I have one real female friend. That's it. ONE. I don't know if it's something i'm doing or how i act but i feel like most women dislike me. I mostly work with women who are similar in age to me (20's) and they seem to not particularly like me. One girl in particular seems to really dislike me.
I know it's not in my head because a while ago another co-worker added me on Facebook and where it says "so and so is now friends with so and so" this girl who dislikes me commented underneath "LOL Her???" Even though it's petty it really upset me when i saw it because i hardly even know this girl who dislikes me. I've only ever had a casual conversation with her in passing a few times so i don't know what i could have done to offend her.
I have been told that a look sad/upset quite often and i'm quite quiet until i get to know someone so people have called me stuck up because i'm quiet and walk with my head down because of my self consciousness but i don't think that warrants such spitefulness. I really wish i had some female friends but my awkwardness and being self conscious just makes it pretty much impossible.
Am i doing something wrong?
Yea, you're interacting with human beings. lol.
But no, this is what i've learned -- don't show it bothers you. They're obviously being catty and haven't mentally graduated highschool (or perhaps middle school) yet. If you show them it bothers you, you'll only give them more of a reason to continue doing it.
I'm quiet too, but I do manage to try to start conversations or small talk, even though I hate small talk ... just to give the impression that I care, or i'm social. I'm really not. But, quiet people are punished it seems, because people like drawing conclusions about them without even knowing them.
This is why being quiet is a double-edged sword. Say too much -- you could come off making a bad impression as a gabber (depending on what/ you're talking about) and say too little, and then some other people get the impression that "you're too good for them" or "stuck up" or "weird", or choose one, people's insecurities come from just being this judgmental.
So, what do you do? as hard as it might be, you should only care about the opinions of the people you like. The opinions of idiots shouldn't really bother you, as they are just being catty idiots who probably feel like the only way to bond or be accepted with other women is to cut down other women.
In short: it's not you, it's them.