P+G
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Finding true friendship is hard. I'm twenty-one and I found him almost two years ago. I think I was very lucky. It was completely unexpected and happened when I was feeling very, very low. At my worst.
Having a true friendship means that you care for the other person. Both of you get along very well and can be completely comfortable with each other. But it also means that you're able to grow and learn with a good companion and resolve any arguments in a good way. You find out a lot about yourself. Nobody wants to be alone. If the right person came you'd want to be with them.
In order to find a friend you have to spend a lot of time with someone. I wonder if that's easier for a boy and a girl rather than two girls or two boys. (Assuming that the boys and girls in this example are heterosexual.) I've always wondered that if I were a boy, would my friend (who is now my boyfriend) have still spent all that time talking to me?
My boyfriend and I became friends at first and I think neither of us throws around the term friend that easily at all so this was important. I think being a girl and my friend being a boy we easily became girlfriend/boyfriend. I still consider him my best friend but he's also my boyfriend.
I wonder if this is why I can't talk to people and make friends because the only way I know how to do that is to spend a lot of time with them. And no one seems to do that. They make 'friends' so easily. But I've noticed that they aren't true friends. Maybe I'm expecting too much?
I'm trying to write this but it's coming out all confusing and long. I think I'll post this and maybe add more later. I hope something makes sense.
I think the main thing is, if you've found a boyfriend or girlfriend who works with you so well, how are you going to try and make other friends when it's so difficult and you've already found a great one?
Have one true friend or a handful of people you might see or talk to? Might.
Having a true friendship means that you care for the other person. Both of you get along very well and can be completely comfortable with each other. But it also means that you're able to grow and learn with a good companion and resolve any arguments in a good way. You find out a lot about yourself. Nobody wants to be alone. If the right person came you'd want to be with them.
In order to find a friend you have to spend a lot of time with someone. I wonder if that's easier for a boy and a girl rather than two girls or two boys. (Assuming that the boys and girls in this example are heterosexual.) I've always wondered that if I were a boy, would my friend (who is now my boyfriend) have still spent all that time talking to me?
My boyfriend and I became friends at first and I think neither of us throws around the term friend that easily at all so this was important. I think being a girl and my friend being a boy we easily became girlfriend/boyfriend. I still consider him my best friend but he's also my boyfriend.
I wonder if this is why I can't talk to people and make friends because the only way I know how to do that is to spend a lot of time with them. And no one seems to do that. They make 'friends' so easily. But I've noticed that they aren't true friends. Maybe I'm expecting too much?
I'm trying to write this but it's coming out all confusing and long. I think I'll post this and maybe add more later. I hope something makes sense.
I think the main thing is, if you've found a boyfriend or girlfriend who works with you so well, how are you going to try and make other friends when it's so difficult and you've already found a great one?
Have one true friend or a handful of people you might see or talk to? Might.