OceanMist
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I seem to have weaved in and out of whether I am a loser or not. I'm at a stage where I really am kind of undecided on whether I am a loser. I don't know if I really even care that much anymore. Even if I am loser, that doesn't mean I can't succeed socially. What I've gotten to is more of a question about what, loser, even means?
It seems this "loser" word has become more slang than anything. If you think about it, the word isn't usually used to point out that someone is losing at something, which is what loser is defined as.
The word (loser) is often targeted at shy people as saying that we have no social life, but wait a sec, social life isn't a game. Life isn't a game. What are we losing at if there is no contest? Life isn't a competition. The goal of life is to make yourself happy, to enjoy life....not to be better than others.
I guess what these people (usually the outgoing people who happen to be the jerk type of outgoing people, not all are jerks obviously) are trying to say is that they are happier than us? What makes them so sure of that?
I've read about people on here who seem pretty darn happy with their life. Why do we have to have an active social life to be happier than someone else? What if winning at a video game gives me more joy than sitting in a room full of loud people talking about the same lame small talk? What if I enjoy drinking alone more than spending nights in a bar watching everyone else have fun?
It seems that many outgoing people seem to think that everyone should feel like them, and anyone who doesn't is a loser and must be unhappy.
Your thoughts? I plan on contributing more to this thread as I feel like I haven't gotten all my thoughts down on this subject yet.
It seems this "loser" word has become more slang than anything. If you think about it, the word isn't usually used to point out that someone is losing at something, which is what loser is defined as.
The word (loser) is often targeted at shy people as saying that we have no social life, but wait a sec, social life isn't a game. Life isn't a game. What are we losing at if there is no contest? Life isn't a competition. The goal of life is to make yourself happy, to enjoy life....not to be better than others.
I guess what these people (usually the outgoing people who happen to be the jerk type of outgoing people, not all are jerks obviously) are trying to say is that they are happier than us? What makes them so sure of that?
I've read about people on here who seem pretty darn happy with their life. Why do we have to have an active social life to be happier than someone else? What if winning at a video game gives me more joy than sitting in a room full of loud people talking about the same lame small talk? What if I enjoy drinking alone more than spending nights in a bar watching everyone else have fun?
It seems that many outgoing people seem to think that everyone should feel like them, and anyone who doesn't is a loser and must be unhappy.
Your thoughts? I plan on contributing more to this thread as I feel like I haven't gotten all my thoughts down on this subject yet.