Change
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she1slander
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Change is difficult especially when you're just getting used to the way things are and always have been in your life. And I think it certainly is much harder when you feel miserable because that's only going to prevent you from moving on, where there are far better things you can experience. Misery resists change but that is why it is worth it. If it wasn't so hard to change, would you even take the time to ponder about going through it? Probably not. Just remember that when you have that desire to change, you'll have to take it one little step at a time so that you won't feel overwhelmed. Sometimes when we don't want things to change, it's usually when we need it the most in order to become better people. Life is filled with ideas that can help us to progress... so sometimes we just have to accept that change is a good thing that gives us what we need to keep growing. 
Section_31
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I think Aletheia said it right.
Ive always had such a hard hard time with change, i hate it.
Ive always had such a hard hard time with change, i hate it.
1BlackSheep
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Yea, I think us SA'ers tend to be creatures of habit! Change is scary and stressful!
Hoppy
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Start with small things. I'm busy with a small little challenge that takes me 15 minutes a day and is not difficult at all. Marking every day down on the calender makes me feel good.
Try something new for 30 days
Try something new for 30 days
Re: fear uncertainty and doubt
Then the one you don't. Exactly. I really hate my job but I couldn't leave it, becuase I know I could potentially land myself a worse job I hate more ::
Then the one you don't. Exactly. I really hate my job but I couldn't leave it, becuase I know I could potentially land myself a worse job I hate more :
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People were tired seeing my behavior. I was used to be a happy girl but not anymore, I have becoming way too serious. I can change if I want to and I don't care what people think.
twiggle
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We often want things to change, but when they do, we don't like the unfamiliarity that arises.
The plain truth is that if things don't change, then they'll always the stay the same, and sometimes the thought of that can be pretty grim too.
I think the key, like Hoppy suggests, is taking it gradually. Small changes, where possible.
The plain truth is that if things don't change, then they'll always the stay the same, and sometimes the thought of that can be pretty grim too.
I think the key, like Hoppy suggests, is taking it gradually. Small changes, where possible.
SilentBird
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True. Change may also require questioning and disproving certain beliefs about oneself.
For me, change won't come from continuing to believe that I am weak and unlovable.
The only thing I need to change is how I see myself. I am yet to do that.
electric pepper
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change is only good when it improves things. i hate they idea of change having to live on my own, get a different job. losing family,
Shyangel
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Why is change so hard ? Even when you know your current life is making you miserable. I still have a desire for things not to change, it relly does my head in!
Hidwell, I ask myself this question every single second of every day possibly.
I don't know if I could express to you how angry I am at myself for keeping myself miserable because of fear...I sit around everyday thinking about how I want something to do, how I want friends, how I want to learn and experience things, but then I just tell myself this is how my life is suppose to be. This is what I can handle. I will just f*** up everything else. I also tell myself that maybe I don't need those things. I've been sitting here doing nothing for so long and I manage to survive," maybe I'm just fine and I'm being emotional?" "Your life is great, I don't need those things like, friends, hobbies, independence, you can just sit here and be useless and be fine."
It's insanely pathetic to me that I can actually convince myself of these things..... I should be working hard every single day to make things better. But, no. I'm a sad pathetic person who instead excepts the way things are...I do wish I could say I work hard and make my life useful, but I don't...That's not the kinda person I am, truth be told.
I'm sorry for being pessimistic and going off topic.
jonas89
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Im completely broke there is no change in my pocket :/
But I have been trying to change, to be more social and all that and at one point it turned out great, started to hang out more with friends that I really never saw that often,, but a few months later Im back in the same foot steps for some reason -_-
But I have been trying to change, to be more social and all that and at one point it turned out great, started to hang out more with friends that I really never saw that often,, but a few months later Im back in the same foot steps for some reason -_-