Things I want to change about myself

[lilmutegirl]

I know this sounds really negative, but I think that identifying things that I don't like/want to change about myself is a good step to changing those things.
I'm sure I will add to this list as time goes on. I'm always coming up with more I want to change about myself. Unfortunately, while I can identify these qualities, I am having serious trouble altering my behavior/thoughts.

-I live in the past (both good and bad). I re-live good things and change the bad in my imagination.
-I am very disorganized (both with my material possessions and with my thoughts. I think if I can change this, I'll feel a lot better).
-I get discouraged very easily.
-I am very angry and anxious most of the time. I'd like to be more peaceful.
-I over-think things and tend to not take any action when I should.
-I also feel like I'm really selfish. Even though I apologize a lot to other people, and hate to inconvenience them, I do/feel this way because it makes ME uncomfortable.
-I feel like a bad parent because I can hardly take care of my own kid, and I don't constantly want to be directly interacting with him.

 

[Srijita52]

-I live in the past (both good and bad). I re-live good things and change the bad in my imagination.
-I am very disorganized (both with my material possessions and with my thoughts. I think if I can change this, I'll feel a lot better).
-I get discouraged very easily.
-I am very angry and anxious most of the time. I'd like to be more peaceful.
-I over-think things and tend to not take any action when I should.

I need to change these too. Good luck!
Actually its okay to put your needs first, it doesn't make you selfish. And same goes for your kid, you do love him but its okay if you don't constantly want to interect with him, you need to take care of yourself too so you can better care of him.

 

[MikeyC]

Unfortunately, while I can identify these qualities, I am having serious trouble altering my behavior/thoughts.

Yeah, this is me, too. I can't really change my thought processes but I know what I should be doing. I'm sorry you're going through this.

-I get discouraged very easily.

I have an enormous problem with this myself. It's defeating, isn't it?

 

[Falkor]

I know this sounds really negative, but I think that identifying things that I don't like/want to change about myself is a good step to changing those things.

I don't think it's negative per se. You want to change things, instead of hanging in the same crap. You want to improve yourself and see yourself personally developing, and that's what I admire!

Though be careful, don't become like me, that you are resisting against the problems you're facing, there must be a part of acceptance inbetween. Damn, it's so hard to accept Social Phobia and things I'm worried about.

I'm sure I will add to this list as time goes on. I'm always coming up with more I want to change about myself.

I think you need to take ''Step by Step'' first you pick the first thing you mentioned , afterwards you pick the second one. You should allow yourself to be peaceful and not in a rush constantly, I guess you're suffering from that as well, Like I always do. hehe. I would suggest you reading the power of now. or be more aware of what you do have and do for good ''right now'' .

-I live in the past (both good and bad). I re-live good things and change the bad in my imagination.

The past is dead, it doesn't matter. You can't change it, you are also dreaming of the past as a different approach, and the impossible future, I think you should NOT run away from your own life, since that's what you're doing. Try to see it the way it is. And from there, you can look closer to your problems (helleuuu acceptance) and you need to take action to change everything you want, it's all possible, but don't have too high expectations, you know you have problems, so take it easy on yourself. Give yourself a break.

-I am very disorganized (both with my material possessions and with my thoughts. I think if I can change this, I'll feel a lot better).

I can so relate to this. Maybe you can ask someone to help, with the material possessions, it's never wrong to ask for help. And with thoughts, do you have a therapist?

I guess you're having a hard time on figuring out what you need in life, what you have to do to solve things, what you have to do to understand yourself, I know that's hard. Just give yourself time on figuring things out, no need to know it in one snap, you just have to make sure you'll make the right choices in this presence. And you know what helps me? To write down the facts, instead of all the emotional things. Just write down what you don't like, what you do like, and you can better look at things. WITHOUT emotions.

Good luck.

 

[lilmutegirl]

-I need to get control of my finances. Unfortunately, at the moment, I'm at the whim of my son's schedule/other people's willingness and ability to babysit him. My checking account is negative and I'm behind on my bills in large part due to the fact that I paid for my kid to go to a daycare for a week (it is an hourly rate daycare that I use as a last resort). The reason I took him there was because my bf was really stressed and I didn't want to add to his stress by making him watch my kid (he usually watches my son while I'm working, and he is under no obligation to, since he's not his kid). This was two weeks ago. Last week, he was still really stressed, so I only worked two days. My next check will be really small because of this. I had my summer finances all planned out, and if things had gone as I planned, I'd actually be ahead (bills paid and a little extra money). Now, I'm really stressed as a result. I don't feel like I should blame my bf. He's been really good to us, and I appreciate him babysitting for free.

 

[Gidi]

I'd change my shyness I hate it...everything else I like.....I been through good and bad times and I don't wanna change them because I believe they will somehow turn me into a better man

 

[Graeme1988]

-I live in the past (both good and bad). I re-live good things and change the bad in my imagination.
-I am very disorganized (both with my material possessions and with my thoughts. I think if I can change this, I'll feel a lot better).
-I get discouraged very easily.
-I am very angry and anxious most of the time. I'd like to be more peaceful.
-I over-think things and tend to not take any action when I should.
-I also feel like I'm really selfish. Even though I apologize a lot to other people, and hate to inconvenience them, I do/feel this way because it makes ME uncomfortable.

I need to change these thing about myself as well.

 

[SocialMT]

i changed by making an alter ego for myself, sort of a split personality, and i play with that. he is cold and goal focused, a machine of organization and is not a complainer.

 

[girlinterupted]

I think its a great start to self improving. You need to identify those things that are making you unhappy.

 

[polishgirl]

-stop acting stupider than I am
-change everything about my personality; I literally hate the way I act
-focus on my studies more
-STOP being scared of any close relationships (like that's easy to do haha)
-live in the moment

 

[Bustn Justin]

I need to do the same too. Was close to starting my own thread btw.

 

[lilmutegirl]

-stop acting stupider than I am
-change everything about my personality; I literally hate the way I act
-focus on my studies more
-STOP being scared of any close relationships (like that's easy to do haha)
-live in the moment

I feel the same, except maybe the second one. I don't hate EVERYTHING about my personality.
Living in the moment can be really hard, I've noticed.

 

[Srijita52]

Living in the moment can be really hard, I've noticed.

I agree with this.

 

[MikeyC]

-change everything about my personality; I literally hate the way I act

This is not like changing brands of socks!

Why do you hate your personality so much? What do you feel like you're doing wrong?

 

[Fade To Black]

My full list would probably occupy a couple of pages to be honest. To be concise: I want to experience happiness and fulfilment personally and share memorable moments with others.

 

[lilmutegirl]

-I want to change my daily habits also. I need to become more healthy. This is very difficult, as I don't have a lot of money and unhealthy food is cheaper than healthy stuff. Also, it's hard to for me to motivate myself to get off the computer and exercise. I want to change these things basically for two reasons: 1) I figure I'll feel better if I have better habits, and 2) I need to make sure my son lives a healthy life.
As hard as it is to do things that are only occasional, I think the little things that we do on a daily basis are harder to change. Even if I do something for a week, it's easy to slip back into bad habits.

 

[JRT]

I wish i wasn't so damn passive

I wish i could stand up for myself and speak out.

I wish i wasn't such a cry baby .

I really need to stop fretting about the future and just enjoy day to day stuff.

 

[MikeyC]

^ Frasier for the win.

Anyway, there's a few things I want to change. Implementing those changes are difficult sometimes, though.

 

[wariomona]

I wish I could change my inability to change

 

[Naddy]

I wish I wasn't so shy.

I wish I wasn't such a pessimist.

I wish I could stop worrying about every little thing in my life.

I wish I could like things that are normal to the people around me so I didn't have to hide it.

I wish I had confidence.

I wish I could stop analyzing people.

I wish I could not worry about what people think about me.

I wish I could stop thinking everyone's judging me at all times.

(Sorry for the long post...)