The negative thread

[KiaKaha]

I wonder if you could give me some examples of what "selfish" means to you? I guess there were many cases when people were hungry so they killed and ate their neighbors, do you think in extreme situation most people would do that? I think there are still many good people who show bravery for example when there was the Concordia accident, they help save others first.

In respect to what is fair and what it isn't. I know that human kindness still exists - especially in bold dramatic situations like the Concordia disaster.
Like - managers and corporate executives giving themselves pay rises while their employees take pay cuts. Usually in cases where people in power self congratulate themselves with perks while the people who actually make them what they are get nothing.
But it's not just that - it's the lack of awareness for the environment outside of their personal world that seems to me at least - that people just dont really care. You see a homeless guy collapsed on the street and hour after hour you see people walk past him - completely unconcerned... too busy wrapped up about what they are going to have for lunch or whatever.

It's far too late for me to be ranting. I am a bit tired.

 

[MikeyC]

Like - managers and corporate executives giving themselves pay rises while their employees take pay cuts. Usually in cases where people in power self congratulate themselves with perks while the people who actually make them what they are get nothing.

This in particular gets under my skin, I must admit.

 

[Lea]

What I think is the worst is the whole animal killing and abuse business in our society. That´s the most horrible and selfish thing that can exist.

 

[Srijita52]

What I think is the worst is the whole animal killing and abuse business in our society. That´s the most horrible and selfish thing that can exist.

I agree....

 

[Gaucho]

gonna see my dad and half brother today, but i don't want to. they are nice to me but still have this fking SA. i just want to live a calm life!!

 

[KiaKaha]

I am amazed at how much appearance plays a part in how one responds to you and makes you feel. I have been chatting to a woman for the last hour. Full of confidence and being my natural self. I had no idea what she looked like - then she shows me a photo and she is a very attractive maori woman... far more so than what I feel my "league" is.

Now I feel insecure, and I see her in a different way. I no longer feel that I am someone she would want to speak with and my confidence is crumbling. It has changed the stakes. I shouldnt of asked for a photo. Being in the dark was better I think.

Lame huh?

 

[MikeyC]

I am amazed at how much appearance plays a part in how one responds to you and makes you feel. I have been chatting to a woman for the last hour. Full of confidence and being my natural self. I had no idea what she looked like - then she shows me a photo and she is a very attractive maori woman... far more so than what I feel my "league" is.

Now I feel insecure, and I see her in a different way. I no longer feel that I am someone she would want to speak with and my confidence is crumbling. It has changed the stakes. I shouldnt of asked for a photo. Being in the dark was better I think.

Lame huh?

You were talking with her for a whole hour without a problem. Hopefully the way you act around her won't change simply because you've found out she's attractive.

 

[Srijita52]

gonna see my dad and half brother today, but i don't want to. they are nice to me but still have this fking SA. i just want to live a calm life!!

Good luck.
I'm sorry Kia, I understand how you feel. But what if she's 'attractive' she's still the same girl.

 

[1BlackSheep]

I am amazed at how much appearance plays a part in how one responds to you and makes you feel. I have been chatting to a woman for the last hour. Full of confidence and being my natural self. I had no idea what she looked like - then she shows me a photo and she is a very attractive maori woman... far more so than what I feel my "league" is.

Now I feel insecure, and I see her in a different way. I no longer feel that I am someone she would want to speak with and my confidence is crumbling. It has changed the stakes. I shouldnt of asked for a photo. Being in the dark was better I think.

Lame huh?

I swear, you are my brother from another mother! Our minds think exactly alike! Sucks, doesn't it? ::

 

[Graeme1988]

Why... why must I do everything for my oldest sister when it comes to her laptop? But I can't say "No", I seem incapable of doing so, stupid c*#t that I am.

"Oh, I'm a bit slow when comes tae downloading n' that" Aww... nae f*#kin' kidding, sis!. I mean, how difficult can it be tae download something? Really?! It's no fcukin' brain surgery or rocket science we're talking about here, is it? Are women really that thick when it comes to computers/laptops? In so much as, yer basically fuct, beyond knowing how tae try it on, send an email and use Facebook *

(* Sorry for the incredibly sexist generalisation there, ladies. I don't really think that. Just being sarcastic, no offense intended)

 

[coyote]

I am amazed at how much appearance plays a part in how one responds to you and makes you feel. I have been chatting to a woman for the last hour. Full of confidence and being my natural self. I had no idea what she looked like - then she shows me a photo and she is a very attractive maori woman... far more so than what I feel my "league" is.

Now I feel insecure, and I see her in a different way. I no longer feel that I am someone she would want to speak with and my confidence is crumbling. It has changed the stakes. I shouldnt of asked for a photo. Being in the dark was better I think.

Lame huh?

and yet nothing about HER actually changed

i think you're onto something

 

[KiaKaha]

and yet nothing about HER actually changed

i think you're onto something

Something DID change coyote - now she knows I find her attractive - or at the very least she now knows I know what she looks like, which means there is a new level of awareness. She hasn't changed as a person obviously - but the dynamics between us has.

That means shes gonna go all defensive and things on me. ALL IS LOST WE ARE ALL DOOMED.

 

[Silatuyok]

One of my foster kittens died last Thursday. It doesn't get much worse than that.

 

[MikeyC]

One of my foster kittens died last Thursday. It doesn't get much worse than that.

Oh, I'm so sorry, Marie. :: That is very sad.

 

[KiaKaha]

I think I got snapped by a speed camera. I was doing 70 when I should have been doing 50.
Have to pay a fine no doubt. Damn establishment....

I have a severe case of stickittodamaniosis.


It's not my fault - Personally I blame society.

 

[MikeyC]

I think I got snapped by a speed camera. I was doing 70 when I should have been doing 50.
Have to pay a fine no doubt. Damn establishment....

I have a severe case of stickittodamaniosis.


It's not my fault - Personally I blame society.

Uh, yeah, you will have to pay a fine and you will lose demerit points. Sorry. I got snapped by one where I was going 100 in an 80 zone. That was back in 2009 and my points still haven't come back. Hopefully your fine is not too bad.

Since I'm in the negative thread: I really need to change my thought processes. They are literally going to be the death of me if I don't.

 

[KiaKaha]

Uh, yeah, you will have to pay a fine and you will lose demerit points. Sorry. I got snapped by one where I was going 100 in an 80 zone. That was back in 2009 and my points still haven't come back. Hopefully your fine is not too bad.

Since I'm in the negative thread: I really need to change my thought processes. They are literally going to be the death of me if I don't.

Yeah. I wasn't concentrating on the speed limit - I was more preoccupied with overtaking the truck that was in front of me.

That doesnt sound good Mikey - for someone who is so seemingly happy and so thoughtful to responding to others needs you wouldn't think it. I hope you have some way to express yourself and take care of what you need also. I know it's easier said than done - but I hope before you get to that stage you can find peace with your thoughts.
Dont hurt yourself man.

 

[Srijita52]

Since I'm in the negative thread: I really need to change my thought processes. They are literally going to be the death of me if I don't.

Me too, I hope you can do it Mikey. Stay strong.

 

[Hoppy]

It's not my fault - Personally I blame society.

'Killed By The System' sketch - A Bit Of Fry And Laurie - YouTube

 

[MikeyC]

Yeah. I wasn't concentrating on the speed limit - I was more preoccupied with overtaking the truck that was in front of me.

That doesnt sound good Mikey - for someone who is so seemingly happy and so thoughtful to responding to others needs you wouldn't think it. I hope you have some way to express yourself and take care of what you need also. I know it's easier said than done - but I hope before you get to that stage you can find peace with your thoughts.
Dont hurt yourself man.

Me too, I hope you can do it Mikey. Stay strong.

There's a storm going on in my mind all the time that I don't always let out here. A possible thread I could start (I'm scared of starting threads, though :. But thanks to the both of you. It's a fight and there's no leader yet but I'm still fighting.

Kia: best to be aware of those trucks so they don't slam into you!