what's wrong with online dating?

[LazyHermitCrab]

it seems like people put it down a lot but I really don't see the difference because the people online are people too. You should make sure they are who they are like talk on webcam, take pics, talk on the phone, and meet in public first. if you meet someone in rl first who just happens to be in your schedule then great but i dont see anything wrong with meeting someone online first.....::

 

[mrb]

there is nothing wrong with online dating , but you have to be carefull , if your a woman take a freind just to be on the safe side , hey lol i met my gf online

 

[Danfalc]

Yeah some people seem to dismiss it quite easily.I really can't see the problem myself..I think it's a good way of hooking up and meeting people.Yeah sure you can get some weird people on-line..But you can also get weird people in real life too..At least on-line you can stay in contact for a while before meeting up.Sure your not going to fully know what someone is like till you date,but that rings true for someone you meet in a club too.

 

[sara1975]

I met my husband in a chatroom on line, it wasn't a dating one but i see no probs with people going on them

 

[mrb]

I met my husband in a chatroom on line, it wasn't a dating one but i see no probs with people going on them

yes but your husbands kind of scary looking .... not that im scared i could take him pfft gazza the man not to mess with

 

[lyricalliaisons]

I don't think there's anything wrong with it if the people actually meet each other & get to know each other in real life, too. The only problem I have is when people consider it a real relationship when they're never even planning on meeting the person. That's not a relationship & something like that will never last. Unless they meet, they never really know who they're dealing with.

 

[Danfalc]

The only problem I have is when people consider it a real relationship when they're never even planning on meeting the person. That's not a relationship & something like that will never last. Unless they meet, they never really know who they're dealing with.

I kind of agree,I couldn't have a relationship with someone I had never met if we were never going to meet for real.Though I can understand you can fall for someone online,and I think it's sweet people count themselves as taken until they meet up.

Imagine if you were planning to meet up with a person you had fallen for online,then they started going round saying they were single :: I can see why some people say they are in a relationship even if they haven't met up yet.Things are not always black or white.

 

[sara1975]

yes but your husbands kind of scary looking .... not that im scared i could take him pfft gazza the man not to mess with

I keep telling you hes a pussycat now

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

I kind of agree,I couldn't have a relationship with someone I had never met if we were never going to meet for real.Though I can understand you can fall for someone online,and I think it's sweet people count themselves as taken until they meet up.

Imagine if you were planning to meet up with a person you had fallen for online,then they started going round saying they were single :: I can see why some people say they are in a relationship even if they haven't met up yet.Things are not always black or white.

Yea, I believe you should eventually meet. However, I've been talking to someone for four years and there was a time I think we loved eachother which sounds kinda odd so I keep it to myself. We were able to support eachother well and all that but I wouldnt go around saying i'm taken..

 

[sara1975]

Yea, I believe you should eventually meet. However, I've been talking to someone for four years and there was a time I think we loved eachother which sounds kinda odd so I keep it to myself. We were able to support eachother well and all that but I wouldnt go around saying i'm taken..

I think it depends on what you both agree the relationship is.
If your just friends chatting or your never going to meet the person then its not a romantic relationship as it has no future.
But if there are romantic feelings involved and you do plan to take it that step further and meet and you both agree you don't want anyone else then yes it is a relationship.
My now hubby and i both agreed that we wanted to meet and that we didn't want anyone else so we were taken and off the market.
I was closer to him and spoke to him more than my friend was and did with her hubby she lived with

 

[Hellhound]

There's absolutely nothing wrong with it. But i guess both parts would have to meet in person at some point.

 

[AimeeSP]

When i was 16 i met a few people online who i had anxiety issues in common with, i saw them on webcam, spoke on the phone etc before meeting so i knew they were saying who they were before i met. I can't believe i went ahead with it ... maybe i had abit more courage back then ... i sure haven't anymore lol! And i wouldn't recommend online dating at 16 (wasn't a dating site though, just a site like this lol - had something in common with them).

Anyway i ended it in the end (3 people i ended up meeting with and dated) i just didn't have the confidence to be in a relationship, none of them lasted longer than a month. But anyway, nothing wrong with online dating when you're ready and 18+ IMO.

 

[Emily_G]

Nothing's wrong with online dating. The majority of the 1st year of hubby's and my relationship was online.

 

[Pink_Paula]

I don't think there's anything wrong with it if the people actually meet each other & get to know each other in real life, too. The only problem I have is when people consider it a real relationship when they're never even planning on meeting the person. That's not a relationship & something like that will never last. Unless they meet, they never really know who they're dealing with.

I agree with what you're saying. you HAVE to meet up for real otherwise i don't see the point in it, sure you can fall in love with someone online, but you'll never know what they are really like until you meet them. You may get on super well chatting online but when you meet you could realise there's absolutely no real connection there or if you're luck it could work out. I don't think theres anything wrong with online dating as long as you always plan on meeting and actually go ahead with it.

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

I think it depends on what you both agree the relationship is.
If your just friends chatting or your never going to meet the person then its not a romantic relationship as it has no future.
But if there are romantic feelings involved and you do plan to take it that step further and meet and you both agree you don't want anyone else then yes it is a relationship.
My now hubby and i both agreed that we wanted to meet and that we didn't want anyone else so we were taken and off the market.
I was closer to him and spoke to him more than my friend was and did with her hubby she lived with

That's really sweet, i'm glad it worked out for you guys!!

 

[Rexus]

i met my gf online! It worked out great! she liked the fact that I am not like other people and are mentally troubled. Some girls find that extremely attractive, dunno why! haha she loves me for it

 

[Eam]

I've never used an online dating website, it may be something I consider once I'm a little more confident about myself. I imagine the male users significantly outnumber the female though.

 

[lurknomore]

I see nothing wrong with it. Meeting people in real life hasn't worked for me thus far. Since I split with my ex-husband 4 years ago, I haven't even been on a date, or have any clue how to get one.

 

[Rexus]

I see nothing wrong with it. Meeting people in real life hasn't worked for me thus far. Since I split with my ex-husband 4 years ago, I haven't even been on a date, or have any clue how to get one.

go to a club and have a couple of drinks imo (also make sure you're taking your anti-anxiety meds). I used to do this before I had a steady gf and I used to pick girls up.

 

[lurknomore]

go to a club and have a couple of drinks imo (also make sure you're taking your anti-anxiety meds). I used to do this before I had a steady gf and I used to pick girls up.

Eh... I've been to clubs a couple of times with my sisters, but it doesn't really seem like my thing or that I would meet someone I would actually be interested in there. I did have a little to drink on the occasions I went, but it was more about watching my sisters and/or their (engaged ) friends make out or try to hook up with random guys... and myself trying to stay away from the creepy ones. Plus, if I can't have a conversation without literally shouting, then no thanks.