Why do people like life so much?

[S_Spartan]

or the fact that Basquiat used to buy expensive caviar when he had money.

Ah yes, the graffiti artist who used to hang around with Andy Warhol.

 

[Steiner]

I appreciate your optimism, kiwong. And others as well.

But ADD and learning problems and social difficulties makes it extremely hard to know where you should put your effort, and sometimes even when you apply effort (for me at least), the results are mediocre or even nonexistent. Just writing well with a good vocabulary, for example, does not go far if you have a very slow reading rate and poor reading comprehension, and a poor ability to retain things you should remember...

I can remember the kind of sweater someone wore at a holiday gathering five years ago, or the fact that Basquiat used to buy expensive caviar when he had money (why the f**k do I remember pointless crap??)... but I can't do math to save my life. I still don't what the federal reserve is, or does.. I also don't know how to install or remove an air conditioner even though someone showed me about 15 times with me observing. I couldn't give you directions to a place I've been to hundreds of times if it is more than 10 miles away, because I don't retain street signs or spatial information.

These are only a FEW examples of my ineptitude. This is a global problem... it affects everything. I don't even hold my fork the right way, and have trouble folding clothes properly... Just having a good vocabulary and some little bits of artistic inspiration once in a while cannot make up for it.

Ohhh interesting description there. Makes me wonder about myself.

I tend to not hold writing utensils correctly along with other basic things you would think anyone could do. I remember everything but the important stuff I should remember. Is there a correct way to hold a fork? I wouldn't really know since I can't be bothered to do anything right. I guess as long as the fork can pick stuff up and project into my mouth everything is okay!

Barely passed highschool because of my math skills. Just with regular math I barely passed and that is because the teachers liked me I think. Always had to go to tutoring and work hard but still barely managed to pass meanwhile people who studied like I did were the top of their class. Interesting. I would sometimes rip the pages because of my frustration with math.

I only know how to fold pants somewhat but I am just making shots in the dark when it comes to folding clothes.

I just think I am an idiot though so. I took a test when I was young and the results were mental retardation. Not exactly wrong I am not that bright.

Now to put my thought on the topic of why people like life so much.

Not sure.

I'd post an opinion on it but I feel it's rather off so I won't say anything.

 

[Kiwong]

I never iron or fold my clothes, I failed maths at high school. I know thousands of plant names. People really don't like me much, I can't talk to people anymore. I am old and broken.

But I still see hope. I keep trying, if only to spite failure.

 

[Rumplestiltskin]

Now to put my thought on the topic of why people like life so much.

Not sure.

I'd post an opinion on it but I feel it's rather off so I won't say anything.

Well, I for one would like to read your "off" opinion on the topic, even if it's a short one.

Don't feel obliged at all, though.

 

[Bronson99]

Ohhh interesting description there. Makes me wonder about myself.

I tend to not hold writing utensils correctly along with other basic things you would think anyone could do. I remember everything but the important stuff I should remember. Is there a correct way to hold a fork? I wouldn't really know since I can't be bothered to do anything right. I guess as long as the fork can pick stuff up and project into my mouth everything is okay!

There is a correct way and my parents showed me many times when i was younger. There were times when I actually tried and found I was able to do it, but my normal default way of holding a fork (gripping it with my whole hand, basically) feels much more comfortable to me.

I only know how to fold pants somewhat but I am just making shots in the dark when it comes to folding clothes.

I just think I am an idiot though so. I took a test when I was young and the results were mental retardation. Not exactly wrong I am not that bright.

Now to put my thought on the topic of why people like life so much.

Not sure.

I'd post an opinion on it but I feel it's rather off so I won't say anything.

Well, about taking IQ tests. I took one when I was 15 and received a score of "exactly average." Nonetheless, I still felt ashamed about it because any time anyone lists an IQ score on the Internet, it is rarely ever less than 115. Most of the time it is between 120-140, in fact. (Asking people in real life is not much different, and that's scary, huh?) Either some people are inflating their scores, or people with less impressive scores are less likely to use Internet forums. Or perhaps people with scores between 90-110 simply elect not to tell you their score. Either way, it bothers me.

But about your test that showed "mental retardation." If you happen to be autistic or Aspergian, then an IQ score is less meaningful for you than it is for most. This is because of the contradictory abilities and the jagged skill profile that comes with it. I have a jagged skill profile, for instance.

In any event, you and I seem quite similar. Perhaps we should have dinner some time and celebrate our discovery of a kindred spirit.

 

[Bronson99]

I never iron or fold my clothes, I failed maths at high school. I know thousands of plant names. People really don't like me much, I can't talk to people anymore. I am old and broken.

But I still see hope. I keep trying, if only to spite failure.

Well at least this seems inspiring. Maybe I should do the same. I'm sick of just not trying. I really want to turn things around. But where to start... and how.. as soon as I think about it, I get overwhelmed and think I'm doomed anyway. So why bother... it's a big effin' dilemma. I'm so indecisive...

 

[Kiwong]

Well at least this seems inspiring. Maybe I should do the same. I'm sick of just not trying. I really want to turn things around. But where to start... and how.. as soon as I think about it, I get overwhelmed and think I'm doomed anyway. So why bother... it's a big effin' dilemma. I'm so indecisive...

Anxiety can be seen as the enemy, it is possible to get satisfaction by giving it to it, by trying. Take that anxiety, you *****.

 

[Froggy246]

I really want to turn things around. But where to start... and how.. as soon as I think about it, I get overwhelmed and think I'm doomed anyway. So why bother... it's a big effin' dilemma. I'm so indecisive...

This is my problem too! And the older I get the more overwhelmed I get because I feel like I have less time to do anything.
I know stuff is possible, people turn things around, it's like two sides of a coin, turning a negative into a positive etc but I just don't know what to do first and if I'll have the capacity to do it anyway....maybe I need a life coach.

 

[Kiwong]

Man sometimes I find the first bit of cutlery and give it a quick wash. It might be a spoon, knife or fork whatever gets the job done. I don't give rats what anyone thinks, when I am hungry, and it is more often than not excuse fingers.

Sometimes necessity shows you which direction to take, that was turned my life around from the mess it was five years ago.

Life is freaking amazing, so beautiful in its sadness.

 

[Rawz]

I tend to not hold writing utensils correctly along with other basic things you would think anyone could do.

Is there a correct way to hold a fork?

There is a correct way and my parents showed me many times when i was younger. There were times when I actually tried and found I was able to do it, but my normal default way of holding a fork (gripping it with my whole hand, basically) feels much more comfortable to me.

It's things like this I don't understand. "Correct way to hold a fork"? Does the way you do this and other seemingly insignificant things (and you learn them when you're young, so does it significantly effect your development?) really matter? You say your way is more comfortable for you, so if there is a correct way, I would say that is the criteria. Whatever is most comfortable/easiest for the individual.

I remember once my dad commented on how I put on a shirt, saying it was wrong. Really? Putting on a shirt can be wrong? Why in the world would it matter? Same thing when it came to blowing my nose.

I can think of so many things that are much more important. And I'm finding that in life, for me personally and also for some other people (because of what they said, not my assumptions; I can't speak for everyone), what's really important is how you think. What you think. What you believe.

Don't sweat the small stuff.