Speed dating on Friday! :o
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EscapeArtist
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Wow!! Nice going!
WOW!! 
Told you, you ROCK!! haha..
Okay, just take it easy.. you are now just discovering whether you are at all compatible with any of these lovely young ladies... This can be done slowly.. so just consider going for drinks/coffee or tea maybe or something 'easy', maybe for a walk.. you don't even have to call it anything more than a 'meet-up'? might be easier that way...
'Hey, wanna meet up for drinks/a cup of tea/coffee or something?'
Make sure you don't overpromise or overdeliver - you're just meeting, getting to know these girls.. something like half an hour to one or two hours will be enough, for first time.. (You can have a friend call you after half an hour or something, if you find out you really don't want to prolong it loner...)
Maybe it's good to know your values, what you're looking for, what you're not looking for at all.. and then maybe make up some 'tricky questions' (indirect) or just 'questions' to find out these things..
You wanna find out things like where she sees herself in a few years or such.. if you're looking for long-term (maybe not on first date, eventually though..) so you can see if you have compatibe goals and visions of a future lifestyle etc.
If she's just looking for a fling and you aren't (or if you are and she isn't!) things will go much differently than if you're both looking for the same..
If you don't think you're ready for anything serious/long-term now, just take it easy and take time to get to know them, maybe you'll find new friends or just people to hang out with, etc. It's important to be honest though, so if you find (in time, you can't know this now yet) that you'd not be interested in long-term, I think it's better to be honest.. just so you're both on the same page.. you're probably both/all seeing different people now, to meet and get to know, so just think of it as a 'slightly longer version' of the speed-dating event? (you could double date with a friend if he has any different matches? did he get any? ideally not if he'd outshine you too much though hehe, or if you'd outshine him too much either) just think of it as meeting interesting people and talking about interesting new things? Good luck!!
Told you, you ROCK!! haha..Okay, just take it easy.. you are now just discovering whether you are at all compatible with any of these lovely young ladies... This can be done slowly.. so just consider going for drinks/coffee or tea maybe or something 'easy', maybe for a walk.. you don't even have to call it anything more than a 'meet-up'? might be easier that way...
'Hey, wanna meet up for drinks/a cup of tea/coffee or something?'
Make sure you don't overpromise or overdeliver - you're just meeting, getting to know these girls.. something like half an hour to one or two hours will be enough, for first time.. (You can have a friend call you after half an hour or something, if you find out you really don't want to prolong it loner...)
Maybe it's good to know your values, what you're looking for, what you're not looking for at all.. and then maybe make up some 'tricky questions' (indirect) or just 'questions' to find out these things..
You wanna find out things like where she sees herself in a few years or such.. if you're looking for long-term (maybe not on first date, eventually though..) so you can see if you have compatibe goals and visions of a future lifestyle etc.
If she's just looking for a fling and you aren't (or if you are and she isn't!) things will go much differently than if you're both looking for the same..
If you don't think you're ready for anything serious/long-term now, just take it easy and take time to get to know them, maybe you'll find new friends or just people to hang out with, etc. It's important to be honest though, so if you find (in time, you can't know this now yet) that you'd not be interested in long-term, I think it's better to be honest.. just so you're both on the same page.. you're probably both/all seeing different people now, to meet and get to know, so just think of it as a 'slightly longer version' of the speed-dating event? (you could double date with a friend if he has any different matches? did he get any? ideally not if he'd outshine you too much though hehe, or if you'd outshine him too much either
) just think of it as meeting interesting people and talking about interesting new things? Good luck!! 
mismeek
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ohhhh im sure you cant be THAT bad. I usually just end up saying something morbid or inapporpriate.. XD
JamesSmith
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You'd be surprised. When I am with someone I've never met before I usually literally don't know what to say and have nothing to say. Conversation is foreign to me even though I'm fluent in the English language.