what calms you

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For me its watching t.v., video games, hitting things or people::(:, getting in trouble: for some reason if I get in trouble with the law I become very centered, driving, eating, being seductive, smoking, sleeping: if i get really upset I just go to sleep instead of crying, straitening my hair:confused:, being around certain people, falling asleep in someone lap, putting on chap-stick:confused:,sitting outside by myself, cleaning, and prob. other things but i can't think of them.
 
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Giggity

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Sleeping is a big one for me because when I'm asleep I'm not dwelling on things, if that makes sense. Movies, music, video games, working out, playing with my dog, etc.
 
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missjesss

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things that relax me:
1) tv
2) Internet
3) Music
4) affection and cuddles
5) sex
6) food
7) alcohol (used to be recreational drugs)
8) exersize (but not so much anymore lately Ive been so lazy and turning to food more!)
9) Certain ppl when im in the mood for them
10) swimming
11) drawing (back in the day when I drew lol )
12) reading (only when im interested in the story/topic)
13) driving (when I could drive but I did it impulsively)
14) video games
 
3lefts

3lefts

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When it rains it always calms me down.
I'm reminded of this because it's raining outside right now :)
Watching the sun-rise,
Just thinking,
Music,
Something humorous,
or appreciative.
If I'm really upset I usually just think it out,
until I can get myself to smile at something, anything.
 
EscapeArtist

EscapeArtist

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Putting a robe or blanket in the dryer 'till it's warm and then using it
Taking a walk (Only calming when there is nobody around)
Meditating
Weight lifting/running
Focusing on the simple things, and focusing on nurturing the 5 senses through them
Decaf tea
Snow, rain, sun or darkness all do wonders.. In different ways
Walking around barefoot if you can
Talking to somebody online (Not real life of course.. That would be the opposite of calming)
Finding guidance or leisure through wonderful authors or philosophers
A shower, because I don't enjoy baths
Matching mood with music
Playing the guitar
Dreaming up the future
Studying things of nature, or researching things that are in equilibrium (reassuring)
Organizing

I have always wanted to have a friend that could enjoy silence with me, to have a presence and know you are not alone in the moment, and yet are so comfortable with that presence. I am not sure if this can ever happen for me but I'd imagine that kind of person sharing a moment, especially one of nature, would be one of the most calming experiences.
 
kihira

kihira

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Time at home alone
Walking in the bush
Being by the sea
Listening to rain on the roof
Enthralling documentaries
Being online here
Exploring on my bike
Family stays at a shack (this is magically calming)
Purring puss-cat cuddles
Standing in wind
Watching birds
 
Aussie_Lad

Aussie_Lad

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- Watching TV
- Internetting
- Drinking Tea
- Getting out into nature
- Outdoors during the daytime
- Heading up to my parents place
- Slow relaxing music
 
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Kinetik

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Whiskey. Since I stopped taking medication some time ago I have occasional problems regarding self-soothing. It's not that I ever freak out, I'm just a mess internally.
 
PunkRotten

PunkRotten

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Alot of these lists are not relaxation, they are escapes. And some are not healthy.

The only things that relax me are meditation, being in nature, taking baths, sitting in jacuzzi's, stretching, cooking, listening to music and playing guitar. Sometimes crafts, like making masks.
 
Forgotten-Children

Forgotten-Children

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- Pacing to music inorder to think (My major one)
- Playing video games
- Coming on here or other forums to talk
- Talking to my boyfriend
- Sleeping
- Forced crying (Sounds crazy, but sometimes, if I'm alone in the house and am just NOT happy, I force myself to cry)

EDIT: How could I forget drawing?! x-x
 
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Falkor

Falkor

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-Relaxing music
-Eastern music (Chinese,Japanese etc)
-A beautiful scenery
-Nature, landscapes, sea, beach
-Rain
-Watching tv
-Watching a Rom-Com
-Playing guitar
-Listening to beautiful piano melodies
-Spanish guitar songs
-Walking in the park
-Talk things off my chest
-Drawing manga
-Comics
-Reading (literature, novels, thrillers, etc)
-Sleeping
-Green Tea
-Taking a bath or shower
-Daydreaming
 
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Danfalc

Danfalc

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Liking some peoples lists

-Exercise
-Sex and affection
-Being organized and on top of my bills,housework.
-Drawing or painting
-Reading
-And weirdly enough as anxious as it sometimes make me..getting out,because I feel relaxed when I get back home afterwards.
-My pets
-A long soak in the bath
 
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shyguyxv

Member
The only thing I can think of right now that actually calms me is cuddling. There is just something about holding a woman in my arms that instantly makes me relaxed.

-Don
 
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emerald_star733

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1. a hot bubble bath
2. meditation
3. being anywhere in nature
4. water.. i will go out of my way to be near water when upset.. the sound of the waves soothes me.
5. whale watching although it is more exhilerating than calming
6. playing the piano.. my flute i feel too shy as i am in an apartment building and i am afraid it will bother others, same with my guitar.. so with my piano(electric one) i can put headphones on and the world disappears..
7. writing poetry
8. reading
9. camping..(cept when i am scared of grizzly's and cougars)but i love staring at a campfire...
10. sunrises and sunsets (hopeless romantic lol)
11. smelling flowers(yes i take time to smell the roses)
12. petting my cats and just spending time with them
13. spending time with those i can trust and be myself completely with(few and far between)
14. watching my fav tv shows
15. watching movies
16. chocolate....
17. booze usually makes me hyper so i can't really say that it calms me..
18. my lasagne... i love cooking and cooking is like a meditation almost for me.
19. music... new age type stuff..
20. a good cry
21. a gentle snowfall or rain
22. the after result of cleaning the house real good, and the feeling of smiling at the shine on the floor while candles give the home a nice vibe... yes, shiny floors make me smile although not calming while doing it.. ick.. but after affect.. yes... worth it..
23. cuddling
24. a good nights sleep
25. a good laugh, like from your soul kind of laugh.. i feel so good after that..
ok this is getting way too long, sorry people....
 
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