...when angry

Bugs

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What's the worst thing you do when you are angry? How do you express your anger, hatred, etc.?

Me? I was always in control of myself, but one time, I got so mad with a biology classmate because he messed up my things, I shouted at his face how everybody was talking about his bad breadth with all of our classmates watching. Sorry, kind of nasty and evil but I don't know, I just blurted out.
I felt guilty and shy after my anger has subsided. :)
 

Bugs

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I never ever get mad at other people. If I am angry, I will just hold it and wait till it passes. I don't do this often, but if I am really really angry, I'll take it out on myself physically with a pair of pliers.
Oh... That hurts, I hope you don't do that again. You can just kick a wall or something... :)
 
Ow

I do sometimes get bursts of very sudden/intense anger. It usually doesn't last long but it builds up so much at the time I can't control it. I've destroyed many items out of anger, like several mirrors, clothes, etc, just whatever I'm mad at. I'll usually punch it or throw it and it just breaks. I'll also hurt myself sometimes, not even intentionally really, but I get so mad or frustrated I can't help but to punch myself as hard I can. Other people rarely make me angry enough to ever do anything to them, I just get so mad at myself.
 

laure15

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I don't express my anger in public, I wait until I'm in a private place to vent. When I'm very angry, I shout to myself and blab on and on. Sometimes if I have someone whom I can talk to, I vent my feelings to that person.
 

hardy

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I write mails or messages to express my anger. I usually curse them or point out their mistakes . I was burning all day y'day as i had a fight with a friend. He gets on my nerves by judging me and constantly telling me how to live my life. I cursed so badly...:idontknow:

And later i decided to ignore his replies and it felt good.
 

MikeyC

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I throw things and last time I kicked our bin and broke it. Oops. I need to learn to control it a little better.
 

EscapeArtist

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Odd, is it natural for a shy person to keep anger in at first, but then have outbursts? I used to always hold in my anger, pretended to not know what it is, but recently i'm expressing it a lot mainly by being rather verbally vile to my mom. I tell her that it's not her, I just feel really bad about where I am in life and sometimes can't hold back, but I feel so guilty after I have outbursts. I was always the mediator and gaurdian type person during my family's fights, I would go to each side and hear them out when they were crying or calm down the fighting, but now that my family is split up I find myself being less objective and more simply... angry. After caring so much about not hurting people, there are times where you're just not going to care, just to stop caring so much. Especially when people seem to not care about you despite all that.
 
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aNOTfox

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People tell me you should always let your anger out. I disagree and think it is much better when people bottle it up and remain calm. Quieter at least xD
 

hardy

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People tell me you should always let your anger out. I disagree and think it is much better when people bottle it up and remain calm. Quieter at least xD

I agree. But there is a third way too...observe the anger and you will see it vanishes by itself after a while. If someone already knows it's going to leave me after a while, they won't be too upset about getting angry. There is no suppression nor the dangerous expression which makes things really bad.just observe...be with it and you will see it leaves you. Happy life with wisdom. Ignorance is not bliss.

how to observe the anger? Read this: The Art of Living: Vipassana Meditation
 
I try to hold it in as much as possible, but that has had negative consequences. Unrelieved stress can be harmful to your mental health- and even your physical health. As a result of unexpressed stress I frequently get epic migraines. Stress triggers it, but it can even happen when I'm positively excited.

My tolerance for anger/stress is also way smaller now then it was when I was younger because I chose to keep it in. To illustrate; I can't play scary games any more because it's guaranteed to give me a one of those migraines, while just a few years ago I could go through it from start to finish without consequences.

It's better to express it directly. I usually have a wooden or metal rod around that I hit my bed or floor with in case I get too angry.
 

Srijita52

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I try to hold it in as much as possible, but that has had negative consequences. Unrelieved stress can be harmful to your mental health- and even your physical health. As a result of unexpressed stress I frequently get epic migraines. Stress triggers it, but it can even happen when I'm positively excited.
I agree completely. It sometimes happens to me too when I bottle up my emotions. I also tend to keep my anger inside as much as I can unless I'm pushed to a level when I just can't take it anymore and then I've these sudden huge outbrusts. I've been told many times that it makes people so confused cos they've no idea where its coming from. I never throw or break stuff though but I tend to be very verbally abusive, just saying whatever comes to my mind and don't care if I'm hurting someone. I know that's real immature. I should definitely find a healthier way to express my anger.
:crying:
 

bcsr

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I used to just hit people that made me angry, or go pick fights at random. These days I take it out on my punching bag or lifting weights.
 

vj288

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I don't know if I get angry as much as I do wound up or stressed out when things build up but a rose by any other name I guess. I'll become short with my patience, and more...forceful and deliberate in my movements? Hard to explain. I'll feel like running or like working out or something. Talk at myself angrily. Rationalize situations, I guess a lot is when something doesn't go my way or I don't understand why something is as it is that can get me upset. Usually when I recognize I'm getting upset my body will automatically calm itself down, I'll sing under my breath to myself, like automatically. Eventually I'll just forget what I was getting wound up about to begin with, it was probably irrational anyway.
 

chibiXphantom

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i dont really get very angry. and the worst i do is break unimportant things, like old pencils or something. usually just take a deep breath and rant about it in my head.
 

OCDd

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Re: Ow

I do sometimes get bursts of very sudden/intense anger. It usually doesn't last long but it builds up so much at the time I can't control it. I've destroyed many items out of anger, like several mirrors, clothes, etc, just whatever I'm mad at. I'll usually punch it or throw it and it just breaks. I'll also hurt myself sometimes, not even intentionally really, but I get so mad or frustrated I can't help but to punch myself as hard I can. Other people rarely make me angry enough to ever do anything to them, I just get so mad at myself.
i just wait until im home alone, and then i do this, just break things, throw things against the wall. or punch the walls or kick stuff. i also hurt myself not intentionally too, but ill just be so mad and punch my self really hard on accident. i thought i was the only one! thats cool other people are like me! :)
 

Bugs

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After caring so much about not hurting people, there are times where you're just not going to care, just to stop caring so much. Especially when people seem to not care about you despite all that.

I also came to a point where I didn't care about other people anymore. I just do what I wanted and stopped caring whether it hurts them or not. I just felt SOOOoo tired always thinking about them when in fact, they don't seem to care when they are hurting me... I always think of ways to make things easier for other people even if means it will be harder for me... but.. jeez. So tired of it. But when I became an uncaring person, Why do I feel bad about myself? Why do I feel guilty? I think it's just right for me to act this way...
 
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