We're back in our hometown and he said he wanted to pick up 2 girls he used to be friends with in middle school. He made it out like this would sorta be a double date. Anyway it turns out they were the 2 girls from the party, but I didn't recognize them and they didn't recognize me.

So we're in the car on our way to the beach. The 2 girls and my friend immediately start reminiscing. One of the girls says "omg remember your 13th birthday party???". Then the other girl chimes in "omg yeah! Remember your friend Ben lol??? The one with long hair... We spent the whole day checking him out. We thought he was so hot from the side but when we finally saw his full face he was hideous LOL!!!!!"

At this point I still have yet to make the connection and neither have they. My friend, who thinks the whole thing is hilarious, takes it upon himself to point out the guy they're bashing is sitting right in front of them. So my friend points his finger to my face and says "you're talking to him!"

All 3 of them pretty much explode into laughter which goes on seriously for 5 solid minutes. Everytime they start to calm down, it would get quiet and they would start laughing again.

They dont attempt to control themselves, they dont apologize. All I get is a "well let us see your face now" and after being persistently bugged about it, I turn around and face them - to which they laughingly say "well........... uh your face isnt that bad now".

Needless to say the next 4 hours of that night were rather uncomfortable.

There's no way you are ugly!

 

[spider04]

"You used to be cool"
"you're so boring"
"you always at home?"
"go somewhere else, people may think we are stupud like you"
"have you ever talk to girls?"
"why are you like that?"
"you're so quiet"

 

[Ihateit]

'What is wrong with you, its not normal that you blush so easily.'

 

[klytus]

-Classmate throws rubbish at me-
Classmate: "Rubbish attracts rubbish."
-Another classmate joins him in doing that-

Or this:
-Random female classmate accidentally touches me at some random insignificant location-
Female Classmate: "Ugh, why did you touch me, freak!"
-Female classmate goes and washes herself at that part demonstratively-

Or after touching, she walks up to others and passes around the "freak sickness", or whatever they came up with I might have. Then lots of people always thought I would be gay for not being interested in the females or in talking with them. At times they came up with really weird stuff about me that wasn't true in any single aspect.

 

[DASwife]

"Wow what happened to your legs? Is this going to be permanent?"

(The sad thing is I hear it all the time now that its summer and I wear shorts when it gets too hot.)

 

[shygirly]

I once had a complete stranger say "You have the smallest boobs I've ever seen" just out of the blue like that in a group of people. I wanted to crawl under a table,lol

 

[mrb]

mom to me "just look at you, you will rot your entire life, you'll be nothing, you will always be a failure"

id have said yea maybe , but whos faults that mummy dearest i mean you made me , so its your fault , so there

 

[meatcake]

in junior high i started off being kind of good looking, and then suddenly went through this really ugly phase. it sucked because whatever confidence i had had come from the idea that i was good looking, which wasn't even true.

we went on a field trip to some battleship on the coast - the weather was really humid and windy, and my hair looked like shit, and i felt mega self-conscious. i was walking around and these two pretty girls from another school passed me, pointed at me and said "ew, ugly!" i wanted to just die. later i was leaning over the edge of the boat, my camera fell out of my pocket, bounced once, and then fell through a drainage hole into the water, 50 feet below. some guy saw it and started laughing hysterically.

my utter feeling of humiliation that day seemed to make people take pity on me or something though - this guy i didn't normally hang out with was really nice to me, and palled around with me that day. and on the bus on the way back, this girl i liked was being flirty with me, kicking my feet and joking with me. i felt like this hideous monster that had crawled out from under a rock the whole time though.

anyway, that comment seemed to just capture how i felt through that time, and it really stayed with me, and still kind of affects how i feel.

 

[FOR REAL]

"you are useless at everything" x 1milion

ive still got my sence of humour though! its what keeps me alive i think!

watch rab c nesbitt on utube! he will cheer you up! LOL

 

[this_portrait]

In elementary school, another girl told me, "You're always in the way." I'm now pretty sure that she meant it as a joke, but it still bothers me.

 

[georgie8pie]

When i was about 13 a friend of mine told me her mum had told her to stop eating so much or she would end up like me.. I had huge self esteem problems as it was.. we weren't friends for much longer.

 

[Oscelot]

When i was about 13 a friend of mine told me her mum had told her to stop eating so much or she would end up like me.. I had huge self esteem problems as it was.. we weren't friends for much longer.

Wow that's really ****ed. Once my father told me that everything about me was "just a bunch of lame".

 

[Emzi]

In arguments between us my bf would always say I'm a low life that does nothing apart from stay indoors and do nothing with their life, he said I was good for nothing.

 

[C-47]

some of these comments are so harsh. some of them are worse than being physically beaten imo. im sure they are all completely wrong. alot of ppl just dont respect or consider people with illnesses they are not familiar with. ive been asked alot by people, why are u so quiet, why do you never talk, do you ever go out(said in a serious way), someday your going to marry someone whos going to walk all over you and treat you like crap(was something like that as far as i remember). its so stupid and annoying when ppl ask why we are so quiet. anyway, just try and remember that they are wrong and we are still all equal

 

[recluse]

I once had a complete stranger say "You have the smallest boobs I've ever seen" just out of the blue like that in a group of people. I wanted to crawl under a table,lol

That's unbelieveable! That person had no right to say that. If that's you in your avatar you are really pretty and i think the last thing one would notice is the size of your boobs! I think that person must have been really jealous of you, that's the only reason i think these people do it.

 

[recluse]

Everyone here has no flaws from what i see, i just can't believe the comments you have recieved.

I have a theory that people who give us these comments are jealous; The pick out a flaw which they can use as ammunition to take the attention off them and humuliate us. I can't see any other reason why people should do this other than pure jealousy.

For example this guy who worked with me pointed out at my stomach and said aloud in front of everyone ''Don't you workout anymore!?'' And on another occasion i was taking my t shirt off at work and he said aloud ''Ha ha big belly!'' This guy is jealous of everyone, i know it. Another thing he'll do is whenever someone has brought a new car he'll point out any dent o'r scratch on the car and he'll never comment on the good things.

 

[ZoundWave]

Really?...You believe that?

I was gonna say...from what I've seen you are not at all ugly!