When people stop texting/messaging you...

[redski]

Yeah, I was and am still a little like this but nowadays I try to rationalize it.
If they do not respond ,well, it can mean anything really. So why should I care.
I have written to them if they do not respond then that is their problem
and I should not make it mine

I think I blew a potential relationship because of this. I wrote to a girl a lot on MSN
because I did want to talk to her (probably IM:ed her too much) she would never reply
me. So I started to believe I was being ignored. I kept trying for a bit but when you
try to get a hold of someone ten times and get a reply the tenth time you start to lose
faith.

That is sort of what happened so I blocked her of my msn eventually.
Then a few week later she would ring me up on my cell and it made be confused
because I had sort of already given up on her.

What I want to say is, do not overreact. You really have no idea why the person
is not replying and it does not have to mean that they hate you or do not like you.
That possibility exists but do not make that your automatic first thought

 

[206Raider]

I assume that they're are busy, as in talking with like 10 of their other buddies at the same time while trying to do a backflip off the roof of the house.

lol I know what you mean, this girl used to text me a lot out of nowhere like "what's up" and I would say nothing you? and she always said something like "nothing just texting 20 other people right now, making dinner"

 

[rayray]

lol I know what you mean, this girl used to text me a lot out of nowhere like "what's up" and I would say nothing you? and she always said something like "nothing just texting 20 other people right now, making dinner"

haha,yeah.
this girl that i started to text is from my school,it takes some time for her to answer on my msgs sometimes,so i always get this feeling like "she doesnt like you,you're not worth her time" and so on ,but i always try to keep cool like "oh well,it's her problem,not mine".
she once said that she's busy because she has to answer 20 more friends of her,so .. maybe.
i guess we all get this feeling.

 

[FarmerJohn]

Yes it's annoying as hell. But I sometimes find the excitement exciting, especially when you finally get that reply you've been waiting for. Sends chills up my spine.

 

[LadyWench]

I instantly feel that they don't want to talk to me anymore at all. Even if it's like just 5 minutes after I text them and I don't get a response, I spend the entire time thinking they have no interest in me until they respond.

Does anyone else feel like this??

Absolutely. I hate it. Back in 2007, I was "dating" this guy that I had been friends with since I was about 13 (I'm nearly 21 now). He was a very shy and vague person. You really have to beat a conversation out of him when texting/e-mailing/instant messaging. In person, he's alright. But he was at work a lot and he actually went out of town for two months for training for his new job. The only way we could communicate was through texting or by phone at that point. He would have like, one word replies and stuff. It drove me nuts because he was terrible at showing his feelings, so I would assume that he just didn't want to talk to me. And if he didn't reply to me at all, my heart would be broken. Yeah, I'm lame.

I still get that way sometimes, but it just isn't as intense. If I'm texting with a friend and they just randomly stop responding, I think to myself "okay, I guess they don't like me anymore". Or "they probably don't even want to talk to me. I'm bothering them." All of these self-pitying things were going through my mind. So, my answer is yes, I feel the same way you do, lol. Sorry this is long and gay.

 

[BrokenSailor]

I feel that way too sometimes. If I don't get a response I always think I said something wrong, offensive, or maybe I'm just plain boring to talk to..it's not only with txts; emails, IMs, myspace and facebool comments/messages etc kinda kills my self esteem when people do that.

 

[Darker Than Black]

I feel the same

 

[Lonelykitsune]

yep,although i dont really mind on msn

 

[PrettyBoy]

Yer I feel like that. Just another problem SA brings you I guess

 

[thursdays_child]

Yes, except all the friends I had have stopped messaging me altogether (for quite a while now). I'm feeling extremely rejected. Then again, I don't start up conversations with them cos I am too scared and don't know what to say.

 

[Harleyq]

texting doesn't bother me cause it annoys me so I'm actually a bit relieved once a text conversation is finished.

On yahoo, sometimes I feel rejected. Just slightly. Most of the time, we've both run out of things to say and I go on about my usual business over the internet and decide not to type anymore until the other person does, or until I come across something I want to share. So I understand that situation.

What gets me paranoid is when people stop communicating altogether. It's one thing to let a conversation die down, but it's another to completely stop having conversations. This guy who called himself my best friend and acknowledged me as his sister hasn't contacted me in over 2 months. At first I thought I'd pissed him off cause he wouldn't reply to my emails but then he sent me a couple of short messages saying he got an iPod and that was that. Couldn't even tell you if he was alive. Stuff like that scares me.

 

[evil feline space cadet]

I get into a terrible state if i text someone i really like and they take a long time to reply. Not thinking they may be busy or whatever. And when i get short replies i feel as if i'm annoying the person by texting them!

 

[creznor]

I usually just ignore it.

 

[thor01]

It always makes me feel like its a problem with me, what I said, or that they've got better people to talk to.

texting doesn't bother me cause it annoys me so I'm actually a bit relieved once a text conversation is finished.

On yahoo, sometimes I feel rejected. Just slightly. Most of the time, we've both run out of things to say and I go on about my usual business over the internet and decide not to type anymore until the other person does, or until I come across something I want to share. So I understand that situation.

What gets me paranoid is when people stop communicating altogether. It's one thing to let a conversation die down, but it's another to completely stop having conversations. This guy who called himself my best friend and acknowledged me as his sister hasn't contacted me in over 2 months. At first I thought I'd pissed him off cause he wouldn't reply to my emails but then he sent me a couple of short messages saying he got an iPod and that was that. Couldn't even tell you if he was alive. Stuff like that scares me.

Yeah its not a nice feeling when you find someone on the internet who makes out they are a genuine friend and really like you, which is very rare anyway for me and then it seems they completely forget you and there's no trace.

 

[Deathinmusic]

I'd be hypocritical if i said that i hate it because i do it myself:: It's not because i'm not interested in the person it's because i don't have a clue what to say so i end up feeling so awkward i ignore them.

This is me exactly. It's like I can't talk about anything unless the other person asks something or I have something specific to say. But just casual small talk? Yeah.... not happening.

 

[reslo]

sometimes it takes me 30-45 minutes to send a text message... the fast ones I am able to send within 15 minutes...i get so nervous about what to say or that they'll take what I say the wrong way... it's because of being avoidant... it's hard sometimes for me to go and read a text- i start getting nervous about it, and think how i won't know what to say or how to respond.

 

[thursdays_child]

Yeah its not a nice feeling when you find someone on the internet who makes out they are a genuine friend and really like you, which is very rare anyway for me and then it seems they completely forget you and there's no trace.

Totally know where you're coming from.

 

[melissahp]

I used to care lots more.. but now its kinda gone.. it comes with anxiety especially social anxiety... I think if you can improve the condition it will go away it sure did for me.. I was extremely worried about the text things!

 

[sullyS1985]

I feel this way almost all the time, it is really annoying because i know it is usually an irrational thought that they arent responding because i said something that made me seem like a loser and led them to not want to talk to me anymore. I really used to have problems when i was younger because i would text them and ask what i did, then they wouldnt respond so i would get to the point where i was like "ok i understand if you dont want to be my friend" or something soo stupid like that only to find out they were in the mountains and had no service or something like that. Then i really would feel like a dipshit and go into my self loathing mood. now a days if i really like a girl i just dont text her or put her number in my phone so i dont end up doing something really stupid like that.

 

[Harleyq]

It always makes me feel like its a problem with me, what I said, or that they've got better people to talk to.



Yeah its not a nice feeling when you find someone on the internet who makes out they are a genuine friend and really like you, which is very rare anyway for me and then it seems they completely forget you and there's no trace.

...I wish it WAS an internet friend, lol. This guy was someone that I hung out with literally every other day plus one whole day on the weekend, every single week. I probably know this guy's darkest secrets. To me, that's worse...somebody you know really well in person just dumps you, pretty much.