Were your parents overprotective?

[Social_Monstrosity]

Mine definitely were, I feel this, in a way, contributed to my SAD.

I'm 18 and I'm still not allowed to go out at night (not that I'd want to, I have zero friends)

 

[Silvox Black]

Bah! Nothing stirs my ire more than those foolish sods of parents who believe that sheltering their child from reality will somehow give them a better life. I have seen many such children in a complete state of confusion and pain when they finally understand that life is not a kind place, that they do not know how to make friends. I understand your plight good fellow, if you have any such anger towards your parents, I would not think any less of you for it.

 

[Social_Monstrosity]

I certainly hold some resent toward my parents.

The only thing they ever cared about was my education.

 

[lithium]

Education is an important aspect of life. However, socializing is what makes education worth going through. School is such a shit environment though, I can never feel comfortable.

 

[Silvox Black]

I certainly hold some resent toward my parents.

The only thing they ever cared about was my education.

Allow me to be a tad presumptuous here when I say, they had no emotional awareness at all? Meaning that they knew nothing of the depths of emotion and just what your actions would reflect in your feelings?

 

[Social_Monstrosity]

Allow me to be a tad presumptuous here when I say, they had no emotional awareness at all? Meaning that they knew nothing of the depths of emotion and just what your actions would reflect in your feelings?

You're right on the mark.

 

[Oscelot]

Extremely.

 

[Hellhound]

She isn't overprotective... more like obsessed, posessive and afraid. She always hated when I wanted to do something for my own good, I don't know if it was jealousy or it has to do with her OCD or any of her mental illnesses, but she would always bitch at me and try as hard as she could to forbid me to go out if my activities didn't include HER -.- And she believes i am too dumb to be in the real world without getting robbed, raped, manipulated and fooled by everybody, or end up doing drugs, sex, hanging around with criminals, sluts, etc out of innocence. She seriously believes I am that naive... Geez...

 

[206Raider]

my parents were overprotective but I would still sneak out at night in high school and stuff, the funny thing is, I don't know how they knew becuase when I was home they NEVER checked on me and my door would be closed at night and when I jumped out my window at night around 11 or so and they were asleep they always knew I snuck out the next day, if I came home 15 minutes late from when I said I would, I would get yelled at. I had seperation anxiety as a child too I figured, my parents always said when they left me for any amount of time when I was young wheter it be 1 minute or 10 I would freak out, I remember doing that once or twice around 6 years old when my parents got divorced they would go inside the gas station to pay and I started balling thinkin they got killed or something.

 

[Psychedelicious]

Man Repellent

Noo waysss. They didn't even need to be, good god. I was a total person repellent all on my own doing. I could have done whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted, within general reason of course. It's you know, "Ummm, I'm going somewhere bye". All you have to do is call everyday. Pretty simple. My parents can be a handful, especially my dad, good god. I don't even want to get into that... But one thing they weren't was strict, or overbearing, in any manner. I mean I remember like watching horror movies in first grade, and being left alone with my siblings around that same age too. We were never ever afraid of anything either. I can certainly say it's one thing that they didn't screw up.

 

[limetree]

I've sneaked out a few times to concerts and the mardi gras My parents can be seriously paranoid though, modelling anxious behaviour might've contributed to my tendency to worry in general.
Their reasoning was this: if you go to a crowded area, if there's a fire, you're young and short so people will trample you as they try to save themselves.:| They were also skeptical of the crowds at such places; provocative gothy/psychedelic dressers with tattoos, drugs, booze, ciggies etc. I remember resenting them for being close-minded since I had no intention of taking up any bad habits or judging a book by its cover. My dad also refused to drive me to shops by myself at 17 just bc it was a little distant and my sister wasn't working there that day. Gah, a shopping centre is like the least dangerous place to roam by yourself. Don't discriminate against people who lack friends or don't feel like hanging out with people in general. x_x

Thankfully they weren't extreme micromanaging helicopter parents though, they tried banning me from myspace once after seeing that I swore on my profile :| but didn't bother afterwards or else I think I would've gone insane. I really can't stand people trying to control me, I need plenty of space to do my own thing and tend to leave others to their own devices too. One of my close friend's mother is really cool so she helped convince my parents that she would look after us when taking us to events.

I think the stricter and more uncompromising you are, the more rebellious your kids will become. By all means establish boundaries but do that through teaching values, listening and being a rational sounding board rather than using that "because I said so" and "you should always respect your elders" bullshit. We need to be able to develop and trust our own ability to be independent. You might as well never leave the house just bc you might *cough* will eventually die. All that mattered was that I trusted myself at the time. I knew my friends weren't going to leave me behind if someone terrible did happen, which nothing did of course.

 

[Nack]

Dads are there to help their kids explore the world, Moms are there to help protect them from harm. Unfortunately, my dad died when i was a kid and my mom is too overprotective... so basically i missed out on a lot of mistakes for me to learned as a kid.

 

[lyricalliaisons]

No, if anything my mom should have been more protective. She should have been less permissive than she was. I never wanted to do anything, since I was always so scared of being around people, but she's the type of person that would have probably allowed me to do almost anything negative if I had had the desire to (excluding drugs, alcohol, sex, of course).

 

[chained]

ouu yeah! they never even et me roller blade when I was a kd.. said it was to dangerous.. and a whole lotta shit, and i blame a lot of my SA on them! I was good at basketball, running, never sent me to training, a whole lotta s*** and hte forbid me everything.. then I stood up for myself, but a little to late...
they were overprotective with the wrong things and under with the rite grr

 

[Honk]

When I was a child my parents were somewhat protective, however once I became a teenager they actually encouraged me to go out more frequently and whatnot.

 

[Noca]

My parents werent protective at all, they never knew i was bullied my entire life until i was 18 and done school.

 

[Jake123]

It's more convenient and economical for my parents to "protect" me than it is for them to get off their cheap lazy asses and stop leeching off of me and "risk" "things" happening (For example, god forbid I get a license, I could crash the car and ruin everything for them! Not worth the risk! Much easier to just keep me locked up than allow me freedom)

 

[this_portrait]

My mom was overprotective, but not my father. My mom is still paranoid over me to this day, and it's really annoying. I do kinda feel like her being paranoid about me getting abducted by some creepy pedophile and not letting me have much freedom as a kid has contributed to me having SA, but not as much as being rejected by my peers, though.

 

[Hellhound]

It's more convenient and economical for my parents to "protect" me than it is for them to get off their cheap lazy asses and stop leeching off of me and "risk" "things" happening (For example, god forbid I get a license, I could crash the car and ruin everything for them! Not worth the risk! Much easier to just keep me locked up than allow me freedom)

Geez... That's really selfish of them =/

 

[AimeeSP]

My parents were the complete opposite which contributed to my anxiety as i felt i had no one to protect me as a little kid.

As a result of that i'm constantly trying to find a guy who makes me feel protected as i've never felt safe. Any offers?