Why did she block me on Facebook?

Falkor

Falkor

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From what I am reading I can tell you have to use your common sense more.
Let me explain it in simple words for you:

1.You had a sex friend
2.You two had sex BEFORE you told her you two would NEVER be something serious, so she had hope during the sex
3.You after told her that would not happen. THATS WRONG POINT NR 1.
-She had sex with you, that's a very big step ! and then afterwards you hear that? ouch!

4.You ignored her for months, after having sex. WRONG POINT NR 2. women get insecure!
5.You thought she would READ YOUR MIND why you ignored her. Women are just like men, neither are physic.

6.You had sex again with her, she told you that she has feelings, you told her you don't. very very good ! but tell it earlier please!

7.You then got back with an ex, you did not tell her, but kept having sex i assuming?? WRONG POINT 4. OR WHERE WAS I?

8.It then became too much for her. So no contac.t You got married, and then she sees you being married this week, she still must have had feelings for you. But after all the wrong points, she sees no reason to trust you anymore.

TRUST is the point. See? So please try to be more respectful . Thank you.

And just see this as a very good lesson, so you can spend a good time with your wife.

Better keep it this way. Give her space, move on.
 
bcsr

bcsr

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Not sure if this is a troll post, but if not, you're pretty much a terrible person. That should answer your question.
 
Api

Api

Active member
I'm pretty sure this is a troll. Already hard enough to believe people can be that ignorant, but it's been explained painfully well, multiple times. Anything extra just seems like feeding said troll.
 
MikeyC

MikeyC

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I think we're all getting a little bit carried away with the insults.

I still disagree with the OP about doing nothing wrong, and hopefully he'll see it with the honest replies, but attacking and hurling painful insults is not what this forum is about.
 
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alxbkr

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She's had feeling for you and knows she can't be with you
She's probably been reading those "how to get over someone" guides.
A lot of them say to completely avoid contact for a bit.

ps.
*shameless plug
my blog has an article on this topic.
 
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jc972

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Misfit123 said:
Anyway, eventually i got back together with an ex girlfriend but i didn't tell her straight away. She carried on texting me flirty messages as she didn't know i was seeing someone else so i just ignored her texts/messages most of the time and thought she'd take the hint.
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Obviously you hurt her. And sending her a friend request is akin to pouring salt in a wound. Come on, you had to have known what you were doing was in fact leading her on. You might not have meant any harm by it, but unintended actions have a nasty habit of hurting others. Just ignoring her text messages figuring she'd take the hint was a dumb idea. It's much better to be honest and break it off.
 
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Misfit123

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My intention wasn't to hurt her. Even after i told her i didn't want anything serious she still carried on sleeping with me. That was her choice. She knew what she was doing.

Do you think i shouldn't have sent her the friend request in the first place?
 
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jc972

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Misfit123 said:
My intention wasn't to hurt her. Even after i told her i didn't want anything serious she still carried on sleeping with me. That was her choice. She knew what she was doing.

Do you think i shouldn't have sent her the friend request in the first place?
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No, I don't think you should have. It'd be different if you'd already talked to her and sorted things out and were on amicable terms, then I'd say it'd be ok to friend request but in this particular situation, no.
 
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Vampayah88

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Why exactly did you send her a friend request anyway? Did you hope it would lead to sleeping with her again, while being married? does your wife know you're trying to stay in touch with your random hookups from the past? How would you feel if your wife suddenly decided she's friend requesting/trying to get back in touch with some random recent random fvck buddy she had before she married you?
 
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Misfit123

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Vampayah88 said:
Why exactly did you send her a friend request anyway? Did you hope it would lead to sleeping with her again, while being married? does your wife know you're trying to stay in touch with your random hookups from the past? How would you feel if your wife suddenly decided she's friend requesting/trying to get back in touch with some random recent random fvck buddy she had before she married you?
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Just to see how she was. I didn't want to end things on bad terms and i was curious to know if she'd moved on and was over it.
 
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Vampayah88

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You didn't care about her feelings before given that you ignored her, so why suddenly care now? What happened, happened, so why not just leave that girl alone?
 
Srijita52

Srijita52

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Leave her alone and move on. She's not childish for blocking you, its quite normal for people to develop feelings for someone they've had sex with. Seems like she wants to move on as well, let her.
 
Srijita52

Srijita52

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alxbkr said:
She's had feeling for you and knows she can't be with you
She's probably been reading those "how to get over someone" guides.
A lot of them say to completely avoid contact for a bit.

ps.
*shameless plug
my blog has an article on this topic.
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Hey nice blog
 
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Misfit123

Member
Srijita52 said:
Leave her alone and move on. She's not childish for blocking you, its quite normal for people to develop feelings for someone they've had sex with. Seems like she wants to move on as well, let her.
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She didn't block me straight away though. We were friends on Facebook for a couple of days before she blocked me.
 
Srijita52

Srijita52

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Misfit123 said:
She didn't block me straight away though. We were friends on Facebook for a couple of days before she blocked me.
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Maybe it took her a while to take the decision. Or maybe there's another reason, only she can tell. But it doesn't matter now.
 
snowcream

snowcream

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Maybe she's in love with you?
Even though you made it clear to her you didn't want anything serious, she wanted you so much she settled for one night stands with you here and there, because she knew that's all she would get out of you and took it?
Maybe she assumed because you added her back on facebook that you wanted to reconnect with her again, then she saw you were married, and you've literally destroyed her all over again. My feeling is she's head over heels for you, and all she wants is you to be part of her life. But she knows she can never have you, she's hurt and heart broken, so the only way she can cope is by blocking you. She might not want you out of her life, she's just seeing if you take the hint and do anything to get her back...
I don't know. I'm in a similar situation, I recently cut out the guy I like because he led me on, made out he wanted to be with me, but never left his girlfriend.
As much as it hurts like hell for me to cut him out of my life, he means the world to me, but I realized I was only an option for him. Yes I want him back, and I want him to miss me more than I miss him, I want him to do everything in his power to make me a part of his life. But how can I ever tell him that? I'm supposed to act tough, and as if it doesn't bother me. I'm meant to be strong and move on, without losing any dignity.
Maybe this other girl is doing the same:)
 
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