OceanMist
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Hey, I just was thinking about a party I had been to about 6 years ago. I know, it was a while ago, but something that happened there just resinated with me and told me a lot about what a shy guy has to go through.
Anyway, I was at this party and was walking around scouting everyone and saw an open recliner chair so I decided to take a break as I'm not a big social person and then in my viewpoint I see a decent looking blonde right across from me sitting down and she literally waves at me and says "hi."
Like many other people, not just men, would assume, I figured she wanted to talk to me. I did not know her, and figured either she was hitting on me or just wanted to talk to me for whatever reason. I walk up to her and state my name and ask what her name is, and she immediately says "Oh no, I'm sorry, I didn't want to talk to you, ugh."
I ask, then why did why did you wave at me? She says that she just wanted to say hi because I'm (as in me) shy....and that's it.
Then of course there is a long pause, I'm like, um ok?
I just wanted to say that is the story of a shy man's life. Just at the moment we think a woman finally wants to talk to us, to show a genuine interest in us, she's just using us to feel better about herself.
Let's face it, that's all that woman wanted to do was feel better about herself by giving the shy guy a second of attention and then move on to talking to more social people, which is exactly what she did. She fondled her way on to talking to another guy that was more outgoing while they both just laughed at me, and I kind of just sat there feeling bad about myself.
Most other times it was just silence and people ignoring me.
I just don't understand it. Why would anyone, man or woman for that matter, do that? It's so shallow, conceited and self serving.
I just thought it was funny because it's the story of my life. A woman I might actually be interested in just toys with me and then wants nothing to do with me when I actually have the courage to show attention in her. This isn't the first time this has happened. I've been on dates with two women I've been attracted to and both were first dates that never became second dates because the woman just ended it with me.
It gets to a point where I look at myself and don't see anything substantially wrong with me. It gets to a point where I start asking, what is so great about these other men? That's the question that keeps coming up for me lately.
What do these guys bring to the table that is so much better than me? The only things I can think of are social status and money? Are these women really that shallow? They don't care about my character? It's all about status and money?
Sorry if I offended anyone, this is just a vent. I'm also trying to figure out why women that are attractive never are interested in me.
Anyway, I was at this party and was walking around scouting everyone and saw an open recliner chair so I decided to take a break as I'm not a big social person and then in my viewpoint I see a decent looking blonde right across from me sitting down and she literally waves at me and says "hi."
Like many other people, not just men, would assume, I figured she wanted to talk to me. I did not know her, and figured either she was hitting on me or just wanted to talk to me for whatever reason. I walk up to her and state my name and ask what her name is, and she immediately says "Oh no, I'm sorry, I didn't want to talk to you, ugh."
I ask, then why did why did you wave at me? She says that she just wanted to say hi because I'm (as in me) shy....and that's it.
Then of course there is a long pause, I'm like, um ok?
I just wanted to say that is the story of a shy man's life. Just at the moment we think a woman finally wants to talk to us, to show a genuine interest in us, she's just using us to feel better about herself.
Let's face it, that's all that woman wanted to do was feel better about herself by giving the shy guy a second of attention and then move on to talking to more social people, which is exactly what she did. She fondled her way on to talking to another guy that was more outgoing while they both just laughed at me, and I kind of just sat there feeling bad about myself.
Most other times it was just silence and people ignoring me.
I just don't understand it. Why would anyone, man or woman for that matter, do that? It's so shallow, conceited and self serving.
I just thought it was funny because it's the story of my life. A woman I might actually be interested in just toys with me and then wants nothing to do with me when I actually have the courage to show attention in her. This isn't the first time this has happened. I've been on dates with two women I've been attracted to and both were first dates that never became second dates because the woman just ended it with me.
It gets to a point where I look at myself and don't see anything substantially wrong with me. It gets to a point where I start asking, what is so great about these other men? That's the question that keeps coming up for me lately.
What do these guys bring to the table that is so much better than me? The only things I can think of are social status and money? Are these women really that shallow? They don't care about my character? It's all about status and money?
Sorry if I offended anyone, this is just a vent. I'm also trying to figure out why women that are attractive never are interested in me.
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