What do you think about love?

I think it's something out of reach for me, every time i love someone they don't love me back, every time someone love me, i don't feel the same. I can't always get close to ppl, but every time i did, i ended up getting hurt

Pookah said:

I want love but I'm also scared of it. I don't know if I can trust a person that completely and I feel it may be selfish on some level.

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I'm the same as you. I've had crushes that have made me go crazy (literally) and I'm only in good metal health (despite depression) when I don't have feelings for anyone.

I gave up on love years ago. From experience, being left by girlfriends. I really believe that love doesn't exist - it's just a stupid word made to excite / embarrass people. Why love a person? It's a feeling you have for... a cute puppy... for about 10 seconds.

Why pretend? Another meaningless phrase, with no rational logic... "in love"

"we love you"
"I love you!"

Give me the truth and logic behind that.

"I love that car" because it works, and if I keep it full of petrol, it can go anywhere.

Girls are alright, once we start buying each other drinks and a meal at a restaurant... giving presents... things go wrong... it makes it nigh on impossible to accept that it's not working, and it's tough to let go.... it's all not worth it.

I never loved my parents. They just kept saying that. All the family. "We love you!" I never got anything from my family. Useful advice - none of that. What did I get? Rejection. Especially from any girlfriend. Any job - anything I've ever done - apart from my first job, which I left once I graduated. After that, every job ends in rejection.

I can't confirm that 'love' exists. I've never felt it.

I know 'lust' exists, but it's a stupid waste of time not worth worrying about. That, and it's often confused with what seems to be 'love'. So much so, that many fail to differentiate the two, and as a result, do end up wasting time in a failed relationship. Not to say all failed relationships are like that, but to say rather that lust in itself can't keep a relationship going.

mikebird said:

I gave up on love years ago. From experience, being left by girlfriends. I really believe that love doesn't exist - it's just a stupid word made to excite / embarrass people. Why love a person? It's a feeling you have for... a cute puppy... for about 10 seconds.

I never loved my parents. They just kept saying that. All the family. "We love you!" I never got anything from my family. Useful advice - none of that. What did I get? Rejection. Especially from any girlfriend. Any job - anything I've ever done - apart from my first job, which I left once I graduated. After that, every job ends in rejection.

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I'd much prefer a cute puppy. It doesn't stop being cute and it's usually friendly. And provided you don't give it a reason to, it won't leave you.

I empathize with the note about parents, though. They always told me they love me, but that was never the impression I got from them.

its good while you are in love, but once its over, its leaves a nasty scar :/

I think true love is possible but that it's extremely hard to find. There are so many variables that need to be in place, and there has to be an equal and reciprocal level of commitment and desire. Not upsetting that balance on either side is very, very tough.

Waste of time.

I'm unsure about love. I've never experienced love before, if it does exist.

There is a lot that makes me question love. The main reason is because sex is such a powerful force, especially for men. I think most guys claim they are in love, when they really just found a girl that is willing to have sex with them on a regular basis.

On the women's side of it, yeah, they want sex, but it seems women are more into the companionship and socialistic side of so called love. The complaint I have about women who claim they are in love is many of them seem to be loving the fact that a guy is financially stable more than who he is as a person. It also seems that many women go out with guys to impress everyone else (family, friends, acquaintances).

I just believe that true love is so incredibly rare, if it does exist. It seems that most people don't fall in love with the whole package someone has, they fall in love with what they can get out of the relationship to suit their own selfish needs.

True, love can hurt. But as strong as those feelings of hurt can be, the feelings of happiness can be that much stronger when you find the right person.

Kinetik said:

I think true love is possible but that it's extremely hard to find. There are so many variables that need to be in place, and there has to be an equal and reciprocal level of commitment and desire. Not upsetting that balance on either side is very, very tough.

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Very true Kinetik



Love also seems to have a "use by date" like with food.

Be it 6 months or 3 years, eventually the love will go stale :S