what is/was it like for you at school?

[Richey]

its only considered an uncool thing to sit alone by the people who only want to spend their time looking popular and see it as a competition ...

its not a bad thing and you should tell yourself that its as normal as sitting with people, maybe you want to read or study more without distractions ..

but its also important to try and make friends to be around as well from time to time so you can share moments with

 

[Riiya]

[Riiya goes paranoid.]

 

[4seasons]

I sat alone because I didn't want to deal with anxiety. I sat alone because I would rather sit there and be humiliated then try to force myself to get to know people and suffer threw that feeling. Its like a chain reaction, you start to sit by yourself not talking to anyone in class or anything and you're just looked upon and judged as a weird person. One thing leads to another.

 

[mismeek]

You guys should read The Loner's Manifesto. It helped me deal with my loner-ish tendencies. lol :wink:

I did the same thing too 4seasons, I grew to accept it and enjoy being alone. But youre right people do tend to make fun of people who arent socially active. People didnt bother me because they just assumed I was shy.

 

[Megz]

Ah school. It's not exactly the best place to be. I'm at mine right now. No friends to talk to and nothing to do. I don't eat in school because i'm overweight and can't eat in front of people I don't know. Kids yell things at me because they know I wont yell back. I'm seriously so alone. people push in front of me in lines and read my computer screen making nasty comments about what I'm looking at and no one cares how it makes me feel they just know I won't tell them to go away because I rarely talk to any one. Some times I wish I was invisible whilst wanting a friend at the same time. I want to get a good job when I'm plder which is why i stick it out but if it were up to me i'd be hiding in the wilderness somewhere never to be seen again

 

[Sad-Kitten]

School for me was difficult because of several factors
1: I had trouble concentrating
2: My SA
3: I went to a total of five different schools from grades k-8.

It used to discourage me because the other kids seemed to be able to focus with ease and get things done, while i struggled to focus on even the simplest things. Today i suspect i have ADD.

I didn't go to multiple schools because i was a trouble maker or anything, it was more of necessity. I lived in an apartment right across the street from a church and brand new private christian school. At the time unfortunately they did not have kindergarten (They would have it the very next year.) So i had to go to another private christian school that was way far away (as my mom was determined that i never go to public school) after that i went to the school right across the street for grades 1-4. After 4th however we got our own home and moved away. We found a very small christian private school in the area ( There was no more than 9 students at the whole school!) and so i went there for 5th grade. After the year however not enough people re-enrolled so i found my self looking for a new school again. The next one i went to was large, but some of my friends from 1-4th were going there as well, so it worked out ok. 6th was alright but seventh didn't go to well and the teachers basically gave up on me. They literally told me they didn't want me there anymore. (Ouch!) So off to find another school. We found another school it was pretty small not as small as the other one but still small. It was probably the best school i can think of going to, i liked the teacher he was very helpful and patient and the other classmates were generally friendly as well. I still struggled to concentrate on work though, and it forced me to retake the 8th grade, but it wasn't as bad as i thought it would be, and many of my friends from the previace year were now in the same grade as me so it worked out alright and i did much better in that next year.

It always bothered me that i couldn't seem to do good in school no matter how hard i tried. My mom (who's a single parent) worked her ass off and paid damn good money for me to go to these schools and it always felt like i was failing her.

I think you younger generation should be thankful that you can find help while your still in school, nobody ever talked to me about ADD, or SA they just said i was too shy and needed to focus more.

ugh! This post got way longer than i had planned. Sorry!

 

[toothpastekisses]

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[Smokeringz]

i go to home school , fuck high school.

 

[madmike]

High school was easy enough. I didn't talk to very many people, or do much outside of school hours, but while there i had my girlfriend (now ex) to talk to and i could pretend my way through the day with other people. Now uni, that is bloody difficult. I've lost sooo much confidence now that i'm basically exposed to people 24/7. I haven't had any kind of conversation with any of my flatmates, and i don't even dare go in the kitchen when they're all there... and when i do i'm all quiet.

Any suggestions from anyone. Any similar experiences? I just don't know what the best thing to do is, i sometimes feel like i'm just a burden on people anyway, so i'd rather shut myself in... but i can't become a total recluse, like it or not we all need people :/

 

[marciaX3]

in elementary school, i was considered one of the popular kids lol. in middle school (jr. high) i also had a lot of friends. my social anxiety mostly came out when i had to do oral presentations or my teachers made me participate in class... that was horrible. then my social anxiety kicked into high gear when i started high school. since we moved, i had to start high school in a whole new city w/ all new kids so i didn't have ANY friends my freshman yr. then we moved again and i made 3 friends in my new school. otherwise, it was basically the same as my freshman yr where i never went to lunch, i did my own thing in the library or elsewhere (writing, doing homework, etc). so i didn't do any real socializing minus the few mins walking thru the halls w/ my few friends. in class, i didn't have my friends so i was a major loner. so to sum it up, i was a loner 97% of the school day my whole time in high school.