Would you date a person who was dying?

[Forgotten-Children]

I just got to thinking about it... I mean I know I am, but I'm just wondering if you guys would. Would you be brave enough to accept the fact that your significant other was going to die long before you? Would you feel sorry for them?

There's no real wrong answer, I'm just curious.

 

[vj288]

If she would let me, I would. Reminds me of the movie A Walk to Remember. Love just happens, don't fight it.

 

[Forgotten-Children]

If she would let me, I would. Reminds me of the movie A Walk to Remember. Love just happens, don't fight it.

Good words to live by. :3

 

[awkwardamanda]

If I felt attracted to him, then sure. I'd do it while I still had the chance and hopefully make him happy for whatever was left of his life. I wouldn't refuse to just because I knew it would hurt too much later on. But if it was someone I didn't particularly like, I wouldn't want to date him just to make him feel better since he was dying. That wouldn't be fair to either of us. I'd feel guilty for pretending to love somebody I'm not really into.

 

[Luke1993]

If we both liked each other yes!

 

[Forgotten-Children]

What's the timetable we're talking here? Months, years, or possibly longer?

Maybe yes, if we're talking about months or a couple years max. Any longer, and you kind of put yourself in a state of limbo for a very long time because your relationship can never really go beyond a certain point.

Like I wouldn't start a long-term relationship with someone with a family history of Huntington's. It'd be too much to lose someone you've been with so long when they're still so relatively young.

I guess it really depends.. Like with me, when my boyfriend was diagnosed with Wilson's the doctor gave him till 50 to live. Although that's obviously not set in stone.

 

[Felgen]

Depends on how you define 'dying'. I could date someone with cystic fibrosis, but I wouldn't date someone who was terminally ill with cancer and had three months left to live.

 

[Danfalc]

I'm not sure.Maybe selfish of me but I would find it so hard,I'm not sure I could cope with that giant black hole which would be left when they do pass away.I would feel so helpless.But at the same time it's very hard to switch your feelings off and walk away from someone you care about.

Though maybe it would really make you appreciate the time you do have together.Like that saying about some stars which might not burn as long,but they burn all the brighter while they do.

 

[BlueDays]

I guess it really depends.. Like with me, when my boyfriend was diagnosed with Wilson's the doctor gave him till 50 to live. Although that's obviously not set in stone.

As others have mentioned, it depends how long they have left.
Also it depends if you mean start to date someone or continue dating someone??

If someone like your boyfriend has been given until 50 to live, then he's not what I would term as "dying" as it sounds more like he has been given a shortened life span. Therefore you prolly have many more happy years with him to enjoy yet.

 

[Forgotten-Children]

As others have mentioned, it depends how long they have left.
Also it depends if you mean start to date someone or continue dating someone??

If someone like your boyfriend has been given until 50 to live, then he's not what I would term as "dying" as it sounds more like he has been given a shortened life span. Therefore you prolly have many more happy years with him to enjoy yet.

Well, I guess I meant to say, would you date someone who haas a terminal illness, because his is terminal because there's no cure and it's very slowly killing him with all the copper acumulating in his body.

Also, I knew about his illness before we started dating. (he actually told me that he was going to marry me the next, as a joke at first but since I took him seriously he didn't want to crush my dreams of being with someone because he could tell the type of girl I was, and we've been together ever since)

 

[Aussie_Lad]

Depends on whether I am in the will or not.

Seriously though, I think I would. People who are sick need all the support they can get, and I think it is an honourable thing to do if there is a connection there. There is also the chance that they may make a full recovery despite things looking grim, so even if it is only a slight possibility, it is still worth being there for them.

 

[Psychedelicious]

Someday

I don't know that I could. I wouldn't do it intentionally. If I was already in love with someone before they were dying, I wouldn't leave them once they were. It's just too much for me to handle.

 

[Kinetik]

I don't think I could. I'm an emotional dude (in all the wrong ways).

 

[3lefts]

It wouldn't even matter to me. Dying sooner or later doesn't change who that person is. If I loved them, their death wouldn't be the thing to hold me back.