Hoppy
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Tell her if she gets a dog, you will get snakes. They make for nice pets.
Or maybe a tarantula of two.
But then I won't come visiting.
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Tell her if she gets a dog, you will get snakes. They make for nice pets.
Or maybe a tarantula of two.
But then I won't come visiting.
You're welcome here any time, dude. She's over the 'wanting a dog' thing now, thankfully.
So we found out today that our youngest son has a hole in his heart. The doctor said "nine times out of ten, these things heal themselves and the child is fine" to which I said "alright, doc but ..... what about the tenth time out of ten? what then?"... I didn't get a reply. So I'm scared. The wife's scared. I cried while driving to work. I haven't cried in, well, since last summer when I had to put my dog down and I'd had him for 10 years, since he was just old enough to leave his mother. Eventually I had to pull over on the side of the highway and throw up, but nothing came up. I got to work and had to wear blacked out safety glasses so nobody would see that I had been crying. Luckily I didn't have to be around anybody else while I was there. I never talk to co workers but today I really didn't want human interaction. See, when I get news like that I don't know how to channel my feelings correctly so I get violent urges. Like an immature boy, I punch and kick objects. All day I wanted to put my fists through windows and kick dents in machinery to vent feelings. I've been this way ever since I can remember. Today I fought back urges all day to do this stuff and I think it's passed by now. I'm still sick and nervous and scared for my baby. All the "what if's" are keeping me awake. The baby is sleeping, well, like a baby. He's the happiest child I've ever seen, best behaved one too. I came home from work and held him until my arms went numb and I thought I was going to drop him. I didn't know much else to do really.
Don't feel silly. I have three kids so I reckon I get confusing, I have a daughter and 2 sons
I appreciate your support.
TreeBones
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Don't feel silly. I have three kids so I reckon I get confusing, I have a daughter and 2 sons
I'll be sure to remember that now
4 days of work and I'll be on vacation for 10 days. My yearly summer vacation. I'd rather be at work. We won't be going anywhere and I'm ready to shoot my sex life in the face. Same old stuff for the last decade with the same chick. She...will...not...try....new....things...! :kickingmyself: Then she wonders why I'm not psyched at the thought of sex anymore. Hmm wonder why? I try. I really try. "Hey, lets do this or hey lets try that, huh?" And I get "no. that's weird." Or "what's... wrong... with... you...?" I try to think positive and tell myself she'll come around to stuff.... well that's a big NEGATIVE, Ghostrider! And it's not weird stuff, it's stuff that "normal" couples do and I've done with a bunch of women but unless it's the same all the time we're not trying it. I've never told her I've done this stuff before we were together, obviously. I don't know what her deal is. Granted she hadn't ever been with anybody when we got together but I've tried my best to teach her stuff and if it's not just the bare basics she refuses to even give it a try. I've tried bribing her even! "Hey baby, if you try this with me, I'll do the dishes all weekend AND buy you whatever you want..." Still a no-go. I still have a great sex drive, better than ever in fact. It's just that needs ain't being met. I've been patient and understanding and I've took my time and been sensitive to needs and all that due to her inexperience but now lets fast-forward 10 years and change gears, so to speak. I've talked and explained till I'm sick of it. I'm at my wits end with the situation. I've even told her to call her friends and ask them if they do that stuff, she got mad and was like "I'm not asking them that! What's wrong with you?!" And she thinks I'm some kinda freak or somethin, just for wanting normal stuff! Good Grief!!! All I can do is dream on. Anybody know where I need to go from here? Any advice? THIS IS A CRY FOR HELP! :crying:
BlueDays
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I am not qualified to give advice on this topic as I have only had one intimate partner, ever. :blushing:
But, have you actually asked her WHY she thinks....."no, that's weird"???? or why she responded with ""what's... wrong... with... you...?" :idontknow:
There is a reason WHY she is responding to your suggestions that way, and until you can find out the reasons, you won't get anywhere.
It's kind of like someone telling an overweight person to "just try dieting". That won't work unless you find out the reasons why they are over-eating and deal with it. No amount of dieting will work in the long run, without first addressing the issue causing it.
You need to find out the reasons from your wife so you can both then work on them. Maybe some couple counselling may be needed?
Disclaimer: I apologize in advance if the above was absolutely no help at all. :blushing:
But, have you actually asked her WHY she thinks....."no, that's weird"???? or why she responded with ""what's... wrong... with... you...?" :idontknow:
There is a reason WHY she is responding to your suggestions that way, and until you can find out the reasons, you won't get anywhere.
It's kind of like someone telling an overweight person to "just try dieting". That won't work unless you find out the reasons why they are over-eating and deal with it. No amount of dieting will work in the long run, without first addressing the issue causing it.
You need to find out the reasons from your wife so you can both then work on them. Maybe some couple counselling may be needed?
Disclaimer: I apologize in advance if the above was absolutely no help at all. :blushing:
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^^ Ya know. I have but i don't remember what she said. Maybe i should ask again and i might figure something out. I do appreciate your input. Nothing at all wrong with just having one so your smiley face shouldnt be blushing. I shouldnt complain because i do get it whenever i ask for it but its just the same every time is all. Every time it happens exactly the same as it always has. The ironic thing is that the stuff i wanna do ain't for my enjoyment, its for hers.
My step dad's dad died today. I called my youngest brother and left him a voicemail. That was rough. I never know what to say at times like this. The old man was a good dude. I hate it for my little brother as it was his biological grandfather. He's the only one of that bunch I'm not mad at. Poor kid.
Well I got the low-down, mangy critter that's been killing the rabbits that live on my land. I was going to bed right at first light and I seen it creepin around my shed in the back yard where I keep my lawn mowers parked. So I crept out the back door with my shotgun, in my boxers and my house shoes. I bet I was an odd sight to behold ha ha. Well, that thing ain't gonna be killin' my rabbits no more. It's gone now. I walked back in the bedroom and put my shotgun up and went to sleep. Newborn babies don't sleep as good as I did.
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So today I push mowed the whole front yard and most of the back yard, that is to say I didn't use my riding lawnmower. I felt like the exercise. I finally got tired and used the riding mower for the rest of it. But that was still a bit over an acre and a half that I used the push mower on. That felt really good. Even with the heat and the humidity I enjoyed it quite a bit. By the time I was done I had downed two Gatorades and drank God knows how much water from my garden hose. Nothin' quite makes me feel more like a man than working and sweating with the sun on my back, and it was on my back. I was shirtless all day. It was awesome! I'm good and red but not burned. By Monday morning I'll have a tan that my wife would kill for just from doing that today. I also cleaned out the garage and took the water hose to the front porch and the concrete around the front of the garage. Totally cleaned the concrete up real pretty like. I was so dirty by the time I was done the wife put me a bucket of water and a bar of soap on the back steps to clean up with before I went inside to shower. All in all it was a good day.
P.S. Oh yeah, remember them sweat-wicking boxers I mentioned a while back? They're totally wicked for working outside on hot & humid days! Definitely buying more of those real soon! :thumbup:
P.S. Oh yeah, remember them sweat-wicking boxers I mentioned a while back? They're totally wicked for working outside on hot & humid days! Definitely buying more of those real soon! :thumbup:
Hoppy
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Is it also in your freezer now? :bigsmile:
Washing before you can go to the shower sums it up really.
"What is the difference between a white collar worker and a blue collar worker?
A blue collar worker has to wash his hands before he can go to the toilet."
Exactly right, Hoppy ha ha ha. I was pretty dirty after all that. She didn't want me dragging it inside the house and I didn't either to be honest. Nope, that critter's laying off in the woods.
It's raining here. Again. For the third time in 12 hours! I got up early and sealed some cracks in the concrete in front of the garage and I came in to clean up and change clothes and it started storming. Like wind and rain and lightning and the whole bit. We got two rocking chairs to go on the front porch and some nice cushions to go with them so I've set outside a lot in the last few days. It's funny to stare at the neighbors like they do me. I've been enjoying settin out there with a nice drink and watching the rain. Not much better to do. I whittled on a cedar stick for a while with my knife earlier. Whittled my daughter a ring out of wood. Settin on the porch. With a glass of whiskey. Telling the wife and daughter stories of things that happened before me and the wife were together. By sundown, I had my daughter on my knee and the wife was looking at me, watching me whittle with our two boys on her lap. When the older two kids would go play for a bit I'd take a few gulps from my glass. Kinda feel like an old man. Settin around drinkin and tellin stories. Wow. By the time we came inside for dinner I was a bit tipsy and had a pile of wood shavings on the porch. She made some seasoned pork chops. They were awesome. Then we watched a movie. I'm loving being off from work. Tomorrow we're going to an Amish market thingy. That'll be interesting. Taking my grandparents with us. They stopped by the other day while I was out on the porch whittling and drinking. They seen my bottle of Jack Daniels on the little table next to my rocking chair. Kind of an odd thing. He knows I drink but they ain't ever showed up while I was in the act of. Oh well. :shyness:
Today we went to the farmer's market and got a bunch of fresh produce and oddities that are hard to find in a grocery store here. I got some nice Hungarian peppers and some pickled okra. I love pickled okra. Give me a pint jar of pickled okra is like settin loose a fox in a hen house. :bigsmile: I reckon tomorrow I'm taking the wife and the kids and a neighbor kid up to the mountains to see the waterfall. It's a short hike to it but it'll be fun.