trouble dealing with haters

[LonelyBoy]

i know that haters are the most insecure and pathetic people ever so they just take their insecurities out on other people.
i know that we're just suppose to ignore them but MY GOODNESS,
the disgusting and despicable things they say to innocent people can cause the worst trauma in one persons life.
and you'll just wonder why would another human being do that to another.
i would just rather be beaten up by them if they have a problem with me coz all ill ever think about is the physical pain that will just go away.
even the hate wasn't directed at me it can still cause me to stress and cringe in anger.

 

[mmmm]

If you think you have trauma in your life, multiply it by a thousand and you'll know what those haters feel like every day. It's like their own internal turmoil is so massive that they can't hold it in and it ends up spilling out onto everyone they meet, particularly those they choose to target. I know it's a cliche but let it go. Their comments really have nothing to do with you.

 

[Yoyshaia]

It can be difficult to deal with people who hate for what seems to be no reason at all. Try to keep in mind all the people who love and respect you - and presumably they know you a lot better than the haters! If people have nothing better to do than upset other people for fun... they must have the most miserable lives.

 

[Flowers-Of-Bloom]

'Haters'...
Supposedly, they are extremely dependant, like the narcissist.

If you think you have trauma in your life, multiply it by a thousand and you'll know what those haters feel like every day.

Let's be realistic here.
It's apart of their coping 'skills.' People deal with things differently, so it certainly does not mean these people suffer a great deal more than anyone else.

Or we could all be completely wrong and suddenly realise that assholes, are infact - assholes.

 

[Sinar_Matahari]

Haters are the people who have always treated me the worst. I despise them for all the harm they've done me and countless others. I'm insecure but I can admit to it and I don't take it out on others. I think it's arrogant of me to expect others to be the same. After all, I'm not perfect.

 

[JCS008]

The only reason someone is a hater is because they have their own insecurities. Whatever it may be, we'll never know. Just try not to take their bait no matter how hard they try. Unless they're complete losers, they'll move on if they can tell you can care less about what they say or do to you. They just want attention and to make someone feel bad so they can feel better about themselves.

 

[stand_up]

A hater has his/her own problem, true,... but oneday that hater will learn the painful way that their way in exhausting, coping, approaching their problem is wrong. Their desires, urges will backfire.

For every bully out there, there are equally the same amount of quiet people out there who wouldn't mind responding by rubbing a bully's face on concrete if they are pushed too far. Eventually normal people won't run into a brick wall twice, unless they have a death wish. Haters get a taste of their own medicine.

 

[Cynic]

For every bully out there, there are equally the same amount of quiet people

If only that were true.

 

[LycraPantiies92]

If only that were true.

How do you know it's not...well probably isn't rite enuf ::

xx

 

[Septor]

A lot of the time those haters are more insecure then the people they are bullying,it's just that a lot of them have in some since dealt with it in a more socially acceptable way.Socialy acceptable, meaning in a very hostile and aggressive way,which in some parts of our culture is look up on.

Unfortunately there not much you can do about them.Asses are everywhere.You just have to work on your self and your selfesteem so they cant hit you.Of course,that the hard part.I still have a lot of trouble with that.

 

[Birdman]

OMG i hate haters, they are everywhere. Ive started trying to make friends that are not haters. When i do encounter with these hater people i just like to piss them off because if you listen to them and let them put you down then you are falling into their trap, and im no fool!

 

[Fighter86]

I think when haters bully people, they generally spot targets that are easy to busy. For example, if you are well liked, then they have no choice but to pretend to like you as well. It brings to mind one case- there is this one girl in my work place, I personally find her quite pleasant, except that sometimes when she talks, its sort of incoherent and she says stuff out of the blue that is totally irrelevant to what we were chatting about. Just because of this, people gossip crazily about her and call her a psycho and lunatic! Can you believe this?? I think people are just plain jealous that she is young and attractive, because we work with quite a lot of fiercer older women, who obviously have issues with themselves.

 

[Sinar_Matahari]

I think when haters bully people, they generally spot targets that are easy to busy. For example, if you are well liked, then they have no choice but to pretend to like you as well.

Bullies are cowards. In my experience, they do seem to prey upon the easy targets.

It brings to mind one case- there is this one girl in my work place, I personally find her quite pleasant, except that sometimes when she talks, its sort of incoherent and she says stuff out of the blue that is totally irrelevant to what we were chatting about. Just because of this, people gossip crazily about her and call her a psycho and lunatic! Can you believe this?? I think people are just plain jealous that she is young and attractive, because we work with quite a lot of fiercer older women, who obviously have issues with themselves.

I've had to deal with those kinds of older women. They're bitter about their age and take it out on the young, pretty women. Many like to believe that they are better, smarter or more deserving than the younger women. The truth is they would not be hostile towards the younger women if they truly believed in their own superiority or if they had any true wisdom.

 

[TimArends]

I agree that truly hateful people will eventually get a taste of their own medicine throughout their life, because they will tick too many people off. It will always come back to bite them eventually. I used to think that truly nasty people were nasty to me only, because of my shyness, but I eventually realized that they can't help being nasty and they are going to eventually be nasty to everyone. The same things that tick me off about them will tick others off as well. They tend to have unhappy lives, and they bring much of the unhappiness on themselves.

 

[izzymarie]

You seem to have a pretty good handle on why haters are the way they are. Just remember, they gain their own confidence from picking apart others. They do this because on a subconcious level its not you they hate, its themselves. Next time someone is mean to you, no matter how mean they are don't take it to heart. Instead take pity on them because in reality they are even more insecure than you. I know.. easier said than done, but its definitely something to keep in mind.

 

[Rodney]

Yes I have trouble with haters.... because they are fricken everywhere! 2 days ago I ran into one at university and awkwardly said "hey." and walked away ... and my only "friend" said he went to a party last weekend and saw my ex best friend there and the ex best friend said yeah I know who you are from "my name" and then some one yelled out f**k "my name"..... who knows what happened after that they could have started talking about how I'm such a loser

 

[be_noticed]

i consider myself an easy target and im aware of it. but i honestly dont find my self caring what anyone says because soon or later they will be gone.

 

[agoraphobickatie]

haters can be a bit much sometimes.. i guess i've just gotten good at shutting out people who have those kinds of attitudes. it's not my problem.. there are plenty of people who are simply unhappy with any little thing they can think of and instead of handling it in a productive way, they force it upon others or just project it from themselves.. i don't really have time for those kinds of people. i'm here to live my life and help myself. worrying or getting angry about someone elses issues helps me in no way at all, so i just try to steer clear of them or disregard their negativity... it's kind of weird, almost like i have a filter in my head and most negative people just go into that little filter and get thrown right back out, they don't even cycle into my coherent thoughts... and if they are hating on you, you should tell them your welcome for keeping them employed and on their top game lol
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