Treated like you are stupid because of SA

mrbryan3

Member
Does anyone here ever feel like they are treated like a child or like they are mentally handicaped because of their social anxiety. I mean I'm 32 and because I don't catch on fast enough sometime I am treated that way. People learn at different rates its a fact of life.:mad:
 

redmatter

Well-known member
Yes, it's ruined my life. Trying to turn things around now, but they just get worse. If it was just paranoia at one time, it isn't anymore.
 

Quiet Angel

Well-known member
I know I'm not treated like a child/mentally handicapped but my illusions tell me otherwise. I assume others think the absolute worst of me but that's because I'm in a terrible mind trap that I must escape.

Do you truly believe others are treating you unfairly or is it all false thinking? The brain is both your best friend and worst enemy.
 

whatisis

Active member
No. From my experience people just get confused by it and have a hard time understanding the odd mannerisms.
 

NP88

Well-known member
I just dont understand people anymore. They talk about their lives, the weekend, their life when I have nothing to say. Its almost like I dont say anything because nothing anyone else says interests me. Now if someone would talk about something intellecual for once, maybe a good book they read or current polotics I would have a say. Too bad this never happens. The peoeple I envy are just shallows tools. I wish I could find a real role model, at least someone ordinary who understands life on a real level. This seems impossible in the shallow world we live in... :(
 

whatisis

Active member
Its almost like I dont say anything because nothing anyone else says interests me. Now if someone would talk about something intellecual for once, maybe a good book they read or current polotics I would have a say. Too bad this never happens.

Same here. Most people talk about bull**** nothing. I've found that most people are boring. Gray blobs if you will.
 

mikebird

Banned
We have a different perspective because of SA, and I generally see the others as weird, intolerant, refusing to accept anyone who might be slightly different from them. They're all sheep. They're all the same :mad:
 

Srijita52

Well-known member
Yeah,I'm treated like a stupid sometimes.But it only happens around loud-mouthed, intolerant people with superiority complex who don't try to understand SA.
 

omnighost

Well-known member
I just love it when your in the middle of having an anxiety attack, hearts beating quickly, sweat starts accumulating, mental alarms are blaring, trying to keep it together and stay calm and collected while trying to maintain a conversation and the person says something demeaning and suddenly the anxiety subsides for just a moment as frustration washes over and WTF! Is the first thing to come to mind.
 

ScaredToBreathe

Well-known member
yea people have called me dumb or an idiot before because i don't talk much so to them it seems like i don't know anything. and if im doing group work at school if the people in my group ask me if i have any ideas or what i think about something, they ask it as if they are talking to a toddler...
i think i'm actually fairly intelligent i get straight A's in school, and im also street-smart. im usually the top student in my English class every year. and when i have to peer-edit other students' work, it seems like im reading something written by someone half my age. heh and they think im dumb...
 

MaliceInWickedland

Well-known member
I feel like that the majority of the time. Sometimes I stutter of jumble up my words when I feel pressured or nervous as I speak and people tend to laugh or look at me weird when I do so. People also seem to enjoy pointing out the fact that I don't talk much and treat me like I'm braindead or something because of it.

The best example of that was during a good friend's birthday party that I attended sometime last year. I was sitting by myself, watching everyone have a good time while I sat there all alone and awkward like I always do at parties and gatherings of the like. Suddenly this random guy sat next to me and we got caught up in an awkward silence for a long and uncomfortable while. Just when it got to be unbearable, he tried to have some small talk with me and I wasn't really cooperating and giving mostly half-***ed replies because I felt really awkward and I didn't like the vibes I was getting from him. So after a while he got annoyed and said: "Damn, I feel like I'm talking to a zombie." I just stayed quiet and fumed inside of my head. I really felt like saying: "Can't you tell that I'm a shy girl and that you're making me feel very insecure and uncomfortable?", but obviously I didn't have the nerve to say it. Then he got up and said "Nice talking to you" very sarcastically.

People are just total a-holes. They put down whatever they don't understand.
 

MollyBeGood

Well-known member
yes, even my own mom acts like I am mentally retarded. I used to get teased a lot, and some jobs I have had a few evil a-holes were also cruel to me.:mad:
 

chibiXphantom

Well-known member
people treat me like im stupid a lot at work.
like a few days ago. i havent been working there very long and still don't completely know everything about a cash register. i accidently hit something wrong and i panicked...which led to me freezing up not knowing what to do and just standing there like a deer in headlights. the guy (a cop) who was waiting to pay sighed, obviously irritated. then he said in a rude way "what haven't you ever worked a cash register before?"...which made me freeze up more.
 

Nitro

Member
Happens to me quite a bit but I usually lash out at them these days because I'm so fed up with it. The worst ones are the people who make a sly comment insinuating that you are incapable of doing something and that they should do it for you. Why the f*** are you treating me like this? You think your better than me?? :mad:
 

Deus_Ex_Lemur

Well-known member
I have. More so in performance situations with lots of ppl. Which filmmaking is all about... one time I was recording sound, a recorder I never used, the guy showed me how to record and the process and all went in one ear and out the other, and I screwed it up, and okay, yeah do it again np - and I screwed it again - and again and one more time because by then I was white with nerves and embarrassment no way could function. And since that moment while on that short film I just felt stupid and ppl treated me like I was, or, avoided asking me to do much. Maybe much was in my head but yeah... not a good feeling.

When put on the spot I don't fair well, feel so stupid AND do stupid things doesn't help. Deer in the headlights indeedy.
 

FountainandFairfax

in a VAN down by the RIVER
No, people know I'm not stupid, but I do get those "So if you know no one is really paying attention to you then what's the problem?" comments from time to time. But that's another way of saying "The very first thought that should've occurred to you 20 years ago has never occurred to you?" Which is pretty much a way of saying that I'm stupid. Ha Ha
 
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