Pacific_Loner
Pirate from the North Pole
Hellooo so I was sitting and thinking because it's one of my favorite hobbies and I realized that, one of the reasons I like solitude so much is that when I'm with people, I always feel like they expect something from me, that I'm not giving to them (competency at work, entertainment with friends, etc.), OR that I am giving it to them but to a great cost of energy on my part and I'm scared that I won't be able to keep it up for very long because I get tired quickly.
Some of those (these?) expectations are probably real, but others might be imagined, or my incapacity of being what people expect me to be might be imagined. This is one thing that causes my social phobia. So it's interesting to sit and think of those things and try to figure out if this is real or imagined, and if my need to reach people's expectation in this or that situation is justified or not.
Anyway I was mostly wondering if anyone else think their anxiety might be caused in part by what they think people expect from them, and what are those expectations, etc.
Some of those (these?) expectations are probably real, but others might be imagined, or my incapacity of being what people expect me to be might be imagined. This is one thing that causes my social phobia. So it's interesting to sit and think of those things and try to figure out if this is real or imagined, and if my need to reach people's expectation in this or that situation is justified or not.
Anyway I was mostly wondering if anyone else think their anxiety might be caused in part by what they think people expect from them, and what are those expectations, etc.