one comment which has affected your confidence

[bublgum]

There was a rumor that I looked down & up another girl. I was so shocked by what they said that I had a severe panic attack & nervous breakdown. Now, I'm afraid to even look at a person for fear of that rumor starting again. It's torture. I was a happy, outgoing person before they made up stuff about me. I'd give so much to go back... :c

 

[nonnonsocialphobic]

"No wonder you don't have any friends"

It's one thing when the kids at school say it, but it's hard to handle coming from mom....

I've had someone say this to me, but in my adult life!

 

[nonnonsocialphobic]

Something that affects me but is not meant to be bad is "you're quiet, that's you.. you can't change who you are..." but the thing is I don't feel like I'm a quiet person or that's who I am, it's just that the outcome is quiet because I always feel awkward and worried about the what I say can be perceived in certain environments so it's sometimes best not to say anything at all! Or people say something that isn't meaningful enough in conversation that you could elaborate on i.e. random meaninglessness.

Then someone said to me that maybe it's because you happen to be in a place where you won't meet like-minded people who have anything in common with you... and in my situation at least, it's somewhat true in hindsight.

 

[miniheli]

"you look anorexic" this hurt me cause im a guy, and I have a extreme large diet.

"your a terrorist" Im half Arab/Asian/Dutch and in my old school they maid fun of me because I looked really arab.

Than this guy felt bad that I was always isolating my self in lunch in high school everyday. The guy had good intentions but what he said maid me think a lot. He said "why do you sit here alone? You don't have any friends?

"you have ET hands"

"you write and spell like a dyslexic person"


"wow you must of had really bad teeth"

"eeewwwwwww!"

"stop playing with your hands!"

People can be so cruel sometimes :lol:

 

[JonnyD]

The problem on being "bullied" is that 1 offence is worth 1000 praises...

in the 8th grade a girl told me "you are ugly, are u gay?"
I was already very shy and unconfident, so i took it as a fuel to keep away from people. -- but i already had a social problem so i think it don't count.

The gay part was seriosly hard to me at the time, i already knew i wasn't the best looking guy ever - it's a fact - but gay i never had anything of homosexual (nothing against them)...

Most of the time people say bad thing to you because they're trying to cope with something bad that happened to them, or just to feels special with themselves.

I hope she forgot it, today i doubt i would reconigze her , i just remembered it to keep myself from getting unconstructive coments that people tell me so deep in my hearth.

 

[Cyrax]

When I was told to "get a life" because I have no friends

 

[violettefleur]

Some little kid on a bus to my brother: "Your sister's *maaad* ugly!!"

In middle school my brother's friend wrote practically the same thing in my brother's yearbook.

Now I'm in college, but this guy asks me nearly everyday why I'm "so quiet" and that he "barely heard me say 50 words" and how I'm basically unnoticeable. I know it shouldn't bother me a lot, but it does, since he can't seem to stop reminding me. :?

 

[krs2snow]

Positive

 

[NightTimeForever]

The problem on being "bullied" is that 1 offence is worth 1000 praises...

in the 8th grade a girl told me "you are ugly, are u gay?"
I was already very shy and unconfident, so i took it as a fuel to keep away from people. -- but i already had a social problem so i think it don't count.

The gay part was seriosly hard to me at the time, i already knew i wasn't the best looking guy ever - it's a fact - but gay i never had anything of homosexual (nothing against them)...

Most of the time people say bad thing to you because they're trying to cope with something bad that happened to them, or just to feels special with themselves.

I hope she forgot it, today i doubt i would reconigze her , i just remembered it to keep myself from getting unconstructive coments that people tell me so deep in my hearth.

I don't understand what ugly has to do with being gay. It seems to be the stereotype that the reverse is true. It's funny a male co-worker said to me "you're probably gay b/c you're smart and are above average as far as attractiveness goes." It took him a minute to realize the last part of the sentence was a compliment and everyone proceeded to laugh at him :lol:

 

[bleach]

One girl said I am cute but have a horrible personality. So that one could go either way I guess.

 

[PDJ]

I've gotten the half insult half compliment like "You're kind of cute for an asian guy."

But most comments are usually behind my back.
"Oh gross, the back of his head looked okay until he turned around."

And that was why I didn't ask a girl out for the next 10 years

 

[Socially_Retarded]

I was once told

"your ugly you've got a big nose"

Its moments like that u wish u could freeze time so u can think of a good answer, instead of

"Oh, umm yea it is isnt it" :?

thinking about it now I wish id said

"yeah and I can smell you from here, take a shower!"

 

[Goku_ODPhi_1987]

The last girl I dated was last summer, we dated for a week and she broke it off the day before we were supposed to go on our second date, two weeks later after I cried my eyes out I talked to her for the first time since she ended our dating and I asked her why, and she gave me three reasons which I will never forget, that I was too...

(1.) girly
(2.) sensitive
(3.) dorky

That hurt... :?

And here's the only picture of me and her, this was taken the day before she broke it off with me, I don't think I've ever looked happier in a photo...

 

[miniheli]

I think I got bullied by my teacher when I was a senior last year in my high school! I never told anyone this, but it was so strange, why would a teacher pick on me in such a way? I was sitting in economics class which was well in the 2nd semester. I had the habit of always wearing my old blue jacket (which I used to love). I always washed it, and kept it clean. But one day while we were practicing bartering (exchanging one tangible item for another). Anyways I was sitting down in class and I had to pick a partner. There was this nice looking girl next to me and she asked, "want to be partners" I said "sure".
We had to pretend to barter/exchange the things we have. "she asked I will take your shoes" I jokeingly said "no". Than she asked "how about your blue jacket?". When she said that, me teacher look towards my desk. Everything was going well and we were laughing. Than after all of the students and I were finished exchanging. My teach told us a story. Usually I love his stories, which are usually pretty funny. But I didn’t find this one so funny. He said "let me tell you what happened in my other econ class a couple of years ago here". "I had a student which was sitting in that chair right there" HE POINTED AT MY CHAIR!!! "And this student always wore the same jacket every single day, it was this bage color, dirty jacket, I don’t think he had ever washed it" Everyone was looking at me because they all knew as well as the teacher knew that I always wore the same blue jacket! "he was bartering like how we are all doing now, and he wanted to trade with this girl" He than said "the girl said ewwwww, because the kid with the old dirty jacket was trying to tempt her with the disgusting jacket" During all of this, I pretended to smile, but I was never more embarrass in my whole life. They all looked at my table and at me, they all were thinking of me. Than the worst part happened to me, the girl I was working with said "eewww to the ground and than she turned her head and whole body away from me.

The teacher I had was nice, but for the whole year I had a feeling he sort of hated me. He always gave me a good grade, but I think he felt obligated to since I am a special ed student.

What happened to me that year in high school made me so depressed? I went home and locked the bathroom door and started to cry. I don’t understand why he would do that to me, I know he thought I was weird I know he thought I was strange but why would he do that to a person with not much confidence.

 

[recluse]

The last girl I dated was last summer, we dated for a week and she broke it off the day before we were supposed to go on our second date, two weeks later after I cried my eyes out I talked to her for the first time since she ended our dating and I asked her why, and she gave me three reasons which I will never forget, that I was too...

(1.) girly
(2.) sensitive
(3.) dorky

That hurt... :?

And here's the only picture of me and her, this was taken the day before she broke it off with me, I don't think I've ever looked happier in a photo...

That must have hurt, especially as you looked so happy in thst pic. I don't get the 'sensitive' part...What do women want? Do they want a cold heartless guy?....God women are so confusing sometimes! :roll:

Ok kr2snow........Hmmmmmm positive....Well i was told by a girl that she liked my personality. I much rather people to comment on my personality anyday.

 

[rado31]

one that really spoiled my day is when one girl tried to approach me and other said to her not to to that because i m complicated (that was some women intuition thing, i dont remmber seeing them before. i know i m complicated but i wonder why did i have to hear that - they were standing at least 10 meters away from me) :?

 

[silentworld]

I dont remember very well, i kinda blanked out all of that crap, but my confidence has been affected always mostly by me, im very hard on myself anyway

 

[kyle]

one that really spoiled my day is when one girl tried to approach me and other said to her not to to that because i m complicated (that was some women intuition thing, i dont remmber seeing them before. i know i m complicated but i wonder why did i have to hear that - they were standing at least 10 meters away from me) :?

Women seem to just know it by their nature when an annoying creep is in their presence... :wink:

 

[Persos]

From my therapist:

"In your situation, You shouldn't expect anything good in your life"

 

[misterF]

From my therapist:

"In your situation, You shouldn't expect anything good in your life"

That's a terrible thing to say! Of course I don't know anything about you but there's always a chance for things to get good!

For me, it's not really a comment but I've been getting better recently and just today, at a class I've been attending for a month, we're only 4 students and only 1 could remember my name. That really brought me down today.