Avoid extremely extroverted people?

Pookah

Pookah

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A new girl started at work last week. Every once in a while you get a coworker that is extroverted to the point of bad boundaries, she is that coworker.

After briefly being introduced she tries to high five me (whilst I'm wearing gloves and using a dirty rag to clean off marker.) When I don't respond she says "aww you left me hanging" and I say "I would have gotten stuff all over your hand." When clocking back in after lunch she starts singing about how she has a milkshake, randomly. In an attempt to reciprocate I say "I don't" and shrug.

These may seem like innocuous enough things but she already makes me want to avoid her like the plague. I make an effort to be friendly with coworkers but I'm never completely comfortable with saying good morning and such all the time, I have to force it. So being drawn into interaction with someone with an overwhelming personality makes me want to hide somewhere.

Anyone experience anything similar?
 
Ignace

Ignace

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I got some super extroverter people in my school/class too, I don't hate them. But I do try to avoid them as much as possible. I'm scared of what other people think, they surely aren't, that's the big difference.:mad:
 
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xxaimsxx

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Hah I've met a few of them people. They scare me to death lol.
It is my worst nightmare being quizzed by someone who is so out there and confident. Usually i cant relate to them either. You know them people who are just so loud they will say anything that pops into their head and you don't know how to respond to it?
I feel for you that you have to work with her therefore i get what your saying pookah.
 
SoulSeeker

SoulSeeker

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Everyone to their own. But these people do do my head in. I'm not at all good on the mornings. In a way i envy these people who can be happy so early in the morning, on a daily basis. I dont know..sometimes i find it hard to believe anyone can be so happy..bouncing all over the place..talkative, chatty 24/7...even in a healthy state of mind. Hmm..i'd feel uncomfortable around this behaviour. Would just get on my t*ts.
 
Pookah

Pookah

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I'm not a morning person. I get a bit giggly around 10pm+ though, but I'm usually home and comfortable being silly.

I just can't come out and being silly around people in public especially when I barely know them. There is a time and a place I guess.
 
lurknomore

lurknomore

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It varies for me. I actually get along better with some of my more outgoing coworkers than the quiet ones (they'll talk and joke around with me), while some are just plain annoying. I avoid the annoying ones if I can, but if that's not possible I just smile or give them a "You're crazy" look.
 
PhillyFlyersGrl

PhillyFlyersGrl

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Yes Pookah I know exactly how you feel.
Although there are some extroverted people that don't seem to care or they look past your S.A., they aren't freaked out if you don't act exactly like them, they continue being themselves and there's sort of an acceptance. I get freaked out if someone is really extroverted and they expect me to be exactly the same way, that makes me pissed, then we both end up avoiding eachother. I feel like I can't trust someone if they expect me to be on the same cloud their on, because obviously they don't accept me for who I am.
 
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userremoved

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Heh, sounds like you're going to have fun with this one. :rolleyes:
 
bigrob

bigrob

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I don't know how to explain it....but some people just throw off such high energy enthusiasm that I feel overwhelmed. Usually I find the same people loud and obnoxious.

Then I realize they are pathetic plebeians trying to compensate for their lack of intelligence with "personality". And I still find them obnoxious.

So I avoid them as best I can otherwise I may engage in a verbal smackdown that they surely would be too stupid to understand.
 
Richey

Richey

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alot of it is just mindless babble..its when they say things that are awkward like so.."the boss can be an idiot" in front of everyone at work and its directed at you or something like that...i just say nothing or i say "ahh, yeh?"..
 
Pookah

Pookah

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People love to gossip. I like to stay out of it because I don't want to be caught in the middle.
 
Richey

Richey

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i'm the same, i can't stand gossip and whinging and everyone at work does it and i just stay out of it because for a start i don't care and secondly its none of my business or their business, people do it because it fills in silences but i think its a waste of time, why not talk about world news or a tv show or something educational and positive ...

also i have no problem with silences either. people feel they have to talk all the time just so there is noise because they are so insecure about coming across as shy which is a form of approval seeking and attention seeking, at the same time i don't mind if people talk alot or are quiet, i dont really judge people on that. i just don't like gossip.
 
stephen

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The thing about extroverts is that they are often just as insecure as you they just have a different way of covering it. They can be a bit confronting though. Sometimes they think they are doing you a favour by trying to include you but don't realise that this may cause some distress.
 
Pookah

Pookah

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stephen said:
The thing about extroverts is that they are often just as insecure as you they just have a different way of covering it. They can be a bit confronting though. Sometimes they think they are doing you a favour by trying to include you but don't realise that this may cause some distress.
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Yeah I think that is possible but sometimes I almost don't want to be noticed or singled out.
 
jishaku

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I'm phobia of them..
especially the ones i don't know well..
i have a bestfriend (the only friend i'm comfortable with) and she's an extrovert..
but what's good bout her is she accepts me the way I am.. :) (she's so noble)
Some annoyingly stupid loud people would always ask me "why are you so quiet?"
"I'm being me" then he says "no, that's not you. Come on, talk more"
i was so pissed off feel like punching him in the mouth..
jeez these people dont really understand introverts..

that's why i hate extroverts.
 
MsBuzzkillington

MsBuzzkillington

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One of the managers at my old job used to be REALLY extroverted. He was super loud and friendly and positive. Which is cool and all, but it definitely made me feel intimidated, it made me want to run and hide. It can be overwhelming, I think, usually because those people "expect" a lot from you; responses or feedback or conversation or whatever.

That manager would always like to pick on me too, the quiet one. Like scream my name, HOW ARE YOU?!!!

Those kind of people make my skin crawl with fear.

Maybe a little bit of it is jealousy too... I mean they are usually such good and warm people. I feel inferior, I feel unworthy.
 
Tiercel

Tiercel

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Pookah said:
After briefly being introduced she tries to high five me (whilst I'm wearing gloves and using a dirty rag to clean off marker.) When I don't respond she says "aww you left me hanging" and I say "I would have gotten stuff all over your hand." When clocking back in after lunch she starts singing about how she has a milkshake, randomly. In an attempt to reciprocate I say "I don't" and shrug.
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That's f:eek:ing awesome. Much better than reciting Daniel Day-Lewis's milkshake speech from "There Will Be Blood."

And do I need to point out that I'm not too fond of the extrovert?

:D
 
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maddielu

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If they're the "trying-to-sell-me-something" or "we-just-met-let's-be-bffs" kind of extroverted, I avoid them like the plague. If they're just really friendly and talkative, I don't really mind them. In fact, they're usually the way I meet other people.
 
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